How important is your mom to you?

Japan
March 24, 2009 11:10pm CST
Just recently my mom had a brain surgery that almost caused her life. Now she's recovering. Everytime I see her agonize in pain for her skull, I cry.. this is actually the first time that happened to me. We were far away and just recently reunited in Japan. I just realized she's very important to me and I even pray all the time at night only for her. This experience opened my eyes. What about you?
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@forslahiri (1042)
• India
25 Mar 09
Hi, My mom is 80.She is a symbol of sacrifice to me.Entire life she sacrificed.I feel at this age she should not only get.Get all comfort,satisfaction & Love for her rest of the days.She can still say the world is beautiful.My mom is my world.I not only Love her immensely,she is the source of my inspiration.She has influenced my Life,character,the value-system etc,I'll ever remain indebted to HER. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
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• Japan
25 Mar 09
Wow, i love your post that is why I rated you! Yes, you're right about that. I hate children who put their mothers in home for the aged. It's common here in Japan. I would think that no matter how good I am with my kid they would still put me in home for the aged anyways where i would feel abandoned and unloved. Care from our children makes us feel better, hugs from our kids takes our stresses away.Those hugs and care, we would need them specially when we get old.
@tcycharmy (102)
• United States
26 Mar 09
My mother is also very important to me. She does so much for me without asking for anything in return, that I just love her so much for it. It actually makes me want to do anything and everything for her, either to make her proud or to make her personally happy. Becasue of this it is very hard to see my mom in any kind of pain. My mom has always had back problems, so she is very good at hiding her physical pain, but about five years ago my sister had a serious, but disturbing, three year relationship with an alcohoic and an abuser. So not only were we in constant worry over her well being, but she had a son with him, so we were worried he would start abusing the boy. Seeing my mom in anguish over this, not really being able to help, because my sister is an adult, was one of the hardest things for me to deal with. She would try so hard to not show me how she was feeling, but all of a sudden she would just break out crying. The things I would do to try to appease her hurt made me realize how much I really loved her and appreciate everything she does for me.
• China
26 Mar 09
I cant agree with you more.Hoping everything goes well with ur mom and ur sister.
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
If there is any person that I could turn to, its my mom, she meant every thing to me, despite the fact that I am a full grown person now, I become what I am because she raised me decently and wonderfully. I live far away from my parents but every now and then I call or texted them. I am sorry for your mom as well and I hope she be well soon, I hope you could have a great moment together every now and then.
• Japan
25 Mar 09
That's sweet that you can still talk to your mom no matter where you are. Some kids who move out do not establish a good relationship with their mom coz they think it's awkward. I feel the same some time in my life but when times of sickness, I would always wanna be with her as much as possible, anyone in my family. I am sad about her situation and pains she's agonizing but I know we will see light in the end of this and this will build our spirit.
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
Mothers are the most important persons in the world. When I see my child looking at me and calling me mama I feel important. My mom is not just a mother to me but a friend as well. It's ironic that now that my parents are far away from us, I feel a lot closer to my mom. When they were here with us, some days pass that we don't even get to say hi to each other. But now that we're far apart from each other, everyday we go online to chat. I hope your mom gets well soon.
• Japan
25 Mar 09
I agree with you about distance making us long for our parents especially our mom. They are the ones who reared and gave birth to us. They took care of us when we were little and it's hard to find someone who do the same like mothers do. Actually they are irreplaceable. I wish my mom would be better soon so we could work out on our relationship better.
• China
25 Mar 09
She is significant to me although we can't see each other frequently.I work in another city far away from which my mother lived in.My mon once had Uterine Tumors and done a surgery four years ago.At that time,I was also worried about her and even cried.But I told myself to be strong,and in the end my mother was cured.So your mom will be rehabilitate in the end.Don't worry and take ease.
• Japan
25 Mar 09
The thing is right now, I am paying all her debts. I don't find it difficult but it's like help to her and being with her especially in this difficult situation. I am encouraged about what you said that she'd be find. I am hoping that as well. It hurts to see them ill. No sane child would curse their mom to ill. So I always pray for her recovery. Life can be complex sometimes, we bear children, they grow up, they move out and then leave us in the end.
• United States
25 Mar 09
My mom's mom just passed away, and her pain has been tremendous. I wonder what it will be like for me when my mom passes away. She is my best friend, I can tell her ANYTHING... And it is going to hurt so badly when she is gone. I can go to her for advice and she has known me for my entire life, so she has good perspective. Sometimes I'll make a decision against her will only to find out she was right all along. Who would have thought? LOL... I know no matter what happens though, when that time comes, my mother will be with me stronger than ever in spirit. Ugh, it makes me teary just thinking about it. You're lucky to have this eye opening experience while she is still alive.
• Japan
25 Mar 09
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Mother's knows best as they say. They only want the best for their kids. They already lived in the world years ahead of us so they know what are good and bad for their children. But of course as stubborn children, we tend to question their intentions. I feel for you and I can relate about it. I wasn't a good daughter as well but this difficult situation that we are in right now opened my eyes and I thank God coz I still have long time to be with my mom.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
25 Mar 09
It is very unfortunate, but true that distance seems to reduce the bonds between family members, not the other way. When we are away from our mother, with our families, they become everything to us, and parents get neglected. Our biggest mistake. Im really sorry for your mum and h ope she gets well soon. Mothers are the best thing that happened in this world. We should never forget the sacrifices and love she bestowed upon us in our childhood and even today. If you have a mother, cherish her with care, For you'll only know her value, when you see her empty chair.
• Japan
25 Mar 09
When you get too excited about a lot of things happening in your life, you tend to be so busy and your priorities are shifted. These are times that you neglect your roots like our parents but they are actually there for us anytime anyday. There are bad and good families but mothers are always good at her children. I am a mother myself and even if my kid becomes a little out of hand I still love him no matter what because he's from me. I forgot I also had that same bond from my own mom. Just because I had my own kid now doesn't mean i shouldn't have forgotten about my mom.
@Amber4106 (540)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I love my mother very much, and only wish that I got to see her more often. We don't really live that far away from each other, but she doesn't make it out here very often, and I try to keep from taking my daughter out in the weather as much as possible. I've always respected my mother, but now that I myself am a mom, I have so much more respect for her. I now know what it feels like to worry 24/7 about another human being and try to do my best for them. My mom is my hero, and I only hope that she knows how much I love her.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I can happily say that my mother not only is my friend, the best mom any girl could have, and is a wonderful person who is the kind that usually goes unnoticed except for those who know what a lovely lady is all about. SHe has always been my hero. She has such a silent strength and perseverance that could astound many. And this is why I make sure I am very close with her. Even though I knew these things already when I was growing up it wasn't until she had her heart surgery that also almost took her life when I grew up overnight. GOD BLESS THE GOOD MOMS.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
25 Mar 09
My Mom means the world to me and if she needed me for anything,I would find a way to be there. I feel the same about my Dad and my brothers too. Family is irreplaceable. I may be married and have a family to care for every day, but they are family too, and frankly, I would be completely lost without any of them.
• Japan
25 Mar 09
I think I understand what you said about feeling lost without them. It's awesome that even if you move away from your house and start a new life you'd still look back and say Oh my family are just there..and you feel secure coz they are the people you feel very connected to and there's no one in the world that would stick with you forever but your family.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
25 Mar 09
My mom really important to me too. She has recently had a surgery in China, and she recovered from it. Fortunately, she is okay now. I called her every week, to make sure everything is okay with her.
• China
26 Mar 09
Yeah I almost have the same experience.Last year my mom was likely to have carcinoma of colon.Fortunately doctor examined her carefully and found nth is wrong with her.I felt greatly relieved when my dad told me the good news.At that moment I realized that though her constant chatter sometimes annoying,she plays a really important role in my life.I am considering of having a job in my hometown and spend more time with my parents.
• United States
25 Mar 09
My mother means everything to me. Besides God she is all I have in this world. She is my bestfriend, sister and mother all rolled up into one person. She is currently suffering with kidney dialysis and I see some of the pain that she has to go through after she gets off the machine. Sometimes it makes me want to cry because I know that at one time she use to be so outgoing and now to know that she has limits on her really makes me appreciate life more than what I have done. All I can say is enjoy and appreciate the times that you have left with your parents. In 2006 I lost my father unexpectedly just out of the blue and it still seems like its a big empty hole there. I love my mother with all my heart and will forever cherish the moments that we have together. Gracemanotoc I hope and pray that your mother will continue to recover and that God will keep her forever in his arms.
@trina48D (88)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I never reealized or maybe acknowledged how important my mom was to me. We would talk and share a little but mostly surface stuff. When the relationship began to grow and I began to feel comfortable talking with her about anything, she began losing her ability to talk to me. They say she has Alzhiemers but that was 10 years ago. She still remembers everything, including that she can't remember. That is the most painful to watch. Knowing you have something to say but not being able to voice it. She forgets what the words are. She taught school until she was unable to. She was the most talented person I ever knew. She sang, carved wood, drew and just created. Now she yearns for the ability to complete a thought. I continually pray for her. I love her and miss her very much. Time is short, sometimes shorter than we think. Take advantage of today.
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
My mom is my hero. I admire her so much for being a good role model for us and being such a strong person specially when my father past away. She insist and implies good moral to us. I get my strength from her.
@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
how important my mom is in my life...i'll die without her. she had raced and was molded beautifully by her. she nurture, took good care of me when i was still less than a year old. without her, perhaps i wouldn't be here at all typing this message. i was given birth with a congenital heart ailment but despite that she put up all her effort for me to live a regular life. i had been given twice the chance to live and that's all because of her, my mom. recently, last December, my fiance passed away. i couldn't bear what i am going through that time, that i texted my mom that i couldn't hold on anymore, that i can't live my life without my fiance...it was really a F*** S*** for me when my mom came to me crying and told me that she had devoted all her life just for me. that's when i realized that the thought of killing myself from my lost is just like degrading myself and making myself so weak in front of my mom. so for my mom, she is the greatest mom i could ever had, and i am very thankful that she is mom. and i couldn't ask for more.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
25 Mar 09
My mom is very important to me. She was always there for me. She helped me through rough times. She coached me through labor. I know if I could ever help my mom with anything i would. I know that she may not always be here so i make the best of what time we do share. My moms health is very poor and thats one of the reasons why i cherish what time we do have because i never know what her health can and possibly will do to her.
@HelloMickey (1655)
• Hong Kong
25 Mar 09
My mum is one of my most important person in the world. I love her so much and can do everything for her. I have suffered from anxiety disorder for 2 years, I recovered from the support of hers, she is my strength. Whenever I feel sick, I will remember how strong is my mother that she has cared for me for over 30 years and never says a word, no complains, then I would hold on and sit tight, I will then find my strength!
@myskysky (38)
• China
25 Mar 09
Even though i haven't experienced such thing like you i know the love betweeen my parents and me is the most eternal in one's life.My mom had gave me all her devotion and i have no reason to be rude to her,to be indifferent to her.Good wishes to mothers in the world.We,all the children,send our appreciation to our mothers!
• United States
25 Mar 09
Be happy you still have her in your life. I lost my mom in 1996. She was my very best friend, I love her so much & miss her with all my heart & soul. I am envy of you for you still have your mom, so thank God everyday for the greatest gift you will ever receive is your mom & without her there could be no you. God Bless you & your mom.