Are you possessive over specific people?

Yes we can be friends with different people and we always can sense what each person would appreciate once we get to know them.

Kala...I am not being possessive,but Dpk is just a good friend of mine,and what are you doing exchanging comments with him.....

Of course Ido agree that a person would get pleased, but when somehting is the other way round, and it is not too much to their liking then one must be able to take it in a mature way.Some adults also behave in this spoilt manner and then the trouble starts.

Yes I know exactly what you mean,dear...Well some people fail to grow up and remain childish in certain matters,especially when it omes to relationships,and that is when trouble starts..

I can get your meaning when you say that you have not faced such a situation so far.Similarly,I am also not possessive, but I have seen a person in close quarters [ a person who is possessive to the extent of hurting another ];but I used to get boiling mad at unfairness and injustice [so much so that during a discussion at home about the Bajaj feud I said something so vehemently that my husband remarked at once'I'll immediately telephone that business family and let them know that there is no longer any need to worry; here is a Daniel come to judgement and she would give the verdict in the best manner because she knows what fairness and unfairness is, and how it should or should not be within a family." Of course I laughed and laughed at the way he said it so seriously though it was followed by'When would you ever stop upholding justice and being impractical?'

By that I mean that my parents are very practical about everything they think and plan about us, three sisters. They have their property to emotion juxtaposed in the most balanced manner and no way you would feel that you are being left out! So, I never really felt the bad side of their being impartial or partial to us. And if they do, I do not think, I would get jealous. In fact, I want my stuffs to be distributed to them and that's from my childhood days. I am very much attached to my family yet have the least say regarding anything material. My mom worries a bit about this attitude. But if I get to meet my man ever, I do not know how things will turn out to be. Life is strange and some things you never know!

You are a lot like me when I was young.I sincerely pray that you ever remain the same and nevr get disillusioned or disappointed.But mimpi whenever you meet your man, you are likely to get attracted to a person who has simialr sense of values and so you may not have to worry too much.If you are not too worried about materialistic things it is all the better for you mimpi; that is a quality that makes an individual be at peace.God Bless!

Very true Faith and I have also had this hurt feeling ;then I just do not feel like going back to that person when you know you have been deliberately sidelined.

Yes, I do share the same feeling. It is really hard to go back to that person. lovelots..faith

True Sreekala!Possessiveness would destroy a relationship when it is carried too far. There would be too much of stifling within the relationship itself and also for the third party it would get undesirable.

You are saying that you are not possessive but you were willing to throw that young man to the tiger[if you were the princess] How are you dear friend?

So you get protective of your parents because you are possessive Subha.Thanks for the response!

You have a different point htere but, sometimes, for no reason people would ahve preferences.But it is one's again one's own choice and we cannot exercise that 'so called' right over them.THank you for your response.