17 year old son enjoys being chased.

United States
March 29, 2009 11:10pm CST
I am a 46 year old single mother who has raised 3 boys. My youngest is 17 year old who has had to grow up without his father. The sad thing is that his father has always lived 15 miles away and has had nothing to do with the boy. All though I have not been a perfect parent, I have been there for him. Even though we have been through a lot of counseling, it seems that he continually enjoys sabotaging himself. There has been a third party involved in our lives every since he became too rebellious at home, but just when we think that we are getting somewhere, he creates a huge setback for his life. I think that he enjoys others chasing him when he runs, as well as the attention. Is negative attention better than not-enough attention?
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• United States
30 Mar 09
take a step back and look at things around him, try and remember how it was to be that age again, Sometimes the littlest things to a world of good. Think of what was going on when this started to happen. try and I know this is hard, but try to get the two of you involved in something, If this third person is a person that cares for you and your three boys, they will understand what is going on. be positive of him all the time.
@maezee (31961)
• United States
30 Mar 09
From a child's point of view (or from someone who's close to your son's age - I'm 18), negative attention is DEFINITELY better than no attention. There's nothing in the world that's worse than feeling as though you don't exist to the very people who put you on this planet - your parents. Maybe your son feels for some reason that he can't possibly get your positive attention, and resorts to negative because it's easier to get. Not sure, though. Good luck with your situation.