Has anyone made it work with an ex? If not, why not?

United States
March 31, 2009 12:31am CST
I find myself in a situation that I am not sure which way to go. I am in the process of leaving my boyfriend but find myself drawn to my ex-husband. We divorced for a reason but we keep finding ourselves drawn together all the time. I think we have both changed for the better. We have done things throughout the times we have been apart but during the times me and boyfriend were split up, which was off and on over the years. My ex also said to me, it wouldn't take much to get back together because I am the flame to his candle. He states he still is in love with me even though its not as strong but it wouldn't take much, he says. He is just scared of things going back to the way they used to be and we both were hurt really badly from each other\ when we split up. It was lack of communication. What are your thoughts and what if you were in this situation, what would you do?
3 responses
@karbuks (270)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
well love is sweeter the second time around as the saying goes. If you still love your ex-husband and is still drawn by him then, I think it is much wiser if you give him another chance. Maybe the times that you split or broke up is a realization that you still love and need each other very much. I think what is more important is that both of you have already learned your lesson and avoid doing it again to prevent hurting each others feelings. You can spiced up your relationship again and make it a point that you have a constant communication to avoid misunderstanding.
@bindishah (2062)
• India
31 Mar 09
I believe that one should never go back to an ex. i mean there must be some reason for you guys breaking up in the first place right? I find that whenever i talk to my ex-bf, the old feelings of hurt or misunderstanding keep coming up. Its bound to happen. Maybe you just feel drawn to your ex-husband because there is a sense of familiarity with him. I feel it would be best to just let the past remain there and to move on with your life.
• United States
31 Mar 09
I have done that before. My husband & i broke up when we were dating about 6 years ago & we both dated other people, but we were always drawn to each other. So we got back together & made it work. Now we are happily married with 2 kids. I think if you are drawn to your ex husband then there are still feelings there. It's up to you to decide if they are worth fighting for & working them out. Good luck!