Is it OK for a girl to have more guy friends than girl friends?

@cuttyrish (2663)
United States
March 31, 2009 11:52am CST
I got alot of friends, but i think the number of girls and guys are pretty equal. i got some girl friends that often quarrel with their boyfriends, because they got more guy friends than girl friends..the guys are jealous if the girls spends too much time with her guy friends. sometimes these lead to their breakup or sometimes the girl minimizes the time she spends with her guy friends.. Is it OK for a girl to have more guy friends than girl friends?
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25 responses
• China
31 Mar 09
It should be OK. I have a girl friend that gets a lot of friends,she never mind her friend is a girl or guy.Friend is just friend,it's different with your boyfriend.You share different feeling with different friend,also including boyfiend.All you need to do is sharing more time and loving with your boyfriend.
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• China
2 Apr 09
in your comment you say "she never mind her friend is a girl ro guy",she certainly doesn't mind,but the key is what about her boyfriend? does he never mind aslo? could her boyfriend accept his girlfriend'close contact with other boy?
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@Boofybutt (316)
• United States
31 Mar 09
Yes it's okay. All of my friends are guys, and all of my husband's friends are girls. We don't fight about our friends, it's not about who you talk to and hang out with, it's about who you go home too. (or whatever the case may be). It's mostly about trust, if you don't trust the person why are you with them in the first place?
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@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
yes. i agree with you its all about trust. thanks for your response. happy myLotting.
• India
31 Mar 09
Of course its ok. But the only condition is that the guys should be good and respectful. You know what the bitter reality is that only boys can understand boys and only boys know what kind of person another boy is. A boyfriend is always worried about his girlfriend's company so he keeps a watch on her and if the guys who call themselves her friends aren't good people then boyfriend's do complain.... That's why, it ain't about a girl or a boy being a friend. Its about their social character, its about the person inside them that makes a friend... I hope you understood my point... This message is for all those girls whose partners tell them that a particular boy isn't good. Its for your own good... Happy mylotting...
@maezee (29487)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I don't see what's wrong with it. I have a lot of guy friends, and I just relate to them better. I don't think it should matter the gender of a girl's friends.
• China
2 Apr 09
it is the differentiation between the cultures,i think . for example in indian culture the girls are forbided having friend who is a guy,of course ,the exception of his young man. but in your society ,people can accept the girl having common boy friend. you are so luck with livinging in such a open society.
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
wxo200345, thanks for your response.. now i understand your culture more. happy mylotting!
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
well for me, it doesn't matter to whom are you much comfortable hanging-out with as long as you're having fun... if ever you engaged your self in a relationship from wherein the issues being argued or quarreled on is about having more guy friends than less girl friends then it's up for you to limit yourself from hanging-out with your guy friends but when your boyfriend is already accusing you of something bad involving your interactions with your guy friends then i don't think that it's proper that you'll still stick or pursue your commitment with your boyfriend... :)
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@Jean25 (344)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
yes, of course it is ok for a Girl to have Guy friends. there are two side on that. first,she gets' protected and have more insights on how guys court or flirt women because they will tell you about it if they have problems with their lovers.second, it's also dangerous because some guys are emotionally weak that they might misinterpret your kindness to them that they might fall in love with you. so, careful there.
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@vickycity (155)
• China
1 Apr 09
I think it's Ok. friend is friend, no matter guy or girl. Just I think.
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@hershiez (464)
1 Apr 09
Hahaha..I don't know. Me, I have guy friends more than girl friends. It's like I'm one of the boys. My boyfriend is not jealous about it 'coz he trust me.
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
good for you. thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@modstar (9615)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
Hi cutty! I think that's alright as long as you know your limits as a friend if you are in a relationship just to avoid conflict. You should also spend more time with your boyfriend than with your friends or you can spend time with them together. Let's admit, sometimes guy friends tend to fall in love with their friends. That would really mean bad news for your boyfriend right? Too close for comfort. If you're single, why not?
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@sinokirin (902)
• China
1 Apr 09
I think it is okay. You have the right to choose your friends, no matter they would be guys or girls, you can do your decision. i have a lot of guy friends and less girl friends for i am a guy, i think it okay... of course, there are many common talks among girls if you were a girl,and so does a guy.....
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@Jezebella (1447)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I think it is okay for a girl to have as many guy friends as she wants as long as her boyfriend knows that the only thing between them is friendship. If I have made a point to try and get more girl friends because I am incredibly close to my guy friends and I don;t want my man to feel weird about them,
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@Soteira (75)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I do not see a problem with it. I have always had more guy friends than girl friends. I don't like to sit around and talk about make-up and clothes like most girls. I would rather be out playing or watching sports and joking with the guys. Most girls are all about drama and gossip so I would rather hang with the guys and have fun without all the stress.
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
4 Apr 09
same with me. i also do not like also the drama and gossiping that some girls do. thanks for your response. happy mylotting!
@chimrani (1431)
• India
31 Mar 09
[b]According to me its not ok and my Indian culture too restrict girls from making boyfriends. yes she may have 1 but more than 2.No No no way[/b]
@cuttyrish (2663)
• United States
1 Apr 09
i am referring to purely friendship, not relationship between a boy and girl. are indian girls prohibited to have friends that are boys when she has already a boyfriend? thanks for your response. happy mylotting!..
@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
18 Apr 09
To me it is totally okay. See friendship is not gender based, it is based on the thinking process and how much you like the person in question and we should always take this thing in to account before making some other meaning out of two friends whether boy or a girl.
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
well..dear mylotters it always depend upon the situation ..people should seek true friends and not the number of how many guys friends do you have..or how many girl friends do you have..like in college if you are taking courses which is applicable for boys and few girls only many interested of it..like in the field of engineering and in the field of criminology..like my sister for example she is taking mechanical engineering...she's the only girl in their class..so all her friends are boys..so it depends.
@rocketsky (1014)
• China
14 Apr 09
yes i dont think there is anything wrong with it . having what kind of friends is your own choice and nobody should bother you . most importantly ,the friend you choose must be good
@aweins (4203)
• India
10 Apr 09
hi cuttyrish, my dear feind, i dont mind that thing at all . infact i am a girl and i am having so many boyfriends and i am married and one of my friend when i was unmarried and till today keep on saying that he loves me and to my hubby that he should leave me and i am made for her and all that naughty stuff. but that hardly mattres neither to me nor to my hubby. we are too careless abiut what he says or what he not. he is a sweet fried and will always be a sweet friend. when i was not married he was very very protective about me and was very careful about what others ar saying about me also. he never liked me talking to many peiople specially boys. he saud that they are ------- inside , i hope you understand. and he knowwsthem very well because he himself is a boy and a girl who is sweet and sexy looking every one wanna make her his friend. so one should be very careful in talking to guys . they have just one thing in mind and all that. i was like , oh forget it man, let me live life, and he wa sno , no no nononono.... i use to enjoy everythingh and now i am very open with my hubby and i having many froends today also and i am still continuing my friendshipo wityh every one who were m friend when i was not married. if they are my true friend, they will still be and they still are.
@Emceeric (70)
• United States
6 Apr 09
There is no problem,if you have friends girls or boys.For me,it doesn't matter at all.You can have friends girls or boys as much as you want.The only important is having trust to the person you love.Trust is important to develop first before you can love.So you can have friends whoever you wanted to.
@vheilugto (149)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
for my own opinion, it is ok if the girl have plenty of guy friend, but just make it sure that its only a plain friendship, coz some of the guy even though that are only friend, there inner intention is to get the girl from his bf. and the way both of you act, should be as friend,
• India
2 Apr 09
a girl can have boyfriends, but everything should be in limit with boys . But can be open with girl friends