Can you ever forgive your mother once she betrays you?

United States
April 1, 2009 4:37pm CST
Several years back my mother betrayed me and my family (husband and infant daughter) so badly that I ceased all communication with her for 3 1/2 years. Although I thought this would be payback for her it just hurt me more. I have struggled to try and forget what she did but it is stuck in my mind like it happened yesterday. I pulled up enough strength to finally forgive her because God says we should forgive. She had moved to a different town about 45 minutes away so I did not see her that often only on my terms. Now she has recently divorced and moved back to the town I live in. She has also started substitute teaching and be it my luck she substituted for my daughters class for 2 weeks. While I am able to talk to her and do things with her I feel no connection with her. My life with her has never been the mother-daughter relationship it should have been. I have tried to accept that and move on. Now the important thing is that she have a good relationship with my children. Only I am scared to death that she is going to flip out on me again and now that she is so close it is even worse. I guess the advice I am looking for is will I ever find the strength to let the past be the past and assume that she will be a better mother and grandmother? It is a little hard to trust someone when they have betrayed your trust for so many years. These issues not only affect me but also my family, when I am stressed they feel it, when I am depressed they know it. I would love to wake up one day and and have peace with the situation between her and I but I fear that is a long ways off. Anyways thanks for listening, maybe someday I will spill the exact occurances of the situation but for now I just wanted to know if the relationship will ever heal.