am i being childish?
By charblaize
@charblaize (1026)
United States
April 4, 2009 11:50am CST
Ok, my husbands sisters mother in law will take money from my husband knowing it is NOT his money. My husband took my one debit card to her house and they went and took off $100 that was to be for the kids' christmas. Then he took her to Wal-mart and let her use ALL of our food stamps.
I don't even like to look at this lady, let alone be in the same room with her. She knows how I feel about her and everything. Yet, she will ask my husband to do something and he will get off his lazy butt to help her but not me or his own son. So, today I went over to my mother-in-laws and they were having a birthday party for my nephew and guess who walks in.........she does because she came with my husbands sister and husband. I asked one of the uncles if it was ok to leave my son there because I didn't want to take him away from the cake and all. They said it was alright and I left.
How would you mylotters feel?
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14 responses
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I would be plenty mad too. I think that most of your anger should be directed at your husband. I think you should insist that HE replace the money he took. I don't understand the strong connection with this woman since she's just his sister's mother in law. He had no business doing this. It wasn't his money to take.
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I could try and get him to pay up but to no avail.....he will borrow money/steal money to pay other people but not me. Plus, he don't work, don't or won't watch his own son, he's just an outright jerk......
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
You're being childish if continuously you'll be stressed without asking your husband why is he doing this. I guess however, she might have done favors to your husband way back that he's taking as a debt of gratitude. The best thing to do, however is talk to your husband what's special with his sister's mother in law.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Ok I am sorry but that $100 was christmas money for your child not for her to spend on what ever. And taking YOUR foodstamps like that is taking food out of the mouth of your child, there for I would put my foot down and say NO that is for our child and no one else your family comes first above all others. IF after you have taken care of your things first and there is some left over then I can see helping a little bit but not like that.
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Yep, that is what I keep telling him that he taking things away from his son but he don't seem to care. Whatever I try to do to make him understand never seems to work.....:((
@psychotaz206 (2086)
• United States
4 Apr 09
i would be mad to so no you are not being childish , i would not let him have your cards again thats bull he should worry about taking care of his son not his mother tell her she needs to get her own money or food stamps that they are givin to you not for her to go and spend,, hide your cards girl and dont let him anywhere near them.
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
4 Apr 09
oh, he don't get the cards anymore and I usually did hide them, but when you want something bad enough, you look in unsuspected spots. I have changed all the pin numbers and NO ONE knows them but me.
@phoenix79 (302)
• United States
4 Apr 09
That seems very odd. What man would take food from his own child to give someone else. If you are getting food stamps you only have enough to take care of his family. Yes she may take it but it is wrong of him to be giving it to her. Unfortunately I think there maybe more to their relationship than what meets the eye. I would take care that there is nothing going on there. That is the only time I have seen someone take food out of the mouth of their child to give to someone else. Not once did he worry about what his own son was going to eat?
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
4 Apr 09
I have a feeling this is where he is getting his habit.....she gives him pills and stuff and i just feel this is to "pay" her back for getting them. :(( I just try to get him to realize it is his son and all and he don't or won't learn to grow up and have some responsibility
@MAllen400 (829)
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4 Apr 09
Chuck your husband out. Sounds like he knew what he was doing.
Would you be worse off without him? If you wouldnt really scare him and tell him you want the money back within so long or he will be gone like the money
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
5 Apr 09
If your husband can not refuse this lady's requests for food and money, I would take the cards away from him. Then he has no other choice than to tell her he does not have any money. Whenever your husband says he is hungry, tell him to go eat at her house, that's the house your food stamps were spent at. If you are on food stamps, it sounds like you need every penny you can get, so you need to end this ASAP. Take the cards away from him. You are not being childish, but you have to put a stop to this. This woman will bleed you for all you have, if this continues to happen. Be firm and take the card/cards away from your husband.
@bandj20004 (14)
• United States
5 Apr 09
First off it is against the law to spend your food stamps on anyone who does not live in your house hold. Those food stamps are to feed your child. Call the office and have your pin number changed. Cancel the card if you have to and get a new one and hide it. Change your debit card too. If that doesn't stop him then you need to go to the next step which is either divorce, counceling, or the police. Good luck to you and just remember to keep your kid first. If he doesn't care if your son eats or not then you have to. I would care if he ate or his sister's mother in law. Let them worry about themselves.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
4 Apr 09
Even I have the same trouble, My wife's family will come in as soon as the pot is on the stove,, I don't know how they find out,,and the biggest shi,,t is they want to cook how they like it,and stay till everyone is gone,, and they so shameless,, look for the remnants,,I feel so nice when there is only dry bread to offer(that is not my way but sometimes ,,this is the case,for those who make a habit)
@carann (260)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I have a diffrent attutude that some but I will be blunt. I would be so angry. They are for your family not for her. Takeing foodstampts is just wrong. And for your husband to let her do it? I would tell him since he does so much for her he can just go live there. I wouldn't put up with that for as long as you have. YOur son deserves a better rolemodel than that.
@GioBuffon (119)
• Canada
5 Apr 09
I find that really inappropriate for him to do to you. I mean you deserve the same as his mother. You're his wife and he should treat you no different. Let him know that what he's doing his wrong. Try to fix things by talking to him and ask him why he did this to you ? Good luck if you need more help I'm here !
@Downwindz (2537)
• Netherlands
4 Apr 09
WTF! I would be sooo ticked of if it happened to me, she has nothing to do with your money what so ever unless you borrowed it from her, let alone taking your food stamps and so forth, i certainly understand you felt like a break at the birthday party. Though shes a bit though to tackle, but i wonder still why she asks your husband for help when they are not related, beside the fact shes the mum of the man your husband sister married :S
@abs072889 (16)
• United States
4 Apr 09
I don't think you are being childish at all. I think your husband needs to stop giving her so much money. Money for your own kids christmas gifts? I mean come on get real, why on earth would he do that? I guess people do things that we do not understand. I mean you should respect that your husband doesn't dislike her like you do, but he should not be letting her use all your money and food stamps that are meant to be for you to provide for your kids.
