physical beauty

@savypat (20246)
United States
April 4, 2009 1:38pm CST
How important is it to you that your love be physically attractive? Can you love someone who you do not think is attractive? I have found over the years that I can be attracted to even a homely man, the thing that attracts me is a man who loves and respects women and has a good sense of humor. I was somewhat surprised when I first discovered this, sines I always like to look at very handsome guys. Have you discovered new attractions since you matured?
1 person likes this
16 responses
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
4 Apr 09
If you have asked me that question when I was younger I would have answered you in affirmative. But now things have changed and I could not care less of physical beauty in man. Who cares whether he is an ugly toad as long as he has a singing talent and can bring in laughter with his wits and humour I will be happy to settle with him. As we reach certain age our telescopic eyes see differently and decision is based on what we see. We no longer aim for prince charming but something that soothe our sentiment.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
4 Apr 09
I wonder how many men know that our perception changes so drastically with age?
2 people like this
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
4 Apr 09
I think men are no difference but for them it might be too drastic as this is what we term as midlife crisis. Some matured men could not accept the age they are in and try to act as though they are young. Some men could not accept reality. Old they may be but are chasing young ladies to prove their virility.
2 people like this
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Hey pat~ I have changed my mind many times over the years in what I thought was attractive. I was never really attracted to "beauty" to begin with! I always had a strange idea of what I liked to being with! I wasn't particularly attracted to handsome or gorgeous men! I kind of liked "different" looking men so I know that there was always more to what I saw then on the outside! I sure did pick plenty of frogs anyway! And maybe some major toads too! And a few snakes! But, anyway I also care more about the person then their looks and a sense of humor is definitely very important and a sense of being is even more important!
2 people like this
@savypat (20246)
• United States
5 Apr 09
As usual you seem to have a handle on this relationship stuff. Thanks
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
believe it or not I feel in love with the girl online without even seeing her face and even when I saw her face which for me was an angel I didnt care less if she was ugly or not...what moves me too her was her inner beauty that is what really matters coz in time and as we grow older beauty fades but the beauty from with in will always linger....
@abanerji (1026)
• India
4 Apr 09
i believe physical beauty should never matter. any relationship must have a the foundation of trust, understanding, affection and care for each other. with these pillers standing strong, a relationship can stand strong. what is beauty..? if one gets attracted towards beauty then one day the relatioship would end because beauty is not permanent, veryr few people remain beautiful even when they grow old. i don't have any crushes as such but brains atttract me more than beauty.
2 people like this
@vheilugto (149)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
i'l answer you straight, physical appearance is not a big deal but for my own perception, it is feels good when you woke up in the morning the first person you will see is like an angel from above because of hi/her angelic face. but of course at the same time, he/she have a good attitude ha. .
@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Apr 09
i dont think physical beauty matters much in a relation.true,it will lead to initial attraction but that attraction will soon fizzle out,if there is no in depth character.for me,selfconfidence is more important than outside beauty.the selfconfidence itself does give charm to a person.
1 person likes this
@CMTS_87 (1342)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
I think physical attraction is still very important when it comes to loving someone. Because in loving we are not only talking about plain feelings, we also deal with physical attraction. And for that I can say that it is very essential for me to find someone who is physically attractive. And besides I'm trying to be the best that I can be - physically! HAHA! Happy MyLotting!
@lala501 (1533)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I don't think I have ever been attracted to someone just by their looks. I usually go for the ones who are funny and make me happy. And being good looking doesn't hurt, but personallity over rides it.
1 person likes this
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
Hmm, i guess it's when you're already attracted to someone's qualities, character and personality that you'll come to also be attracted to him physically even if he isn't that much of a pretty face + hot bod, it wouldn't matter because you already like him for who he is such that everything about him looks hot and attractive.
1 person likes this
• Tunisia
5 Apr 09
To be physically pretty is a gift from nature and GOD but the most important is to be pretty inside
1 person likes this
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
I appreciate the beauty of the heart. I dreamed to find a man having these. Fortunately got one, a person who do care for what i am and can appreciate things i still will improve. That is the most important thing i was looking for. Physical beauty is just for the eyes but not merely good for the heart.
1 person likes this
@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
Hi savypat, when I was younger, I have my ideals. One of them is having good looks in a guy lol... but when I got on my early 20s I realized I am attratcted to guys who are smart, sweet, thoughtful and have a good sense of humor. Also guys who like you said respect women and who don't mess at women's hearts... ^_^
1 person likes this
@rakesh284 (1473)
• India
5 Apr 09
I think there are many people who will always prefer combination of Physical beauty with good attitude and nature. Well when we see someone we don't know how can we get attracted towards him? We will attracted by physical appearance. Then we might think about chatting with him and then if we discover that this person is good in nature then you might think that this is it. But what about those who are not physically good looking?
@adoremay (2069)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
What is essential is invisible to the eye. What is important is the inside. I always go for humor. I don't really go for looks ever since.
1 person likes this
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
im more attractive on inside of a human than phisical attraction cause phisical changed when they became older but her aspect inside never changed but totally more enhances their morality.
1 person likes this
• United States
5 Apr 09
I have always been a person who looks at the personality. I am not concerned with physical beauty. If you look at the inner person you see what the essence of the person is. I have been this way all my life.
1 person likes this