How do you know it's over?

@laydee (12814)
Philippines
April 8, 2009 8:11am CST
I haven't really tried having a lot of relationships (committed ones) so I am not really an expert about relationships at all. But, how do you know it's over? Do you need a solid word "IT's OVER" to finally say you both are done with each other? How did you know the relationship was over?
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
It will be best to verbally communicate that the relationship is really over. But there are times that you must make your intuition works for you --- let non-verbal communication take its place. If that special someone continuously tells you that he's very busy (with whatever), if that special someone refrain from calling you, if he's always making an excuse to see you. Guess, you better stop seeing this person. A person who's in love can always make time for the one he truly cares.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
You really have a point there, and it scares me to bits. Perhaps I'm just denying the fact that it's over that's why I'm afraid of what you said, but you got good points there.
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
There are other guys out there who deserves your love. Just enjoy dating for now :)
@srganesh (6349)
• India
9 Apr 09
Well,I like to get cleared verbally.There should not be any dilemmas in getting a relationship ended.I want it straight-yes or no.Why should one go without reasons or explanations after a good relationship.I would like to know the reason too.Cheers!
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
Sometimes action are better way of saying its over. For example in a relationship, when one started getting cold shoulder and you don't hear your partner saying i love you then i think, your relationship are getting there. And your partner started to treat you as if your not existing, then that's it, But you also have to try to fight for the relationship but when one is not cooperating then thats it, its over. So why wait to hear the word " hey its over" so spare yourself of more hurt, move on. He is not the one for you.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
Yeah. *sigh*
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
It would be best that both parties have open communication. I mean you both need to speak about it so that no one will be put hanging where the relationship is leading to. At times if you don't talk about it one might lead on the other and the other keeps on thinking there is still a chance on working on the relationship even if it is the end. At times the guy just waits until the girl would tell him that it is over but they do the action first but doesn't have the heart to say it. I don't know if everyone agrees to it. but this is how I see it.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
At times the guy just waits until the girl would tell him that it is over but they do the action first but doesn't have the heart to say it. *Sigh* I think this is what he's doing. It's really breaking my heart big time. But thank you for telling me to remind me that this is so.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
its over for your point of view? only you wil be able to say that for yourself.. perhaps when you are no longer excited to see this person, when you are not happy whenever you are with this person, and your mind floats off somewhere when you are with this person.. i guess these are some clear signs you no longer want to be with the person you are with already.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
What if it's him who has moved on, what could be the signs?
@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
hi laydee! i think that there are several ways to know that a relationship is over, even though this is not verbally admitted. i can take hints, like not showing up or not answering my calls for quite some time, and which is not the usual habit. or the coldness that has replaced the warmth and intimacy of the relationship. there are many ways to know it is over--we just have to be sensitive. many women run after their men even though the guys are already ignoring them, etc. some people are not brace enough to tell you the truth, like during a break up and they just mysteriously disappear. anyway, these things are really painful but after you have gone through it, well, this too shall pass. take care and God bless you! happy mylotting! :D
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
You just made my heart weak. But you are right, I wish I could tell my heart frankly. My mind understands the situation, but my heart refuses to adhere to what's obvious. It still holding on to that spark of hope. But yeah, sooner or later I have to face the music, no matter how difficult or hurtful it may feel.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
9 Apr 09
when you see there is no more attachment. No more reciprocation is there. when one people cheat other and all.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
9 Apr 09
I have tried only one relationship and it didn't even get started and since then I am trying to find a lady with whom I can cope for even a single month so that I can get to know how and when we can sense if it is over. No, I am not joking. You need to have such experiences in life otherwise you will face problems in your marriage life!
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• Philippines
9 Apr 09
If you are the one who wants to end the relationship, then for sure, you would know in your heart that's it's over. It's a matter of deciding how you'd break the news to your partner. However, if the other person wants to end the relationship, it can be confusing if it's really over unless they verbally admit it to us. Although, you can guess from a sudden change in communication and routine if the relationship ios over. If the person ask for a space and time to assess things between you, then this may be the start of the end. :)
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• India
8 Apr 09
If you feel nothing about your partner or you don't want to feel then it is over. Don't give much focus on this thing otherwise it cause lost in your concentration in other works
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@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
If either one suddenly verbally or non-verbally says that it is...like a sudden change in your routine, he/she suddenly wants "space", or he/she is too busy to see you, or no or little communication all of a sudden...then it's over. We have to admit it...the sooner, the better. There are always non-verbal cues...and we should be ready to "read" the signs to know that it's really over.
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@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
being in relationship it's not easy to know the truth about the reality but when you put our God in evry relationship you had and believe him they can give you the right one for you. your question was how do you know it's over?? my answered was simple when your loveone not happy for you and you feel he/she is changes getting mad tobe with you. that's the one possible reason. if thats happened to you ask him/her then set him/her free then pray for them good. it's not the end of our world i know in the situation in a broken one. it's hard to recover but there was possibilities to moving on. kept busy and pray for this. God Bless you!!!!
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@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
you'll know it's over when the two of you are no longer willing to fight for your love... :)