Did you have hard time when you first move in/ live with your spouse?

@mermaidivy (15417)
United States
April 9, 2009 1:31pm CST
Did you have any problems with that? Did you feel it was hard to live with somebody even he/she had been dating with you for long time? We have a say ing my country is "Easy to see, not easy to live with." Well, kinda means that, I don't translate it good. Any strange habits that you found out after you lived with him/her? Is it easy to accommodate each other? Do you and him/her finally overcome all the problems and get used to each other's living habit? Let's share your story! :-)
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@soulist (2987)
• United States
9 Apr 09
my ex and I moved in together and we did have a little bit of problems because he barely spent time with me and was never home when he said he would. But I think if I moved in with my current boyfriend we would have some problems but able to work them out.
@soulist (2987)
• United States
9 Apr 09
I totally agree that love conquers all and with the one relationship I think we were just in love with the idea of being with someone (together) rather than actually wanting to deal with the issues we had.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
9 Apr 09
That doesn't sound good... when there isn't time to be spent with each other, how can make the relationship better or remain good? Thanks for responding!
• United States
16 Apr 09
I had a hard time when I moved in with my boyfriend. I askd him specifically before I moved in with him if he cleaned up. He said that he was a neat freak, but that was a lie. It took some training, but now he cleans up behind himself. That was the major issue. The minor issue is the privacy. Sometimes I get tired of seeing his face! Lol.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
16 Apr 09
hehe I hope you two could getalong well soon! Thanks for sharing! :-)
@luvmysons (497)
• United States
10 Apr 09
I moved in with my husband when we were just dating.. I was only 22 years old. I moved out 6 months later. I think the hardest part was dealing with no privacy. Nowhere to go by myself..Also he is a terrible snorer.LOL We moved back in with each other 2 years later. And we are married for 6 years now..
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
15 Apr 09
One of the hard things is to accept each other's bad habit I think, I don't expect to change my hubby but I would accept it for him. Thanks for responding!
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
9 Apr 09
u never know anyone till u live w/them. doesn't matter how long u have known them. i think marriage is the hardest job u will ever undertake. mine didn't work out but it wasn't for lack of trying because i did. some do , some don't, hope yours does.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Thank you. :-)
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
9 Apr 09
When my ex-husband and I moved in together(before marriage) it was a little difficult.Looking back on it I should have realised it wouldn't work out between me and him. I turned a blind eye to his bad habits and I know now I should have never married him. Only positive thing is I know exactly what to look for in a relationship.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I wish you good luck in the future! Thanks for responding!
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 09
Hello mermaidivy, I am not really surprised when I first moved in with my husband. I decided to marry him and all his bad habits too (which of course he didn't reveal all during our dating period) The very first thing I realized is that, he spends more time than me to dress up. He cares for himself too much but doesn't really care about the things around him. He can just leave a towel or sometimes hangs it outside but really doesn't care whether it is right or not. He loves to make me waiting too. Whenever he says like "just 10 minutes" means that it will be more than 10 minutes - maybe half and hour or maybe an hour or longer!