Is it fine with you if you will not have a child?

Philippines
April 10, 2009 8:56am CST
As a human being, most of us want to have children someday. I have two children, and I am very happy that I have them. I have seen some people who never had a child, but I think they are still happy. Although of course, there are those who are not. How about you? What if you cannot be able to have a child? How would you react?
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25 responses
• Netherlands
13 Apr 09
My husband and I decided not to have children almost 25 years ago because the World was such a mess then that we thought it would not be fair to bring another human being into the World to have to deal with what we have to deal with and we have never regretted out decision one time since. Especially since the World is so much worse off now than it was 25 years ago. We have had a Wonderful, full life together with a lot of love so we definitely did not miss anything as far as we can see and we saved another human being from this horrific World in which we live in today.
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
Well, at least the decision was agreed by both parties which I think is the most important. However, I don't completely agree that the world is that horrifying. My children are enjoying so far.
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• Netherlands
13 Apr 09
I am happy to hear that your children are enjoying themselves, that is what is most important. Good luck and enjoy your children!
• United States
26 Apr 09
I would be the most miserable person iif I werw forced to have a child . And it would have to be Ny Force. I never wanted children and I never will.If a man thinks he can change my mind , he is very mistaken.I tell them upfront so he can look elswhere.
@patzel88 (3311)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
Well if i am in the position for not be able to grant i child, i maybe also happy because as i have experience and watch from the other people, its better not to have a kids if it will give us a headaches someday. There are lots of family who are not happy of what they have because the kids will only listen to the parents at the age of 0-12 and then when they turn out to become adolescent, they have their life more on their friends and sometimes when they have a friends influencing them to become irresponsible to their parents and to their studies, the problem will start to the family circle.
• United States
18 Apr 09
I've always wanted to have kids. I still do, though I have something in the back of my head that says "If you do do that, you might have to pick either a career or actually maintain a good home with kids running around. I don't know what yet, so far I do want to work but when a baby comes I'd probably have to get a work at home based job. There's not a lot of that around, but I'll just keep an eye out for that.
@nurseia (40)
• United States
14 Apr 09
There was a time in my life when my husband and I tried for over a year. Three years into the marriage, I had a daughter. But if we did not have a child, we would have probably adopted.
@dpk262006 (56217)
• Delhi, India
13 Apr 09
Chidren are blessings of God and without children our life will remain incomplete. I prefer children and it is one of the most beautiful experience in our life to bring up children and to see them growing up.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
12 Apr 09
I would have no option than to accept it. But adoption would have been an option because I love kids. I don't think I would be sad of not having kids of my own and being consumed by that sadness. If I knew for sur, I'd just try to go ahead and live my life with the next best option.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
11 Apr 09
It's fine with me if i dun have any children.. THough a family can only be considered as complete, when they have children of their own.. However to me, children can come anytime and as long as we are ready, it's fine to have a couple of them ^_^ BUt when a couple is not ready, it's always better to withhold any plans of having children because of the great financial 'burden' in the long run.. haha =D
@rensal77 (116)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
Hubby and I have talked about that. And we both agreed that it will be fine with us if we won't be blessed with a child. I know it can be easier said than done because most people believe that they won't be complete unless they become parents. But I have seen many childless couples who are happy. I think it depends on your contentment with what God gives you. :)
@ip5217 (1656)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
This really sounds scary. I'll be turning 28 this July and I still haven't had a child of my own. This is my ultimate wish. When all is stable I hope he/she comes into my life.
• China
11 Apr 09
Feel unhappy, think of others have children are happy ,but also shouldn't despair,because we can now go to adopt another child,also can have a happy when[arents!
@smartjack (521)
• India
11 Apr 09
no it is not fine with me at all. i love children a lot and its a mark of love with ur spouse. i will newer marry a person who does not want a child
@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
11 Apr 09
Fine or not fine carries the same meaning so far my inability t become a father. I could adopt one but your own is your own. Life would pass off anyway.
• India
11 Apr 09
Children are always likeable for everyone.Everyone wants to have children.But sometime this need depends on ur situation that if u can efford them or not dont take this as too much,,,I mean to say that if ur carrier is stable or u can do better born and boughtup for ur children then u must have. I think this
• United States
11 Apr 09
I always told myself I didn't want children. When I was pregnant with my daughter, things changed, of course. I could not be happier being a mom, and I think somewhere in the back of my mind, I always wanted children. If I coudln't have them, though, I don't think it would really hurt me. Don't get me wrong. I love my daughter, and I love being a mom. But if for some reason, I never had children, I don't think I would have happy, too. Maybe not in the same way, but happy, nonetheless.
@angkat14 (25)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
Since I am someone who really is fond of kids, its not fine with me if I won't have a child - ever. In all honesty, I'd rather have a child than a husband. XD That's how much I wanted to have a child.
• United States
11 Apr 09
i would freak out if I couldnt have a kid, well at least a son, I'm the last of my families blood line, I need a son to carry on the name, you know? so I really wouldnt take the news well if I was told I couldnt have a son
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I dreamed of having children since I was 12 years old. Then I found out when I was in my mid 20's that I wasn't able to have any. It was a horrible time and very hard to come to grips with. Several years ago Hubby and I became foster parents for 2 years and seeing what some of those kids put their families through cured me of wanting kids. Don't get me wrong, some of the kids were great but there were some that had their parents locked up on false alligations, some that got their parents arrested b/c they refused to go to school and others that blamed every single thing wrong in their lives on their parents. I'm aware that not all kids turn out that way and there are some really good kids in the world...but I'm just going to be happy with my cat and move on with my life. I might also add that I have a niece and nephew that I love very much and if it ever came up that they needed me to raise them, I'd be more than happy to do it for them. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
i am married for six years already, and before getting married me and my wife lived together for three years. so that would be 9 years in all. but our child is only three years old. we started to dream of a baby since the first day we lived together. unfortunately my wife had a lot of miscarriages and she cried a lot of tears. so i told myself that if God will not give us a child then it is okay with me. i dont know how my wife would feel about this but i told myself i was okay. though we still tried but for me i am already okay. this is what the Lord has planned for us then i am accepting it. after years and years of trying finally we hit the jackpot. we are both so happy. now he is three and his picture appears as my avatar
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Well I have 5 so its sort of hard to answer that question. To me I could have got along with out any but I have them and wouldnt want to do with out them now! But I am sure I wouldnt have got by with out haveing any for one of my hubbies would have insisted sooner or later!. and now also I wouldnt want to get by without my grand daughter and grandsons.