Should I avoid a person whom I don't like?

@ajithlal (14564)
India
April 11, 2009 5:45am CST
There is a person who hurted me with words. I have been avoiding the person for a couple of days and I am happy doing it. I get lots of anger and depression when I talk to this person. I don't want to quarrel or fight. Should I avoid this person or should I make friendship with this person?
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
15 Apr 09
i will definitely try to avoid a person like this . i hate those guys who always make me feel bored and keeping talking something i dont like all the time
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
18 Apr 12
I think it is better to spend time with people who make us happy and whom we can make us happy.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
15 Sep 12
I think there are lots of roses in the world than thorns and we should try to concentrate on the roses than thorns.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
15 Apr 13
I think we should try to think about the good things in life.
@ssjvicky (13)
• India
12 Apr 09
hi there!!!In our life we often encounter people who hurt us in different ways.Avoiding all of them does not make sense.So try to b friendly by resolving various issues and if this doen not work..then think of avoiding the person.
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
12 Apr 09
I will try to make friendship with people who hurt me with words and see that it doesn't happen rather than avoiding them.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
14 Jan 13
I also think that we should try to be happy and try to make happy others.
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 09
Hi Ajithlal, if there's no reason why this person was being nasty to you, then you should avoid him/her. Unless the situation requires that you have to be nice, for example, your boss - then it's no point getting depressed and angry over such a person. If this person means nothing to you, then make him or her an absolute zero in your life! Take care.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
10 Sep 12
I think it is good to avoid nasty people in life.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
23 Sep 12
I think it is good to avoid people whom we do not like than have bad time with them.
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
12 Apr 09
Why should you when he was the one who offended you verbally? He should be the one to apologise, and i don't think that trying to be friends with him would stop his behaviour. I suggest you just ignore this kind of people. They're a waste of your time to even think about them...
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
30 Apr 12
Sometimes we do come across people like this in our lives.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
18 Nov 12
I think we should try to be calm in our lives and to relax ourselves.
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
12 Apr 09
Hello ajithlal. I used to have the same case as you have had. I had a colleague who said some bad words against me and when I got to know that, I avoided talking and meeting him in any situation because I did not want to face such a man who is mean to me. It took quite some time before I started to talk to him again. The main reason why I decided to talk to him is due to the passing of the time and my growth as a young man to a more mature one. I am glad that I changed my final mind to talk to him again, but of course, I would not treat him as the kind of friends that can be trusted. Now I am not working in the same unit, but far away from my previous one. Therefore it is part of my history in life. Good luck and good day to you, my dear friend.
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
12 Apr 09
Thanks williamjisir. I will try to deal in more mature manner.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
13 Oct 12
I think sometimes we do come across people whom we do not like in our lives and we should try to avoid confrontation if possible.
@bdayboy09 (153)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
No, not at all. You may want to talk to him/her some time, 'coz you might see something interesting or good about that person. Sometimes, we judge people right away that we don't know what we're missing. You can never tell 'til you get a bit closer to each other. :)
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
12 Apr 09
I also think there are good things in all people we meet. Most times it is hidden and most times we doesn't see it.
@KrauseHome (33245)
• United States
12 Apr 09
A lot of times for me, I will often try to avoid the person for a couple of days and let things calm down, and at the same time I will be Praying for them as well, and believe God in helping take care and resolve the situation as well. Usually when you Pray it will help soften the situation to where usually everything ends up working for the best as well.
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
12 Apr 09
Thanks KrauseHome. I also doesn't want to hurt anyone or do any bad thing, but I don't want to get hurt by talking and becoming friendship with such a person.
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
Yah. You should avoid that person. It is just a waste. Well, I have avoided a lot of people already, mostly because I didn't like their attitude towards me, asking for my homework when they don't their own and others. For some of them, I don't just ignore them, I just go with the flow.Although, I always tell my teacher about them. hehehe.
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
31 Mar 12
I think it is better to avoid than to fight with people when we are not in good mood.
@vindiku (256)
• India
11 Apr 09
Hey, this world is a mixed society and we wont be liking everyone from there character, but ignoring someone who we see in our daily life will be running away from a problem. Whenever he or she tries to hurt you by his words or deeds, just stand toe-to-toe, not to fight or quarrel, but just to let him or her know that you are not at all inferior to him. After all, its all about communication. That's my version, but it all depends on your nature, I hope you understand. If you just ignore him keeping your mouth shut not reacting even if he does something against you, then he will think like you are afraid, and we should not propagate such a wrong idea to him or her.
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
12 Apr 09
Some people brings lots of happiness in our life while some others brings lots of anger and sad. I always want to be happy and be with people who make me happy.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I think one thing you need to do is let the person know that they have upset you, it might be tense at first but it will help you feel better. Tell them that you'd like some time to yourself to decide whether your friendship with them is beneficial to you, and to the person.
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
11 Apr 09
I also think it is better to let them know that people who upset me are upsetting me.
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@megh4u (372)
• Alpharetta, Georgia
11 Apr 09
I don't think that avoiding a person who is trying to hurt will work since there are lot of persons are there who try to hurt there and there so it is not possible to escape from that all the time.......according to me insted of avoiding that person you better make him feel like that and what ever he say just don't mind only think that he is a fool just listen and forget....don't take it serious....the only thing I want to say is that just face your problem no matter how big or small....
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
16 Apr 09
We certainly has to face lots of problems in our life.
@prinzcy (5082)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 09
I think you should avoid this person until you calmed down a bit. Like you say, it will avoid unnecessary fight or brawl. This can also help solve thing in the future (ie : when you're finally ready to talk to 'this person')
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
12 Apr 09
I also think so. It is better to avoid the person until we are calm and we are sure we can deal the person in a better way.
@boogerman (1548)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
Yeah, I avoid them because they are annoying lol. But lately, I realized that was wrong so, I decided to approach them and become friends again. We must forget the past and face the future. And also, there was a saying that we must love our enemies. That would be great because peace will prevail... =)
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
12 Apr 09
I also think past is past and we should always look at the future.
• India
11 Apr 09
well i think ur attitude toward such a person ir right . i too face such a person every minute and every hour , i too do it like u . actually its my mother , she makes me depress and angry , but now i just ignore her . and doing this i really fell happy , becaz then there is no one to depress me.
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
11 Apr 09
Some people brings us depression and anger while some people brings lots of happiness. I avoids people who brings me lots of depression and anger.
@katsalot1 (1619)
11 Apr 09
If it is possible to avoid a person who upsets me, then I do. There is no point in spoiling your day if you can avoid it.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
11 Apr 09
I think when we avoid people it makes our day rather than fighting with them.