family time, how do you spend it?

United States
April 12, 2009 5:41am CST
We have 5 kids (1 still at home, 4 grown 2 with thier own famililes). we insist on eating dinner together with NO tv, or phones during dinner. we actully talk face to face evey night. (Our kids have daily chores too.) we also have a weekly family meeting to discuss any issues, events or praise for something over and above. (we also give praise at the time too) we have a weekly or bi weekly family event such as a trip to the park, beach, fishing or a board game etc. It makes our family closer, even when our teens complain, but it works for us, as now our grown children have carried on our famiy tradition with thier own kids. Our kids freind always comment they wish thier family would do any thing together. they love hanging out at our house. so how do you spend family time? Today is Easter Sunday and everyone will be here for dinner and a small easter egg hunt with the young grand kids. Happy Easter!
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@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
Since I don't have children yet I spend always good quality time with my father and mother. We go fishing on a nearby river during holidays, and we cook the fishes we caught for a lunch picnic on the river. It is a joyful moment to spend sometime with your relatives even though your too busy at work during the weekdays. Being with them for just a couple of hours or days, having fun , letting them enjoy your company is a special moment for my parents. Sometimes when I have enough days for a long vacation from work, I asked them to go for a vacation on some beautiful sites in our place, do camping along a forest reservation, enjoying a nature trail and biking. It is a way of life for me to spend my simplest time with my parents and when I have children of my own I can share that too, let them enjoy what life has to offer and enjoy the company of their loving parents and promote a stronger bond between me and my children in the near future.
• United States
13 Apr 09
Waht good memories you are creating with your parents. I hope you carry them on when you do have children too! When my parents come down (evey few months) we always make special time together with all the family with them as well. It really means a lot. I enjoy my family too. I find that when you spend quality time it helps to build stong relationships. I talk to my parents almost every day on the phone. I cherrish each visit asI know THey will be gone one day. camping sounds good too. I just dont know if I could sleep outdoors! lol Thanks for your comment!
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@pergammano (7755)
• Canada
12 Apr 09
Happy Easter! First of all, let me congratulate you & yours for making the family unit the centre of your universe! I truly believe that if more families got to know each other in the manner you do, this whole world would be a better place to live in! Many families, under the same roof, hardly know each other, let alone their likes, dislikes...even what's happening in thier world....as they are just existing in the same home....a place where one eats, & sleeps! Truly hope your family has a wonderful Easter Sunday & congratulations!
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• United States
13 Apr 09
Happy Easter to you as well, Thanks for your kind comments. I agree that so many familes are diconnected and they are not well bonded. I feel that it is sad. We had a fun day after church we had an easter egg hunt at my house for the little ones and then a simple but nice family dinner. Our house was filled why joy, laughter and noise. I was almost as happy to see them all leave as when they got here! everyone pitched in to clean up, which made it better for me. I had then take all the chocolate home so not to have it hanging around too! Be Well,
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• Canada
13 Apr 09
My family is small, just my son and I (as all my family is gone)..so growing up, each Saturday nite was a quiet nite (no matter the season)...it was a nite where no electricity was allowed! Dinner cooked on the woodstove in the fireplace, light by kerosene, entertainment by cards, dominos...or board games! He is 27 now and still talks about those nites, and how he misses them! In my heart, I know that he will continue this tradition! It truly did bond us! Cheers!
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• United States
13 Apr 09
That it exactly. at the end of the day, it is those type of memories we created out of little or nothing but the time togeher that are most cherrished for me. My kids ( 29,28,25,18 and 14) that we have a close loving family and even when thigs were hard, got through it all. THinking back a few years ago when we had 3 hurricaines hit us 3 week apart, and we had no power for weeks on end, we laughed, cried and loved more than ever. we did a lot of cards, and games that kept our sanity amounget the heat, bugs and cooking out doors. going to wait in long lines for ice, we played a game about the other people waitng and trying to guess what kind of job they had. even my grandso who was 2 1/2 at the time would say "NANA, I wanna go get ice today so I can play job game too!" we still laugh at the grill going and feeding neighbors all the meat we had to cook from the freezer. thanks for the reply and good for you for bonding with your son!
@raddudu (60)
• Romania
13 Apr 09
In my opinion the best way of spending time with your family is a barbeque. I have a big backyard and a new barbeque grill.
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• United States
13 Apr 09
Oh yes we love to barbque often! it is a great time with family and freinds. plus I dont have to do all the cooking lol ! thanks for your comment!
• Romania
14 Apr 09
When I'm with my family ,I'm happy and it doesn't matter too much where we spend our time, the only problem is that time goes so fast when we are with our love ones.
@Bandeed (82)
• Australia
13 Apr 09
Bring your family to a theme park or to the cinemas have some good fun!
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• United States
13 Apr 09
thanks for you comment. We are not crazy about theme parks, but we do go out to other events. Movies are a good, but you really dont interact ,everyone jsut sit in the theater and watches the movie. We prefer to have activites we interact in. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
i am an only child and that makesus a really close family I guess. we like to travel a lot and just go to places we've never been before. i think that's what brings us closer. all of us still work so it is a bit hard to schedule time for each other, but when we do, we see to it that we block out everything else and just enjoy the time that we have together. i'm getting married soon and will be moving to a different country for a while, and I can feel they're a bit sad about it. sigh.
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• United States
13 Apr 09
not always being an only child makes familys close. I have a freind who is an only child and hasnt talked to her parents in over 20 years. Sad I think. Great to hear that you travel together. I look forward to that one day too. time is most precious when spent with loved ones! Call each other often when you move and get a web cam! Congratulation on you marriage and the great begining of a new journey in your life!
@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
we go to the mall, we spend time to the timezone were we can play a lot of games, that i can relate, but i tried to. LOL we eat outside and watch movie
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• United States
13 Apr 09
great to hear you find ways to spend with family. We love to go out too! Thanks for your comments
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
12 Apr 09
I don't spend a lot of family time because I don't live near my family. Most times, this is a good thing. However, at other times it's lonely. I hate holidays when I'm not home because there's no one to celebrate me who happens to be working that day. When I lived at home, we spent a lot of time watching movies. When I was a teenager, my mother and I couldn't communicate about anything at all, ever. We could always find a movie we both enjoyed, however. We spent a lot of time around then talking about the fact that Danny Glover had a nice behind. Whatever works. I think movies are a pretty universal activity. I just sent my friends who adopted a 13 year old a $10.00 Blockbuster gift certificate.
• United States
13 Apr 09
I am sorry your family is so far away. I love the tip about movies,during time when kids and parents often dont know what to do, watching a good movie togetehr can really help bonding too! (I think Danny Glover has a nice toosh too!) I loved his movies with Mel Gibson. Block buster fit cards make great gifts! Thaks for the reminder! Be Well,
• India
12 Apr 09
You sure run your family well
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• United States
13 Apr 09
Thank you, for your nice comment. I wish you well!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Hey doula! Nice to see you again! Been awhile? Happy Easter to you and your wonderful family! And yes, I most definitely think that your family has a great idea to keep everything together and make sure that you all stay current and close! More families should take a page from your book, so to speak! I remember as a kid that our family used to play board games together and it was fun! It's a shame that more families don't take the time to do this anymore! They let other things get in the way! I think you have the right idea! Have a wonderful holiday and keep enjoying your family!
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• United States
13 Apr 09
Hi ya Opal, Yeah I have been busy! but its good to be back. Thanks, I have been doing parenting workshops for several years now, I recently had a client call me from ten years back that thanked me for all that she learned and lives today. how well her children are doing and how much the simple things like dinner together and family meetings have helped them. I have gotten a few invattaions this year to high school and collage graduations. I am trying to fit them all in! I owe a tremendous amount of my pareting skills to my parents gentle loving pareanting with firm rules, a loving guidence and fun we had as a family growing up! We had a wonderful easter, Ihope you and your family did as well!