an old lady and a young man

@rocketsky (1014)
China
April 13, 2009 12:23am CST
today my mother told me an old woman in the town married a young man . she said she con not accept this kind of things , she thinks that it is quite abnormal and worse ,morally unaccepted . I dont knwo what to say ,maybe I agree with her . how can a old lady have soem ture feelings with a young man who is 20 years younger than her ? I am so puzzled . dont laugh at me ,dear friend:)
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@ajit25 (1010)
• India
13 Apr 09
I am sure the young man may doing all this for money otherwise how he would marry women who is 20 years older than him .
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
i dont know what happened to them ,but I do know ,if i was the young man ,i wont get married to an old woman who sould be her mother or '''
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@ajit25 (1010)
• India
13 Apr 09
Yeah mothers age.
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@krajibg (11944)
• Guwahati, India
13 Apr 09
Hello Rocket sky, look , everything is decided by human beings. There has been no outer agency to impose or dictate you what is good and what is bad. Our social set up decides sometime correctly and sometime just whimsically the dos and do nots. That Your mother was not in a position to accept such relation for she has had all the long been attached with a certain kind of belief and anything going against it would stand unacceptable for her. But if you look into the relation there is nothing abnormal as they got attracted to each other and married for love or attraction of this sort would not know our or you values and ethics nor good nor bad. 20 years difference seems a big deal but I know practically one such relation who are now husband and wife and the wife is 13 years older to the husband. Except certain biological problem there should not be any between the ones you mentioned. Why not accept it as normal? There is nothing wrong here.
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
yes ,everything is decided by people themselves and as long as they are happy they should do anything thet want ,but dont violate the law :)
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@krajibg (11944)
• Guwahati, India
13 Apr 09
Even the 'law' is man made!!!!!
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@rainwater (353)
• China
13 Apr 09
I do not know,I think may be they love each other,maybe love exceed other things.Maybe my ideas are too simple,but I believe the world has the true love.Best wishes.
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• India
13 Apr 09
The only reason it seems here is money as nobody wants to marry a this much old woman as it would be socially unfit. As there is news everywhere now that young people marry to older people on agreement basis for their money.
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@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
15 Apr 09
Nothing wrong with it! I have been married for 13 years to a man who is nine years younger than me. We have a daughter and the age gap between us has not ever been an issue, ever! Twenty years is a considerable difference but who are we to judge? Love is love and it does not have an age. Certainly there are people that marry for convenience and for money but that can happen at any age. If I had been given the choice I would have preferred to marry someone my own age or older but I wasn't and I happened to fall in love and nothing else really mattered!
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
15 Apr 09
congratulations to your happy marriage dear friend:) you must be a happy woman .i admired you .
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@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
15 Apr 09
Thank You!
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• China
13 Apr 09
it`s ok i think.i don`t laugh at them,perhaps i would wish the couples have a better life.normally,i can accept almost the odd,weired,strange things,like homosexual.human`s feelings are curious and mysterious,you can`t imagine how people would do next.i mean it`s not easy to control the love`s happening,no matter the age,or other odd things.if they really find true love,everything is ok.
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
i also hope they really found their so-called ture love ;) age gap is always so important to chinese :)
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• China
13 Apr 09
yes,chinese are often traditional,it`s really hard to the old people to change or receive some new or fashion views.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36493)
• United States
13 Apr 09
she must have money & he's wanting to spend some of it. it's not normal for either one of them.
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
i also thinks so ,quite normal for both of them and i dont like both of them too . money doesnt mean anything .
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@ANTIQUELADY (36493)
• United States
13 Apr 09
it's nice to have enough to pay the bills but it want buy happiness.
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@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
13 Apr 09
Well...On a neutral point of view, i emphatize with the lady that got married with a younger man.. It must have killed her pride with SOO MANY people talking about how wrong her marriage was. Maybe she must have thought about this, and had refused the guy and then the guy would promise to love her forever and you know how this works..Anyway, i guess it would be kinda strange seeing an older woman with a younger man but well what can i say...Love has no boundaries when it comes to age especially when they both have accepted each other, it wouldn't matter to them if we don't...^_^
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
love has boundaries ,you are right ,but age is always something we consider first and most chinese people never accept age gap . they always choose their lover who is at the right age :)
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• China
13 Apr 09
hi don't be puzzled. it's not abnormal.Thinks about those old men who married young girls.In fact these two are same.We can accept that,why we cann't accept the old lady marry young man.
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• China
13 Apr 09
I don't think that is all about the money. Which could be true love among them. Just congratulate them.
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@jackbill (22)
• China
13 Apr 09
In fact,that is nothing! Why old man can marry young girl, but old lady could not marry young man
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
I have the same feeling like you ,dear friend:) but it did happen. we pray for them ,right ?
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@derry123 (611)
13 Apr 09
I dont think its normal, but not morally unacceptable as long as both parties have an aggreement and they are not hurting anyone else .. I bet every one will be watching them both for any signs of unease and unhappiness for ages ... at least untill the next potential scandal breaks *
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
I will always stand my own view and never accept such a thing happened . I dont care what other people say about this .
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@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
13 Apr 09
Why can't they just be in love and want to spend their life togheter? It's perfectly okay for a older man to marry a younger woman. Men having children at age 60-70 is okay (the mother of the child is way younger....) Some marriges where the man are 30-40 years older is "okay" but if the woman is 5 years older than the man - it's wrong. Just let them live their life and be happy!
@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
i make s wish for them ,i hope they live happily togther . people have the right to make their own decisions .
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• China
13 Apr 09
It is easy and common for a yong lady to married a old man. But the young man marred a old lady is hard to accept. I don't konw why but I should with the change of the feman status this kind of thing will be more and more common. Nowdays, many feman become very ability and rich who also have the needing of caring.
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
but for me it is unacceptable and i really can not accept something happened like that .dont laugh at me :)
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@Pose123 (21675)
• Canada
14 Apr 09
Hi rocketsky, I believe that such things are a personal matter between the two people involved and should not concern others. I have known men who married women who were twenty years younger than themselves and so do difference if it's the woman who is older. It would not however be something that I would want for myself as I prefer a partner much closer to my own age, but that is a personal preference. Blessings.
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14 Apr 09
First I must say that your mother has a very strange idea of what is moral and everyone has their own normality. Fortunately what your mother can or cannot accept is not really of any real interest to the rest of us. My daughter got married 5 years ago. She was 42 and her husband was 22. They have a very happy marriage. Another of my daughters married a guy 15 years older than her. That lasted 25 years and only ended because she met another guy who she liked better. What to say to her? I think "Yes mother you are entitled to your opinion but don't expect others to agree."
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@abuelin (106)
• Chile
13 Apr 09
mmm love is blind, can be 10 , can be 20 years of difference but in the love doens't exist the age
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@chaselee (240)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
It may be true that sometimes young people marry old people because of money but I can assure you that its not always the case. My Aunt married a man 20 or more years younger than her and shes not rich. They're both minimum income earners but until now they're still together.
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@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
13 Apr 09
I have no idea about this.I don't concern about what they happened to each other.more and more things we can not account for and accept.
@asweetie (1188)
• India
13 Apr 09
well its getting common now. It was usually rich guys were getting wives 20 , 30 or even more younger to them but now the rich girls are doing same. i dont have a problem in that so long both are happy and getting from marriage for what they married for. Love is as they say blind and can happen with anyone.. i fail to understand the society accepts a 45 years old man to marry 20 years old woman but when 45 years woman marry a 25 years old man it somehow is not as much accepted. I think we should let the couple be happy and leave them alone.
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@hayabc (7)
• China
13 Apr 09
I think age is not a distance, as long as they love each other, respect each other, it can certainly happy!
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
I also hope age isnt a big problom,dear friend,but many many people can not accept this kind of marriage ,and yhey all said no to them :)
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