What is always a valid reason to breakup for you?
By n30wing
@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
April 15, 2009 1:39am CST
For me if the love is not there anymore. It's not gonna be easy if only one is in love. When their is a third party, when one is taken for granted, when their is changes between the couple, when there is so much pride, and when the relationship is not healthy for both partners. Have a nice day to all of you!
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6 responses
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
I have the following reasons for breaking up:
1. Infidelity
2. Lack of trust for a partner
3. selfishness
4. no more love
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
A valid reason to breakup would be if both parties decide it must end. Regardless if there isn't any love anymore with one party, that party should inform the other party that he/she has fallen out of the relationship. It's not enough to just leave her/him be, it's too painful. We must remember that at one point of another we too have fallen in love with him/her. So, in the same way, we must keep respecting the person by not leaving him/her without her/him knowing that you have lost heart.
I think that's the first way to let the person accept the fact. Yes, there will be tears, there will be begging and all of that. But at least he/she knows what your intentions are, and not being left confused and questioning oneself what happened and why the sudden desertion.
Learn to respect to be respected.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Hi laydee, Well you said that right, that learn to respect to be respected also. It's not easy to be left alone with out telling the person your leaving her/him. That once you have felt love with the person. That anyone would have a reason to breakup, and it's not that easy to understand it. No one would love the feeling of getting hurt. I think also it's better to say always good bye even the begging will be there, or you see the person in tears, but that person deserves to happy and look for someone else. Anyway have a nice day to you!
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I think the most valid reason for a breakup is catching my girlfriend red handed while doing something with another guy. I think that would really turn my love for her to hatred instantly. I think it's a total insult for me. I'm not sure if i can even forgive her but staying with her will only prove to be useless because i will always be reminded of the thing she did. It will forever haunt me so i guess it's best to just break up and move on and find another someone who will love me faithfully.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
Hi my friend modstar, I hope that wont happened to me. That is already degrading on the part of a man's ego. I don't think there will be something to talk about anymore. And I don't know if how would I control myself if that happens to me. That is ouch my friend! I'll just find someone also who could I deserve for my love. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@shikaymaru (700)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 09
I agree with you my friend. when that happen, better to let go than suffer more. Forever love do exist when you are lucky enough to find it. It takes both side to maintain a relationship. Our heart can be tricky and may change from time to time. What we think we're satisfied of might not be enough tomorrow. Our world is full of temptation. Its up to our self how to live our life, with or without your love one. For me, less is perfect.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Hi shikaymaru, why do our hearts get tricky and may change from time to time. That I don't understand. Once have love the person, after how many years it also flies same with your feelings. Yes usually there is always temptations, but it's how you avoid it. I think what counts is how much you love each other. Your priorities. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@james_gordon (42)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
im a married man, life is not easy, me and my wife always fight she always wanted to leave me and yet ahe is still with me until now. once you enter in a relationship you must know all the consequencies. for me the valid reason for breaking up is both are no longer love to each other,when both party are agreed to end things up,dishonesty..
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
Hi james_gordon, your right once you go inside a relationship you must know all the consequences of your actions. Especially when your married there is no way out but to fix everything. I think your right there if there is no love at all, both parties sooner or later will just drift away and forget it's us. Have a nice day to you!
