my xboyfriend called me in yahoomessenger yesterday, and he just need my help
By cassandradab
@cassandradab (400)
South Korea
April 15, 2009 5:16pm CST
i know my x boyfrind was very nice during our time,he been so kind and very great boyfriend i don't remember he asking something like lets sleep together,he didn't that is why i don't have any reason to angry and i got married with my husband i really love my husband than my exbf ofcourse but since last year he just suddenly send an offline messages to me, so i was surprised, so we been chatting once in a while he is in canada now with her wife he has a baby boy and i got mine 2 kids, but last week he open up to me his problem he said he spent too much money for her wife study but he don't care it, he working the field he doesn't like but he did because of her wife and baby,he told me his wife is really young than him he is 6 and his wife is 27 younger than me, he do everything in the house from cooking,laundry,cleaning and take care the baby and his wife only study.after his wife back home he going to work.he admit they have always a mild fight,but not rally serious,but his wife doesn't listen to him he said.but after his wife finished her study in canada, they had a misunderstanding that night but the wife packed up and gone she carry her baby.now canadian government help the girl to put into the shelter for that kind of situation. he ask help to the policebut the police say's she went out not missing so you wait until she come back.he talked to his wife but his wife said,im really feels good im already away from you,i dont need to see you,and i don't want to see you either. i'm worried because he always compared his wife to me its because my attitude is very from from her,does he expected that his wife will be better than me? now he need help because if his wife if don't want to come bnack with him he can't back to korea anymore.so he is planning to go to philippines to rest and refresh his mind.he don't want to stay in canada.is it the proper way to back out with the problem?do i need to help him?he said im only alone knows about the situation he can't tell anybody.why?
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@larish (2191)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Just be a good listener and a litlle advice to him will be enough.
@cassandradab (400)
• South Korea
15 Apr 09
yes i did it, and now if his wife doesn't want to come back he asking some help he want to stay in philippines for rest. but he want to stay longer there, i doesn't have enough money to stay there but he doesn't have choice,he don't know where to go,he can't back hre in korea he need to refresh his mind and to rest and to think more. i have boarding house in philippines for korean,do i ned to give him space?i owe him a lot he help my university tuition fee. so i think this time my time to return the goodness he did,but i don't know if this is right.
@cassandradab (400)
• South Korea
19 Apr 09
atlast my problem got solved.his wife will be back soon so i don't need to worry at all.thanks anyway
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
Well what kind of help does he need from you. I really think the help that you could extend to him is to hear his side of the story and give him the best advise that you can provide him as a friend. Beyond that I guess its too much already. You have already a family to take care of and as you have said you love your husband than your ex. Making extra effort to help your ex might imply a different meaning from your husband so its better to stay away from your ex before your husband knows about it.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
You might suggest places but not yours to avoid untoward incidences. I would advise you to avoid him now that you are committed woman. I am not saying that you might be tempted to live the past but you'll never know what could happen. As much as you can to help him find a place do it in a manner that will not involve you too much of an effort. Just give him a place then that's it no more than that. Although you may be paying gratitude to his goodness before but I really think it's rather inappropriate for you and your ex to be together anymore. That is if you protect you own family.
@cassandradab (400)
• South Korea
16 Apr 09
i know i am not in philippines now im in other country so there is no time to meet each other and i dont tend to met him either.i also don't want to involved with him what ever happend to him is his life.i accept i felt sorry for him thats only no more no less,also i know this is a big question and a big trouble if my husband will know. i think he will feel i cheted him. i told him don't run away with his problem now he need to fix before he leave if he wanted to.hope he will solve his problem, after that i need to move out of his life, thank you, your advise is really help me.now i felt like i cheated my husband and felt conscience for that
@cassandradab (400)
• South Korea
16 Apr 09
yes that is why i asking some piece of your advise too, i know he been helped me too much but it was our past now is the present, as what you have said i did to listen but he ask some places where to stay in philippines is now make me some headache. thanks for your effort to response my pleasure to have your help..
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