How would you react if your partner asked for a break in the relationship?

@pratik87 (1928)
India
April 16, 2009 9:28am CST
If you and your partner are fighting a lot lately and your partner says he/she needs a break from you how would you deal with it? Would you try to understand your partner's feelings and agree to it or dump your partner and take a break from the relationship altogether?
11 responses
@dodo19 (33691)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 May 09
Personally, I'd be really sad about it, but I would definitely accept and respect his decision, or at least, try to. It wouldn't be easy, but it would be the right thing to do. Eventually, I think that I would be able to accept and respect the decision that he made, and such.
• Canada
20 Apr 09
Every couple might need a break from each other at some point. I would not take this bad as I get the urge to take a little break or time away from my partner at times. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be on your own for a little while as long as things are in order within your relationship. However, as your question states, if there is an unresolved issue or constant fighting, I would think that it is still best to try to understand your partner's feelings and the reason behind their wanting to take a break. If you both think that your issues could not be resolved at the present time, some time apart might be helpful. Yet, this time has to be used for pondering on the relationship and looking for a way to mend it. If it's done just for the sake of getting away and/or meeting someone else, then it is better for everyone to go their own way anyway.
@pal7604 (98)
• Sweden
17 Apr 09
If you are mature enough to respect and accept one another, then you understand what relationship is all about. I am sure you do not want to fight all the time? Take a break and part as friends it is healthier.
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
It depends. If I also don't love him anymore, I will let him go and say cheers to me. But if I still love him, then definitely, I would be hurt.
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
it's a case to case basis i guess. If me and my partner quarrels a lot and he will ask that we should break up. I would agree with him, and in every relationship there are a lot of trials. you have to be very careful in making decisions if you have to let go. And stand on your ground whatever may happen.
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
17 Apr 09
Well, in my dictionary, a break would mean that our relationship would be temporarily ceased and i do mean TEMPORARILY. If the guy wants a break from me, i'd understand cz we've been fighting and things is a little messed up and you'll need some alone time to cool yourself down and to do that you'll need to get rid of the eyesore (a temporarily feeling, sometimes you just feeli irritated by your partner, it's what happens when you're together for a very long time) for awhile. But if the guy thinks that we won't be getting back together after that then i'd want him to say he wants to END the relationship and if it's valid and if he just doesn't love me anymore then i'd walk away, however hard that is.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Hi there! If our fighting is becoming a bothersome already and that it's affecting our daily lives including work and other stuffs, then I would agree with my partner in having a rest from the relationship. It's better to take a break and think things over rather than continue fighting that could lead into bad break up. It's better to part ways as friends. Ciao!
@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I don't believe in living together before marriage. to answer your question, though, I might be somewhat hurt but I would try to understnd my partners feelings. At the same time, I might like to talk things over with him and work something out.
• India
16 Apr 09
well i would like to let her be happy because i love my partner more than sh loves me . i would be better if i would be deserted than she would cry for her whole life staying with me .because when she cries i cry too .this is real love .well and i would also promise my partner that if she ever needs anything in life she would ask me from it . and actually ur this question is a bit true for me , since i have experienced this felling before , and now my partner is happy .and im happy for her too ..
@savypat (20246)
• United States
16 Apr 09
It might be a very good idea,if you take the break both of you will have time to reevaluate the relationship. You might find that you miss each other so much you are both willing to make the effort to patch things up or you may find life is much better without the stress you are going through now. What ever happens you will both know your selves much better. If you insist on hanging on now things will probably just get worse.
@baileycows (3669)
• United States
16 Apr 09
OMG! I would be mortified. I don't think that I could handle it I love my husband so much. I would really hate to hear this. I don't think I could understand. I woudl think that he just found someone else that he wanted to try out for a while, but knew he could always come back so i would tell him no. If he leaves he leaves for good.