I lost my job. I don't know what to do

@ajithlal (14108)
India
April 23, 2009 11:30am CST
I have lost my job and is very depressed and sacred and don't know what to do. Friends what should I do. I lost peace, happiness, hope and everything. I am having lots of negative feelings. Please tell me what to do?
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47 responses
• India
23 Apr 09
hi frined first u should be cool leave that job think positively ....u can get many jobs outside don't stick on that things may be god created a better opportunity for u...for that reason he take off this job.........always think positive...then ur life will be sooo coloufull friend....first u don't scared...all ur frds and family members with u only ...don't worry soon u will get a better job than that....by the way ur from which country if it's from USA it's difficult to get a good job soonnn....anyway try ur level best and rest leave it to god ....ok friend
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
I am very depressed friend. I am from India.
• India
24 Apr 09
don't get depress yar ...............if u have talent then surely u will get a better job than that job yar........don't worry soon u will get a good job
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
27 Apr 09
I finally got a new job, but with very less salary. My salary is only Rs 6,000 per month.
@tdemex (3547)
• United States
23 Apr 09
First file for unemployment ASAP! Get your resume up dated. Have some friends with brains look it over to be sure it's appealing. Go on line and use the search engines, there are a lot of them that are good, and start looking kepp a log of where you apply, that's for unemployment they require that! If you need some tips on the search engines pm me! I'm going thru the same thing only it's been 3 months! If you have kids go to family services for food and medical aid! Good Luck!! tdemex
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• United States
23 Apr 09
Good advice I must say, better than what I came up with. Take care tdemex:)
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
16 Oct 12
Thanks for the advise.
@maezee (17809)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Don't waste any time. Does your government have a type of "unemployment insurance" that you could get on? (We have it in the U.S. - not sure if you do, too, but it's like where you get a monthly check for $300 or something like that). Or some kind of assistance program for the needy? You should look into it, and try to do that as you look for another job. You should check out any job listing sites you have online and newspapers from your area - and start applying anywhere and everywhere you can! Post your resume online. And good luck finding another job!
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• Hong Kong
27 Apr 09
I think your suggestion is quite true. I once lost my job before but I didn't dare to find assistance at that time.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
16 May 09
Thank you all for your support. I finally got a another job this time with more increase salary Rs 8,000 a month. I got Rs 6,000 salary and just couple of days after before joining this job I got another job for Rs 8,000.
@MsAmazin (15)
• United States
25 Apr 09
I know how you feel, as I not too long ago went through this same situation and feelings. First I want to say is pull yourself together, I know it's hard and scary, but do it. You are no good to yourself all falled apart. Depression will only lead to unwanted stress and vice a vers. You already know what it is, meaning your situation, now it's time for you to get back on your A game. Start networking with other ppl, look thru the papers for jobs, civil servant posting , anywhere to help you bring an income in. Don't sit around moping it will do you know good and only cause unwanted health problems. Now I'm not attempting to make you think that all of this job hunting you will be successful in a day, nor will you snap out of your depression just as quickly, but help yourself help you, is the best and most sound advice I can offer you. You are scared, we all are when faced with new boundaries to overcome, but have confidence in yourself and you can do it..
@ajithlal (14108)
• India
27 Apr 09
I am suffering from depression and stress to some extend, but I am trying to overcome it.
• United States
27 Apr 09
Keep your head up and stay thinking positive, and try to keep busy, it will distract you from your depression. Like I said network with friends about jobs, check the papers and civil servant boards. Sometimes when starting all over we have to start all over, meaning at the bottom, taking a lesser pay then we are used to. I know it's easier said then done, but just remember there are people out here routing for you.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
27 Apr 09
I also think if I keep myself busy, I can probably get over my depression and stresses.
@trina48D (88)
• United States
23 Apr 09
It is very sad to be in your position. You sound like your entire life was wrapped up in your job. I can't imagine losing peace and hope over a job. Sounds like your job was your god. (I am sorry, I don't mean to sound harsh but my heart breaks for you feeling like your job was everything to you). Maybe it is time to reevaluate what is most important. God is our provider He can open doors for a better job if you open yourself to Him. Have you asked Him to help? To guide you to where He wants you? Have you ever considered repenting for putting your job at such a high level and choosing to not trust Him? He wants the best for you. I will pray that God would give you peace and hope and help you to know Him like you have never known Him before. He will provide.
• United States
24 Apr 09
Pleeeease! I'm in a similar situation, and I certainly have not made my job my God. It doesn't matter how big your faith is sometimes, its when is God choosing to have something come to pass for you. His thoughts are not our thoughts. It's hard to look in the fridge and see no food, or drop your isurance in your car, or drop your insurance you've had for years, or afraid to use the gas left in your car and have the bill collectors continue to call as they want an exact date for you to pay when you're being honest and telling them you just can't say. Don't tell her she made her job her God. She's concerned and worried. And I have compassion for you. But true, don't do like I did and let the depression get the best of you. Force yourself to do something, and absolutely, go to God and talk to Him likes He's your best friend, cuz He is. I'll pray for you right now. I thank Him for what He has in store for you, and as someone commented, sometimes He will force you from one place cuz He's got somethin' better for you. Just keep your eyes wide open when it shows up. But you must do your part also. Bless you.
@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
Pray for me friend.
@buenavida (6507)
• Sweden
26 Sep 09
I don´t know if this will help you - I just responded to another unemployed person from the USA. You could perhaps read it - maybe there are some ideas that you could use: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2141117.aspx?p=3#1_12260115 I hope you and others find solutions for this unemployment problem! Wish you the best.
@scheng1 (21409)
• Singapore
24 Apr 09
Hi Ajithlal, sorry about losing your job. I think you are very honest with yourself, at least you know that you placed too much emphasis on your job, so much so that your happiness is tied to your job. I think it's time for you to find out why losing your job is such a great deal. And to find out how people in your town make money without holding a full time job. There are a lot of people who makes money without working full time and facing the boss every day. And now is the time to find out what you are good at. Do you have any hobby or any skill that you want to learn? Since you have time, might as well develop another useful skills or turn your hobby into a business to make money.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
I am working as a medical transcriptionist and I an looking forward to get a job in it. I think I need to update my skills in it and do my best in the future.
@scheng1 (21409)
• Singapore
24 Apr 09
No wonder you feel so sad and lost. Most medical transcritionists are very quiet and dedicated employees. I hope you can develop some outside interests and hobbies. Actually your skills is in demand in a lot of countries, You may like send application to all the hospitals in your countries and all the medical laboratories. All the best to you, good luck.
• India
1 Jan 13
Hi friend, sad to hear about this. Hope you find a good job now, as you created this topic 4 years before. Hope you are settled down in a great job now and earn a good income from it. Don't give up your hope and confidence always try your maximum to face all your issues in your life. All the best
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
1 Jan 13
The discussion was started around four years ago and I had some tough times at that time, but I was able to find a good job within a month and more salary than that with the God's blessings.
@KrauseHome (28094)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Well, I know this discussion was started quite a while ago, so I am hoping things have gotten better for you since this post. A lot of people continue to still loose jobs all of the time, and it does get a little scary for sure. I know many times you hear about all the things going on and you begin to wonder when it might ever end. But just remember in anything you are enduring God is in control. Wishing you the Best.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
18 Mar 12
Yes it was the discussion started three years ago. Now I believe in God and believes that God loves us as a Father who loves his own children. God never gives a lock that cannot be open and God never gives us a problem that does not have solution. Most times when we open the door of problem we will be landing into a land of wonders or miracles. Everything happens for good. I was able to find a good job and more pay and a peaceful and less stressful life. God is really great.
• Hong Kong
27 Apr 09
I just read your other discussion that you got another job offer and therefore I wish you good luck with the new job, and hopefully your salary will rise really soon *smiles*.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
4 May 09
Thanks friend I got another job with salary and I hope my salary also improves in the future and I get as much amount as I got previously.
@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Look for another job and believe that you will get one.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
27 Apr 09
Thanks friend. I finally got another job, but with less salary. I think something is better than nothing.
@aefrosa (74)
• Portugal
24 Apr 09
It is important for you to take some time and think what you would like to do, what are your stronger points, and start looking for a new job. I went through that when I lost my job at age 47, after working 25 years in the same company. Establish yourself a routine, don't get up too late. Establish a daily plan and go out to see the oportunities. Talk to people. Another important thing is networking. Call your friends and tell your situation. They will pay atention and tell you if something shows up. Depending on your profession, online networking may also help. Can you detail more about your past job?
@ajithlal (14108)
• India
27 Apr 09
I have to get up in the morning and stop sleeping late. I am working as a medical transcriptionist.
@Yori88 (1469)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
I have been in your shoes before and want I did is that I cried a lot for few hours. After realizing my mistake is minimal compared to what my supervisor lied to me, I realized that my colleagues are not worth my trust and commitment to work. The company is of no problem to me but my co-workers yes they messed up my plans. I was termed from work due to failure to meet the metrics. I was then five months pregnant so I tend to be unfocused to work due to my condition. I was aloof and loner because I have lots of things running in my mind. Anyway I have put no blame to myself because I knew I did my part with minimal fault. Maybe that is my fate, that is what God has planned for me. My advice to you is to never lose hope. Cry for a while but then get back to yourself and compose it. Always think positive because when God closes a window He opens a door. Never give up and keep on looking for better and bigger opportunities outside. Think of the things that motivate you to work. Think of the things you want to achieve. Always remember that you need and you want a job. And again think that you are luckier than others, that will give you more confidence.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
I also think I have to get up very fast. It was something I didn't expect that is why I am very sad and confused not knowing what to do feeling very lonely and sad.
@gokhale (97)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Apr 09
I think you shold not panic. Have faith in God. He must have thought something better for you.Try to concentrate on your problem. I will tell you my fiends story. He was working in Africa. Last month he lost his job and returned to India. And to his surprise within a week he received a job offer from a company in Dubai.Can you belive it ? Today he is working in Dubai.
@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
Thank you all for being there. I also hope God has better plan for me and praying for it.
• India
24 Apr 09
I have my sympathy with you. Things are not going well now for anybody. All of us have this fear of losing their job and it may happen any day. Try not to be depressed just keep up the fighting spirit. If you have the internet at home just keep up the job search do not loose hope. Try to visit every office(related to your career) in your area and just give them a hard copy of your CV .... even if they say there is no vacancy.... some day vacancy will be there. Most important try to enhance your skills during this time and read a lot so that as and when the economy recovers you have the best chance of getting a job. And surely keep mylotting .... the interactions will always help you. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
I am little depressed, but I am happy after getting response and support from all you guys. I hope after sometime I will be okay.
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
Don't be afraid , be strong and be courageous, you can face the problem with he help of the Lord. Don't forget that if you will pray and ask the Lord, He will hear you. Jeremiah 33:3 Call unto men and I will you, proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. We are the same, I lost job and you can have a job thru online earnings . Here in my lot, you can earn too. Please don't entertain negative things. Pray and be more closer to God now.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
I am little fear, but I believe in God and hopes He will bring good things for me.
• India
24 Apr 09
DON’T LOSE HOPE…that is the first thing I would tell you to do. Secondly, if you have some money, then relax and with a cool mind, start scanning newspapers and start applying. Both my husband and me have lost our jobs many times in our 12yrs of marriage…but we keep a buffer of at least 6months expenditure in the banks so that way, we have some time. Thirdly, cut down your personal expenses and modify your budget. Losing a job maybe painful and shameful to us but it’s a reality we must face…the more we face it with a clear mind, the better for us. Talk to friends and acquaintances about any openings they may know of…make it sound lighthearted…like a joke on the recession which finally got you! Remember, people have this peculiar tendency to always support a person who seems smiling and cheerful…grumpy, worried, nagging people are avoided. Fourth – take a second look at your CV and update it to your best advantage. Lastly, if you have money, you can think of trying something new…after all job is a job and you are always under another person.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
I will cut down all my expenses for few days until I get good job.
@subha12 (18472)
• India
24 Apr 09
First of all sorry. But do not take this negatively. I know its easier to say so.But try to contact all networks to get new one. In which field you are working? Try to update resume.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
I am working as a medical transcriptionist subha.
@iskayz (5426)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
I hope it's not like it's the end of everything to you.. Don't lose hope. I'm sure you are talented enough and skillful to find another job. Just keep your thoughts together and be strong. Ciao!
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
Thanks I will try to keep my thoughts straight and will spend my time in positive way.
@suspenseful (40331)
• Canada
24 Apr 09
First you have to get out and look for a new one. Find out also why you lost your job and if it is because of the recession then it is not your fault. However if you did something wrong, you have to examine yourself and see that you do not repeat the same mistake. Then since there is a recession take whatever job there is. Go talk to someone. It sounds as if you are suffering from depression and you need professional help.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
I am suffering from little depression right now, but think I will be fine after the weekend.
@malsun (1528)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I know it is easier said than done. But your have to keep your nerves on check and try to be positive. You have to understand that you are not alone in this. Hundreds of thousands of people are facing this predicament as we speak. The best thing is to hunt for another job and not be choosy right now. Take this time to update your skills,enhance your knowledge. Manage your finances carefully. And this hard time will pass. All the very best to you.
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@ajithlal (14108)
• India
24 Apr 09
I asked again and again give me one chance just one more chance, but I didn't get it and thats why I am so much depressed. I think I have to manage finances carefully and also need to update my skills.