What would you do....

United States
April 28, 2009 3:31pm CST
If you had a friend that you did not see eye to eye on parenting issues and she constantly undermined your authority on play dates, ect. Or if you see a friend disciplining her own child in a way you think is innappropriate? How do you call attention to it without stepping on any toes, or do you just let it be?
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@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
29 Apr 09
Friends do not interfere in things that are none of their business. What could be more personal than the way you are raising your child? Your friend should be able to discipline her child anyway she chooses, and you should not interfere unless she asks. If you want to remain friends, mind your own business, and stay out of your friends business.
• United States
29 Apr 09
I'm gonna have to disagree with you on this one. I do not think a friend, no matter how good of a friend, has a right to discipline their child any way they choose in front of you, as a previous poster said, what if someone else saw her doing it and misread it as abuse, and I was just sitting there like it didn't bother me? And to correct My child when I am sitting right there handling it is not ok. So thanks for responding but I don't agree with you.
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
28 Apr 09
I would have a talk with BOTH of them. The one who is undermining your authority...I'd explain to her that you enjoy her friendship but you do NOT appreciate some of her habits. Explain very matter of fact the things that bother you. Tell her that if she doesn't stop, you will no longer be participating in the play days with her. She may not even realize what it is she's doing. Once you explain it to her...if she continues to do it, stop going out with her. Be honest with the one you disapprove of her handling of disciplining her child. You don't have to accuse her of anything. Maybe point out to her how it might look to others with the way she does things. Tell her you're worried it could get her into trouble if someone reports her for her behavior. My guess is that both of these ladies has NO idea how you feel!!! The only way they can know is if you speak from the heart. Don't attack but be tactful. Be prepared for both to resent your opinion. Sometimes stepping on toes is the ONLY way to get your point across. I definitely wouldn't just let it be. I'd have to say something!!!