How do i make my friend understand that the girl whom he love dont love him??

India
April 30, 2009 11:14pm CST
One of my friend loves a Girl and that girl also tells that she love my friend. But some days back i heard that the girl is telling lie to my friend and just playing with him. and today i knew what ever i heard is true. My friend is very close to me and we are best friend. so i told him about this but he don't believe me, he is blind in her love. now he is not talking to me and not receiving my calls. he don't want to talk to me. i don't know how to make him understand that the girl is playing with his feelings. someone please help me..
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9 responses
@KrauseHome (35292)
• United States
2 May 09
Personally I think it would be in your Best interest to just still try and be there for your friend if he will let you, but at the same time let him experiment with that relationship and see how things will turn out in the end. If it is like you said in time, it will all come out, and then he will need a Friend and shoulder to lean on. So even if you feel that this situation is not working out for the Best, just learn to stand back and be there no matter what.
• India
2 May 09
First of all i would like to thanks everyone who replied and helped me to solve this problem, i would like to thank everyone. and after reading all comments, i think that i cant do anything now,i can only wait for that time to come when my friend will know everything. and as a friend its my responsibility to stand with him on his hard time. and im thankful to every one here.
@ralphido (843)
• India
1 May 09
well.. hope you heard the saying .. Love is Blind.. i think there is nothing much you could do about it... now,if everything you say is right, then , he is in for a big surprise and a very bad one for that... the only thing for you to do is make sure you are there for him when the time comes.. don't abandon him just because he is cross with you now.. believe me, he will really appreciate it when you are there for him in those hard times...
• India
1 May 09
ya you are right.. i cant do anything now... and when he will come to know about this he will really get hurt. he is my friend and we are always there to help each other.... so i will never leave him. i think i should wait for that time. Thanks for your reply....
@chiyosan (29867)
• Philippines
1 May 09
i think he knows that the girl is not into him... but he keep son insisting about it because he loves the lady and wants her to be with him. let him know there are other people, other girls who would be willing to love him more than he'd ever know, right?
• India
1 May 09
May be he knows it already and ya it may be possible that he is ignoring all these things..... but i don't think people become so much blind in love. he is not listening me may be he will listen to other Friends.. i have talked to them and they told that they will help me. well thanks for your reply.....
@srganesh (6349)
• India
1 May 09
Ask your friend to fix a dating with that girl and talk over all the things and propose again.This time he will surely understand her intentions.I think,she will refuse a dating even,if she is playful.And your friend will know the truth.Cheers!
• India
1 May 09
i dont think this will work... because he already have got lots of such incidents by which any one can easy catch that the girl is playing... but i don't know what has happened to him... i mean he is blind... well thanks for your reply. but we can try this once. Thanks
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
1 May 09
People don't want to hear bad news about people they love. As a friend, it is really hard to stand back and watch someone in a bad relationship. I think sometimes it is best to play dumb to these things and know that sooner or later your friend will figure it out and need you as a friend. Either way...your friend will figure it out that you were telling the truth and just trying to help him. I would just back off for now and let him come to you.
• China
2 May 09
Love makes people lose their mind ,you don't do anything,jut leave your friend alone,it's not work to tell him ,you can't predict the future,everthing is possible.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
2 May 09
How do you make ur friend understand. Hello bindasboy, I"m happy to say that as a good friend,you've done your part which was to try to tell ur friend the truth as you knew it and what was going on. But if he refused to believe it, that is his own fault. You've done ur part, now all you need to do is just back on up out of the way and allow him to see things for himself. Believe me, if she's messing around on him and telling lies sooner or later the truth will come out. In the meantime you may feel as though you lost a good friend. But take heart b/c a true friend would never desert you....Best wishes and good job!
@4u2enjoy (301)
• Malaysia
1 May 09
Just give him a few more days. Let him discover himself that he is being cheated. Actually we as friends do not interfere in things such as love. We help them we they need us but when it comes to love its better to let him handle himself.
@dodo19 (33037)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 May 09
Sometimes, people who really love another person don't really want to hear this sort of things. If he really doesn't want to listen to you, even after countless times, then there's not much more that you can do. You've tried to talk to him, and that's it, really. I don't think that there's more that you can do. I know it's not easy to stand by and watch your friend do this to himself, but like I said, there's nothing more that you can do. In time, you can just hope that he will realize this, and that things will be put into place.