How Do You Deal With A Breakup?

Belize
May 3, 2009 11:10pm CST
Are you one who lives by the motto, "bad for the heart, good for the economy?" and shops your way to feeling better and more debt? OR, do you hide away from the world, locked in a chasm of chocolates, tears, old memories and constant girl talks about, 'he's no good?' OR, do you just pretend like you're not hurt and try to get over it as quickly as possible?
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• United States
4 May 09
Hello Simply_The_Best and welcome to mylot.com! When is comes to me and relationships I have had my share of heartbreaks. I have also been the one who breaks the hearts not purposely though! The reaction that comes from me after a break up from a relationship usually depends on how long me and that person has been together, what were the circumstances that lead up to the break up, also who the person is. I am not the type of female that lets my world comes to an end because of one bad relationship or losing a relationship because that shows dependency on that person and when you are truly an independent person you are not easily broken. And not to say that there has not been relationships where I have shed tears but I didn't cry to the point that I felt like I could not go on with my life because I am a strong believer in the sayings that God doesn't put more on you than you are capable of bearing, also the saying that there are more fish in the sea and last but not least the saying that when one door closes another on e opens. A lot of times after breaking up with a boyfriend I am the type of person would love to have that person as a friend especially if there were no deep feelings between us or no bad blood when ending the relationship. There has also been relationships were I rather that we go a head and end things and not have anything to do with each other ever again. Relationships like that for me are rarely though, well anyways Simply_The_Best thank you so much for allowing me to have my input on this discussion. Also once again welcome to mylot.com I hope you enjoy participating on this site but untill next time NakitaLikely3617 is out! Have a nice day!
• Belize
4 May 09
Awesome! Have a great day yourself!! ;)
@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
4 May 09
i just have one recently. i am fresh for a new start, new life. apart from my mylot postings, in the real world i hide away from friends, locked myself in my own miseries, and just bear the pain alone. i don't want him to be in the bad light with our common friends. now i am on that part of pretending i am no longer hurt and yes, i am trying my best to get it over quickly.
• Belize
4 May 09
Wow. That can't be healthy?
@techgurl (451)
• Greece
4 May 09
First I cry my heart out, and then I just go out with my friends and have fun. The thing is to realize that being single is not bad at all. Plus having fun and doing things that make you happy will keep your mind off him and help you get over him more easily.
• Belize
4 May 09
Good thing everyone is different.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
4 May 09
I try to pretend that Im not hurt, but I end up hurling myself into a wicked cycle of sleeplessness .. I work out a lot, as well as clean. I also try to revisit things around me and about myself that I may have neglected due to involving myself so heavily into a relationship.. usually hobbies.
• Belize
4 May 09
My sister-in-law does this. I laugh at her especially when she launches into her cleaning frenzy!
• Philippines
4 May 09
usually when i break up with my boyfriend is i cry for almost 2weeks and when im finally fed up with my self pity and misery..i pick up myself..get a make over, shop but not too much leaving myself with more to pay for my credit cards...eat my way out anything i want to eat. I dont usually think seriously of what my friends say about the man i broken up with since they are not the one who spent time with him so i know the man much better and i know what went wrong in the relationship. and then when all things are said and done...i think of better things to do than just willow in corner...and moved on. and pray that what situations that brought to break up wont be repeated on to hte next serious relationship. best of luck
• Belize
4 May 09
I must be a different type of female. Even when I dated, and the relationship didn't work, I simply said, 'Ok, great, later' and I literally moved on never to look back. No crying, no shopping sprees, no joining groups for 'he's a total jerk'. I never had the time to do that. My mom has always wondered about if I have a heart of not lol