the relationship between me and my boss

@fan2009 (122)
China
May 5, 2009 2:20am CST
I am puzzled about what to do when my boss flattered me.He gave me a rise and arranged easy work for me.I can't resist him but I have a boyfriend.We have been getting on well with my boyfriend.I only smiled at him and accepted his offer.But I am afraid that my boss will request further and I can't manage it.I wont refuse him and I dont want to cheat my boyfriend.What should I do next?
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5 responses
@kedves (728)
5 May 09
Tell your boss thank you for showing his attention and you are happy he is pleased with your work and that you enjoy working for him. Say it in a way that he knows that you appreciate his praise for your WORK. Hopefully he will realise that as far as you are concerned it is purely work related and nothing further. If he does step over the line then just say to him its not a good idea to mix business with pleasure and you already have a boyfriend you are close to but thank him for his attention.:) You don't mention if hes married or older or if you are feeling more towards him than just employee/employer if you do then you have to decide if its worth the risk of losing your job if things go wrong or losing the friendship and respect of people you work with because you are dating the boss.
@fan2009 (122)
• China
5 May 09
Thank you.His kindness is beyond pure work.I know my work didn't worth his praise and the extra money.it is hard to choose how to get along with my boss.I am afraid my co-workers will gossip behind me.
@fan2009 (122)
• China
5 May 09
He is realy flirting me.It is a tough problem for me
@kedves (728)
5 May 09
I think you need to confront him and tell him he is putting too much pressure on you. Tell him again that you thank him for his pleasant attitude and that you appreciate his kindness but the only relationship you are willing to have is professional. I would also suggest that if he persists and makes life unbearable for you that you then go to a higher boss or personnel dept and make a formal complaint. NO woman should be made to feel pressured into personal relationships with anyone s=especially not her boss. YOu have to be strong and stand your ground and never let anyone intimidate you otherwise you will be used all the time and you deserve more than that. Good luck always :)
@mhethess (380)
• Philippines
5 May 09
Be wise, Always remember that you have a boyfriend, if you put high regards on your relationship take care, maybe the boss is just taking advantage of you, tell your boyfriend about it. Always keeps a respectable image don't let anyone looks or treats you the way they want let them treat you the way you want a respected individual Bye God Bless can we be friend?
@fan2009 (122)
• China
5 May 09
thank you for your response.I should think twice before getting in touch with my boss.maybe he is taking advantage of me.But I can resist his kindness to me
@wgh423 (65)
• China
6 May 09
If u'r promoted not because ur high ability,u should care ur boss's next step,he must tell u his expection,if you cann't meet him,why not consider to change the job? Of course,u should discuss with ur boyfriend,maybe he can give u better suggestion.
@srganesh (6348)
• India
5 May 09
Your boss is misusing his powers.Tell him about your boyfriend and your intentions of getting married with your boyfriend.That will clearly tell your boss,you have nothing more to have with him.And he will stop flattering you and stop chasing you.The risk is you will be given tough works.Take that challenge.Cheers!
@dianmelydia (2272)
• Indonesia
5 May 09
Boyfriend is who suppose to be your future husband. Boss, no matter how old is he or how did he treat you, your relationship capacity with your boss is limited to professional relationship, in your case is co-worker. I think you should be honest to your boyfriend about your situation now. I know you must be so much in love with your boyfriend, so you must respect his feelings too. I don't think you are on dilemma since you didn't do any flirt affair with your boss, so i believe you still can manage it. If possible, i think you better propose your marriage with your boyfriend. Good luck and have a nice day. Happy mylotting.