Have your kids ever wrote on car windows with window chalk?

@tammytwo (4305)
United States
May 14, 2009 8:55am CST
Well, my son is a senior in high school and him and two friends decided to go out and write on the underclassmen's car windows with window chalk last night. We knew they were going to do it and had no problem because his have been written on numerous times and it's somewhat of a tradition around here. Well apparently one of the girl's parents didn't think it was appropriate and of course the friend who wrote on the front got a little color on her daughter's decal at the top of the windshield. So we took the boys over to talk it out, knowing this family blows everything out of proportion and it wouldn't end up being easy to deal with. When we got there the father was civil about it and our boys said they would pay to replace the decal. Well that wasn't good enough for the mom and she felt the need to yell at my son. So of course I took up for my child. He admitted his mistake and said he would pay to correct it. Now if my son had been out actually destroying things I would have been very hard on him. But it was a simple little thing that all kids do every year and she was going nuts over it. Of course she then went on to say how her kids don't do anything wrong. She then called the police department and told them I should make an apology for standing up for my kid. I won't apologize for doing my job as a parent. I know he was in the wrong and shouldn't have chosen to do something to someone who he knew would lose their minds over it. The boys didn't mean to get the window chalk on the decal but they did and agreed to pay for it. That should have been the end of it. But of course she won't let it go. How would you have handled it if it were your child? Do you think it is such a big deal for kids to write on other's windshields with window paint?
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@madasp (563)
• United States
14 May 09
I would have handled it exactly like you did. There are just some parents who are over the top and there is nothing you can do about it. Writing on windows with chalk is a tradition for the highschoolers around here too. My kids have done it several times during homecoming and now prom, graduation, etc.. I've had my car "chalked" a few times when my daughters drove it to school or just if its sitting in the driveway. Its not a big deal and since your son apologized and offered to pay, you and he couldn't have done anything more. If this woman wants to blow it out of proportion thats her problem and you shouldn't feel bad. The person I feel sorry for here is that womans daughter. Imagine how embarrassed she must feel to have her mother behaving like that.
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@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
14 May 09
Yes, the daughters are truly the ones that should be embarrassed but they have grown up to act just like their mother. I hate that this woman can't see the kids were just having a little fun and truly not meaning to hurt anything. I think the reason she has been so hateful over it is because I have family that works for the police department and I'm afraid she is going to make such a big deal over that. My son has never been in trouble and was truly upset because he had done something that got us involved. He has been a good kid and I feel so lucky to know this is truly the worst thing he has done in his 18 years.
• United States
14 May 09
I think that it is perfectly mormal for kids to be doing that. I would not have handled it any differently. You knew about it before he and his friends were going to do it and it was blown out of proportion by the girls mother. He admitted it was wrong and he'd pay for the decal. It should have stopped at that. I don't think that its a big deal. I did it as a teenager. The chalk washes right off and many people view it as a joke. Maybe the mother thought her daughter was specifically being targeted at in a negative way, but she took it too far.
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@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
14 May 09
Thank you for your response. I thought the same way and I am happy this is the only bad thing he has done in his 18 years.
@Foxxee (3654)
• United States
15 May 09
I think its fine to use window chalk, but only if the owner of the car agrees, otherwise that is wrong. I say this because window chalk isn't easy to clean off the car, more so the decal. Yes your son said sorry & offered to pay, as he should do so. I don't think the other parent was in the wrong to be upset, she had every right. She probably could of backed off a little, but hey, what can you do about it? If my kids were going out to window chalk someones car, I probably wouldn't let it happen, unless I knew the owner was all for it. Here where I live you can actually get in serious trouble & get a ticket if caught doing this to someones car that didn't give you conscent. I know this because I was once a kid myself & also did this myself. As for the other mother saying her kids do no wrong, well... maybe thats how she sees it, but I'm sure her kids do some wrong, as all kids do. :D
@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
15 May 09
Well, the girl got her new set of decals and an extra set to boot. Then we found out she was planning to get new ones anyway. The mother had the right to be upset I guess. But she had no right to cuss at my son. She was way out of line. This is something that has been done to my son's car numerous times and I have been told her daughter was involved in a few of those times. This isn't considered vandalism or even a crime in our area because they were using window chalk, which is made to be used on windows. Yes, it got on the decals, which were old and weathered. The issue was after a person says they will take care of the matter the mom had no right to tell my kid she should stick a foot up his a$$. And her husband has made the comment numerous times that these are lucky he didn't catch them because he would have hurt them. This is a crime, it's considered a threat. Not to mention what father in their right mind threatens to beat up a kid????
@Foxxee (3654)
• United States
17 May 09
Yeah I agree the adults shouldn't have cussed at your son, that is imature. He said sorry & that would of been good enough for me. Some parents get a little hot headed or over react at times.
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
19 Jun 09
I never expierenced this type of situation till now a my kid is just studing in pp-2 and he always plays with his own toys and if at all he wants others toys he wants me to request them on behalf of him and to say he never touches the others things though it is the car and he always writes on our own walls with the colour pencils and i never stop him doing so as if we say no they tend to do more and more.
• China
15 May 09
I don't have a child,but my niece used to write or just do some graffitos on the clear wall of my room!I cann't get angry,because she's a litter child,how can I rage about a child who don't know what she's doing? So, i just shake my head```