If somebody was in prison, you don t accept to be friend with him? why?

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
May 16, 2009 8:24pm CST
I read about somebody who must to marry, and because shes future husband was in jail, she don t marry any more. And she don t ask him why....this, in my opinion is a big mistake...i know peoples who was in prison for a small mistake, or for others mistakes. Do you think that you can be friend with somebody who was in prison or even marry him?
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• United States
17 May 09
Oh, Icesmile! This one is really easy for me. My husband is in prison. He didn't commit the crime he's there for, and we're working hard at getting him a re-trial so he can come home. I know a lot of people think all inmates say they're not guilty, but that isn't true. When I go there to visit, the inmates tell about what they've done, and it's often pretty awful. There are some others who aren't guilty, and that's a horror, but it happens. In Florida, where we live, the laws and the courts are very backward-thinking, and the sentences are extremely harsh. I've met a lot of really nice people in prison, as well as some horrible ones. They're pretty much the same as anywhere else. Incarceration shouldn't change anything about relationships unless a person has committed a crime their loved ones can not live with.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
17 May 09
I am so sorry, really, i think that is so hard for you. When a person is guilty, is hard, but accept more easier that must to pay...but when is not guilty is terrible, if is not strong enaught, can be a person who get crazy. Any way, you have all my admiration...for life experience.
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• United States
22 May 09
Wow! Another BR! I love it! I'm going to visit my husband tomorrow, and we still try to find any way we can to get back into court - they've denied all but one re-trial, which was cancelled because the attorney showed up drunk. The jerk wouldn't refund my money, either! We'll never give up!
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
22 May 09
@plddre79 (161)
• United States
17 May 09
i would naturally assume that the person in question committed a serious crime that entails multiple years of incarceration that did not serve her purpose in life.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
17 May 09
Of course not a serious crime, just mistakes who even you or me can do.
@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
17 May 09
Yup, but for me if the girl refuses to marry the man, it's really her prerogative to which she's entitled. Her marrying him should not something that's forced...if she changes her mind, I wouldn't blame her. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, and the girl may have come to realiz she could not marry an ex-convict, never mind if the offense is a minor one. If the girl has already made up her mind, we just have to respect that decision. Marriage should be something voluntary, so no one can really force her--she could have her reason too.
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
17 May 09
but i know people so nice and honest who..for a mistake pay all life, is not fair.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
18 May 09
i think i couldn't accept that if my BF goes in jail.i won't choose to marry him becausei don't want much trouble things come to me.yes,i care about my feeling from him.or maybe my love won't go soon,but i don't choose marry to him i think.