If you want marry with someody with other religion...you will be agree to change

@icesmile (7160)
Romania
May 19, 2009 1:31pm CST
....your religion if he/she ask to you this? Can a religion to be changed very easy even is just for love...to be with who you love more in this world? Is fair if he/she ask you to change your religion? Will you accept, just to change.. and you will keep your religion hide? Can be a religion changed very easy as a old clothes? Or God is only one, and don t matter in what languace you will say ..GOD.? Is a sign of love if you are agree with this? or a weaknest sign?
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
20 May 09
I don't think my faith in God has something to do with my relationship. I think they're two different things which really shouldn't mix. Now, if i fall in love with someone from a different religion, then i would still keep my religion. There are ways to make a relationship work despite the fact the we differ in faith. If she asks me to do it, then sorry but i have to disappoint her. I don't think it's fair at all because when one loves a person, you must love him/her no matter what his/her beliefs are. There should be respect in that aspect.
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
20 May 09
That's a difficult one! lol! well i guess it can be negotiated. But if ever the kid wishes to change his religion when he grows up, then there's nothing i can about it.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
this is the real problem...when they talk about kids...is difficult to take a decision
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
you right, but if in this relation will be a kid? in what religion he will be?
@Pitgull (1522)
• United States
19 May 09
Follow your heart. Despite what 'God' may offer you, I believe we should look to making heaven on earth, if you will. When people are happy, and with a person who respects, loves, honors, and cherishs them--there is nothing that can come between you. Building up a team, a family, friends you love, that love you. Isn't that what life is about? Having people that will be there through everything, working to survive notwithstanding the hardships of life? If you have faith in your 'God,' accept opportunities to learn more about life, other people, other religions, and to learn more about yourself and your 'God.' I wish you the best. If you are in love, and you believe this person is right for you, religion should not be a barrier. Religion should be ground from which you can unite.
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@Pitgull (1522)
• United States
28 May 09
I do not want to downgrade what religion means to and does for other people, only to say that your religion should not prevent you from happiness. If you believe in your 'Goddess/God' then I would be willing to trust the good people that maybe were sent to us for a reason....regardless, when we see good in other people, we should not turn them away because something else says no. What we feel can be the truest answer we ever need. Best of luck, and much happiness to you.
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 May 09
nice words...sometimes i am sure that people are really the best what God let on this earth...you right, religion dosn t matter
@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
20 May 09
if i have no religion,i think i will be ok to accept his religion.but if our religion 's rule and soul have much different.i think the prolbem is not changing religion.you should consider what else different from him and are you sure understand what he wants in his life.different religion means different valued of life sometimes.so if you don't care his value of life is different from yours.marry him.don't worry much.
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@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
20 May 09
ah,i know this is just a question."you" i pretend to use for your question here.lol.good day
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
is just a question about peoples who have different religion...and my opinion is that really don t matter..
• India
19 May 09
if u love some one and married him after u want to change ur religion or u want to continue with ur religion it's ur own opinion.....no one should force in that point.bcz all of us having many religions but some people love there religion and some people don't like religions ..in my point of view the if he/she did a love marriage mostly in India follow husband's religion .but we can follow any religion in India ...that's ur opinion....but i am stressing no one should compel any one to follow any specific religion
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 May 09
it s not talk about about force or not...is just a question if you can do this for who you love...
• India
20 May 09
if u love anyone we should not consider religion...religion doesn't play any role in the love....love it will not come depending upon the religion ......if any one loving depends upon their religion then surely we can say that that's not a true love.....this is my opinion yar
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
is my opinion too...as i say God is only one, and we must keep Him in our heart, love for somebody is something else...
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
19 May 09
I don't think you should change your religion for any reason other than that you feel you need to. If your faith is strong, something like falling in love cannot affect your religion. If you feel your loved one's religion is more relevant than your own, then perhaps you are not happy with your religion anyway and this is what spurs you to change. By 'you,' I do not mean any specific person - this is just a general 'you,' if you understand me! If your fiance tries to get you to change your religion, then that could be a warning sign that he may want to change other things about you. After all, why would anyone want to change the person they fell in love with? Good discussion.
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 May 09
yes, who love somebody , love for what he/she are, with all what he have. Who want change...maybe is better to find somebody else.
@joy1234 (33)
• India
20 May 09
It's is a tough topic.As we all know everybody has a identity regardinig religion. Love is unique feeling that happens,regarding of caste or religion.Above all 'Understanding' is most important.So,no problem!!!,who ever wants to convert,acceptable.
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
love have a great power...
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
20 May 09
I'm a firm believer that if a person truly loves another they would accept and respect the differences INCLUDING religious choices....My husband isnt religious but my ex boyfriend is Christian and if he'd asked me to convert I would have laughed at him and told him he was mad as a hatter....I'm on the spiritual path I am for a reason, its part of who I am and has helped me become the person I am...the person he loves...so to ask me to change wouldnt make sense to me..and I'd never do it
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
you right, and if i want change my religion, because i want to be with him..will be my choice, not because he ask me this...is a good sense decision
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
19 May 09
I think it depends on how different religions you are talking. I was raised Catholic and my husband Baptist. We are both Christians, but from one end of the spectrum to the other. We decided to go out and find a church where we both felt comfortable worshiping. We ended up Lutheran.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 May 09
Was a problem? religion is a problem? i don t think so...even is very different. love is just one
• United States
19 May 09
This would not be a problem for me as of now...because I'm an athiest I used to belive in god when I was a kid but that's just because I was young and nieve and my parents used "scare tactics" and told me "fairy tail" like storys about god. I'm not trying to put anyones religon down or anything though, everyone has their own belifes and I respect them. I suppose if the girl I loved insisted I accept her religion I would try my best to become religiously active again. But if I did have a religon I truly belived and had faith in I wouldn't change it for anyone, unless I had some sort of divine experience that inspired me to do so.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 May 09
you right, to have faith or not, or what kind of faith, is only a personal choice, and don t matter in a love problem. God, is one. And love is one too. And both must be separated.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
19 May 09
I do not fall in love with a woman because of her religion, neither is she. So basically religion should not be in the way between our LOVE relationship, it is always clear between me and the one i want to marry, religion is just part of my life and not my 'whole' life.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 May 09
you very right, religion can t influence what somebody feelings, this is sure,
@jellymonty (2352)
20 May 09
seriously whoever invented religion should be shot in my opinion as religion just divides people. I wouldnt give a dam what religion he is, if we are in love we are in love and everybody keeps their religion.. religion would not be an issue for me.. people that make a big deal of religion really should be enlightned...
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
you right...who care about this if 2 peoples want to be toghether? who? can somebody try to change?
@anangf (1146)
• Indonesia
20 May 09
I have simple answer about that. If i love her, and of course she love me too. i create a requirement that she must participate in my religion. Its a must. If not, i will surely leave her. My religion basically prohibit married accross religion. "please go away..i will find another love".
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
please go away? i hope that never i don t meet a man who will say to me this words...so, religion is very important for you..love is not?
@turones (206)
• Philippines
20 May 09
Love is more powerful than personal beliefs so love should always comes first. But it is also important to share the same beliefs with someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with to avoid any conflicts. One should give way and change his/her religion.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
i respect your opinion
• Malaysia
20 May 09
a religion cannot be changed easily just because of love even if you like someone, you still can remain your own religion if that somebody force you to change your religion that is not love anymore perhaps!
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 May 09
maybe you right, love is more important, God is inside us , not in our papers
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
26 Aug 09
The things I believe in when it comes to religion are deeply ingrained in who I am, so I don't really think I could just up and change all that. I guess if the two religions are close to being the same then we might be able to just combine the two but if they were too different, then I don't think it would work. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
20 May 09
I'm getting married this coming September, I was raised Baptist and he was raised Catholic. Big difference, but we don't see it has being any kind of issue. Neither of us will be making the other change. And the important thing is, we are both firefighters, in different settings, he's structural and I'm wildland, and we both believe in God. Neither of us are hung up on the beliefs of each religion. We will be having an outdoor ceremony, non-denominational, since both of our families will be there. I don't think that one should be made to change their religous beliefs for another, I do think it should be discussed long before the marriage, as it could cause issues later on.
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@glesil_00 (1142)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
Is it that religion will be change during wedding? When two person fall in love and they have different religion, maybe this two person will talk where they will solemnized in the husband or wife church? It doesn't matter to me if i have a partner who is different from my religion and if marrying him will result for me to change my religion, i will have to try it only after of having studied his religion. I will not give up easily what mine because i grew up in that and he only came to my life when i am already old enough to understand the religion and marriage, and all about life. We have different religion but we only worship one god and it is according to our religion who is that God. It has different name but in the end it is only one.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 May 09
I think that couples who have the same religion, it's easier to get along with things, anywhere from what kind of church you get married in to what kind of church your children will attend... but then again I also think that if you love someone you should not care what they're religion is as long as it doesn't go against yours, or as long as they do not go against your religion. Luckily my fiance and I believe in the same things and are of the same religion, we are happy being Christians and learning what we need to know about our savior!
@adoremay (2065)
• Philippines
20 May 09
First, to avoid future happenings like that, I'd see to it that I will commit to someone who has the same religion with me. I value my religion that much.
@flaredust (728)
• Indonesia
20 May 09
If that is me who started the relationship, i will try to know her religion first before try to approaching her. Because for me religion is the most thing we must keep. I don't want to change religion, and also I don't want to change other people's language too. If it possible we could marry but still keep our own religion. She still with her religion, I'm with mine. As long as we live based on tolerance, it is not a problem to maintain.
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