If you were told you had one day to live, would you have any regrets?

That's certainly true, we can't go back and change anything. The most we can do is to make any mistakes we've made better, here in the present. Life is very precocious and we never know how long we have, exactly, so we should always try to do our best, no matter what.

You make a very good point, juan. We all make mistakes but, as long as those mistakes were made with good intentions and we've been able to learn and grow from them, there is no need for regret. When we can do that, we grow stronger and wiser. It sounds like you are a perfect example of that! I congratulate you!

I have cousins scattered all over the United States but I'm not particularly saddened that we haven't kept in touch because, apparently, they're not upset by it so I shouldn't be, either. Actually, most of my remaining family are religious fanatics, most of whom do not practice what they preach, so I'm not upset about not staying in touch. You are a prime example of why I question religion. You wish you had had children when there are so MANY men out there who run from the responsibility once they become fathers. Who does that hurt? The children and the mothers of those children. Oh, I know that there are women out there who've had children and run from the responsibility but it's usually the men who do the running. It's all so unfair! The ones being hurt are the innocent ones! Why not "adopt" someone? I've always wanted a daughter but there's no way that'll happen now unless I marry again to someone who has a daughter... a step-daughter would be as good as the real thing to me. I have a young friend who sort of adopted me when she was a kid. She even called me "Mom". We've lost touch since she moved to Arizona but it was really great once she had children of her own. She'd bring them by to see me, just as any daughter would. I loved playing with my "adopted" grandchildren! I do miss that but, who knows? I may still have that "daughter" one day, even if it's my sons' girlfriends/wives! Plus, I still have the memory of my "adopted" daughter and that always makes me smile. Even though she's not in my life now, I'm thankful that she wanted to share a little of her life with me. Also, you shouldn't dismiss having your own... you never know what the future holds! Men can have children MUCH later in life than women can. Oh, hey! I have a son you could have! I'll even ship him to you! Nah, just kidding. He can be a real pain sometimes, but I still love him.

I'm not very religious...more to the point, not at all. I'm...how would you say..."spiritual" by nature. Being raised and playing with several of our Northern Native kids, I learned a lot from their way of life, and more or less added that to ideas of my own; plus combined that with Tao, when I took up Martial Arts at a very young age. It was my parents that were the religious ones. So, "religion" as it were...is FAR from my thoughts on this subject. Also, believe me when I say, "I would LOVE to adopt"! However, at present I am not in the best of situations to financially raise a child. I can barely afford myself. If I could though, I would most definitely. Regarding, "it's never too late"...well maybe, I 'spose. Oh geez, how should I put it? "The old guy still has it in him"! Hehehehehe. cdrxo

Hi, genius. As long as you can be happy with all that you've accomplished so far, that should be good enough. I don't think any one of us has accomplished everything we've wanted to but, as long as we do our best with the time we have left, we can be content with that. At least I am. Lanesha, I was once where you are now. I never felt comfortable speaking my mind. At least, not until after I had my children. Once I became a mother, I seemed to have also given birth to a newfound confidence in myself. I was able to speak my mind whenever it was necessary. I've always tried to do it with diplomacy and tact, but sometimes that just isn't going to happen! LOL Also, I want to welcome you to myLot! I hope you enjoy it here. It's a great place with plenty of really terrific people. Who knows? You may get the confidence you need to speak your mind just by hanging around here. There are many people in myLot who are very supportive and intelligent so there's always something to learn and an opportunity to speak your mind.

I would regret alot. but i guess the number one thing i will regret is not speaking my mind to all that has pissed me off. I never tell people where to stick it and kiss it when the occasion calls for such demands. so I will spend that last day telling those I love how much i do and those that can kiss it, to do exactly that...

Ah, good old hindsight! It's always 20/20, huh? Yeah, I think we can all look back and want to change things. There's plenty I'd do differently, even though I don't regret them. I've been able to reason out why things went the way they did for me. I've had plenty of unhappy times in my life but I wasn't the cause of most of them and I think I handled them as best as I could so I don't regret them.

I also have a book "in the works" that may never get finished. I ran into "writer's block" and haven't been able to get back to it for years now. One day, maybe, but if not, that's okay. It's the journey that's the important thing in life, not the destination. Maybe now would be a good time to get that book written? I'm glad that you at least found safe and steady. I've yet to find that!

Wow! Well, at least you're still around to maybe make some of those regrets a little better? That's what I would want to do. Good luck to you and, hopefully, no more regrets!