May 28, 2009 5:35am CST
Inlaws can be very frustrating and antagonising. I face a similaar situation where they are basically running my family life. and feel they have the right to make all decisions regarding my stepdaughters. when i try to saysomething to my wife about it she takes off on this my parents MY parents rant. recently my wife was away for 2 months and i was looking after our younger daughter and the house. when suddenly out of the blue the inlaws landed up,, to help. now this was inspite of my having told them just the night before that I was managing fine and did not require any help. so I said fine if you are here so then I am leaving. which ofcourse led to lot of words and my wife ultimately telling me that I was forcing her to choose, how could I do this to her parents?!!!!!!!so I called up to apologise to SAVE MY MARRIAGE and and that is something I will regret for the rest of my life because of the shi*t I was forced to listen to. So it is back to square one and the inlaws rule the roost again. Now I am really sick of this situation and cant live with it but dont want to live without my wife either. so I am in a quandary of what to do. I love my step kids. but that is not reciprocated. I am not the No. one priority in my wife's life. the inlaws take all decisions with regards to my children. Now this sounds very wimpish but I have kept silent for many years, and wanted to make my marriage work. so what am I doing here
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29 May 09
You're going to have to sit your wife down without her parents in the room and calmly and rationally tell her how you feel. Tell her you love her but you can't continue to compete with her parents. Especially if they are undermining your authority with your children. If she can't cut the apron strings, then perhaps you need to sit down with parents and your wife and tell them how you feel. Be reasonable, but be firm. Don't rant and rave, because that will just antagonize everyone.