Written by a woman diagnosed as an adult with Asperger's Syndrome

@dawnald (84126)
Shingle Springs, California
May 28, 2009 5:27pm CST
What I experience hurts. What I experience is painted as weird. What I experience is often ignored by others who keep telling me that I am like them and that I just need to try harder. They don't get it anymore than I get what it is that they want me to share. I don't get that. I don't get that. It matters not how smart I am for what it is that I don't get does not live in my intellect. What I experience is a lack of just that. They are like a dog and I am surely like a cat and that is just that. What does this paragraph say to you?
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9 responses
• United States
28 May 09
http://www.aspergeradults.ca/myaspergersexperience.html Dawn- I never did like taking things out of context, just my little oddity. The entire article helped me to fully understand AJ's last paragraph, because alone it has qute a negative connotation, but together with her frustrations of feeling left out, not knowing the dance steps of this social life most others seem to have a grip on speaks volumes. I do feel though that it is somewhat presumptious to assume that many of us do not feel this way who do not have Aspergers. I know for myself, I often feel that I am unsure of the proper response in given company. What I may feel is polite, and normal may be seen or viewed by another as harsh or crass. I think that is the wonder of the human in general. We are all so diverse that even without a disorder, we all experience the same things at one point in life. Perhaps if we all tapped into these experiences, we could better help those with Aspergers transition into this world of topsy turvey dancing. Namaste-Anora
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 May 09
Well you caught me, but I deliberately left the rest out. :-) You are right, the rest of the article does explain the bit that I posted a lot. It's just that I'm in a crappy down kind of a mood today.
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• United States
1 Jun 09
Dawn- I'm sorry you were in a down mood. I have those days too. I hope you are having a wonderful weekend and have a wonderful week coming up. Namaste-Anora
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jun 09
Much, much better. :-)
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• United States
29 May 09
Who ever wrote that doesn't want sympathy, empathy, but understanding that she is what she is. No amount of people telling her that she is like them is going to make any of it better. She is who she is and she deals with it her way, so shut the fck up and let me get on with my life because I am NOT like you?
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 May 09
I think there's definitely some of that, but I see a lot of pain in there also.
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@ALouie (118)
• United States
26 Jun 09
What this paragraph is saying is that it is very frustrating that people are not respectful of each other's individuality. Without mutual respect the individual's rights are challenged. This challenge creates problems for the good world.
@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Jun 09
Not only lack of respect but also lack of understanding.
@ALouie (118)
• United States
26 Jun 09
Yes. If someone can not respect another individual it could very well be due to a lack of understanding.
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Jun 09
Yes it certainly can!
• United States
21 Jul 09
I have dyslexia.My mind works differently then others. You may say slower.I will get every thing wrong. So at a lot of times I feel like a out sieder.That I am being judged all the time. What is says to me is tired of being ignored. That is not like other people and knows that. That she is sad.That she feels like no matter how smart she gets she will always be the dumb one.She feels like me :(
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Feb 10
Sorry I missed this response. Yep, that definitely is a good explanation!
@MsTickle (24965)
• Australia
4 Jun 09
What I'm hearing is someone trying to give a visual of what their life is, what they experience as a result of their condition. They are trying to explain the syndrome in a basic, easy to understand simple way so that even "normal" people might understand. They are trying hard to reign in the inclination to slap those that say "try harder". This is what I heard and saw in this paragraph.
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Jun 09
Ooh the "try harder" thing is soooo darn annoying. Really. How do you try harder at something when you just aren't wired to understand why doing it at all is even necessary?
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@ronaldinu (12454)
• Malta
24 Feb 10
It says a lot to me. Aspergers prefer to be on their own sometimes. They feel that they are not being understood by their peers. They find it hard to socialise. Sometimes their interest might be considered as weird by others. For example a successful buisness woman who is Aspergers when she was a young child, was obssessed with cows and how we bring milk. A teacher who understood her challenged her to think about how she can make the process better, and more humane for the cows. Using her lateral thinking she succeeded to be a successful business woman.
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Feb 10
That would be me, but I only prefer to be on my own some of the time...
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
4 Jun 09
I would say that since you're a woman your problems that comes with Asperger's are not that easy to see if you don't know what to look for - and like I wrote in another of your discussions that all things that a person with Asperger's have problems with - is found in neurotypical persons as well since all things can be found in the "personality area" that's why all neurophysical disorders are so complex. Women tend to "send" the right impressins to other (a thing that's "normal" to do for neurotypical persons ) but this is something they've lernt to do by observations - males with Asperger's tend to have more problems with this. Intelligence helps to act more neurotypical. I would say that it's hard to notice that women have Asperger's even for me and I know several..... They will never understand!
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Jun 09
Yep, not that easy to see and people assume other things (next discussion lol)...
@mommaj (22772)
• United States
31 May 09
First I want to thank you for the link because I always wonder what my little one is thinking. I call it basic parenting 101 with him. It's just consistency, love and patience. I look at autism as intellectually on a different level and socially on a different level. The levels aren't always lower either so I have a hard time understanding autism because it is people being people. I sometimes wonder why society needs the labels. As far as your paragraph, it is also something like a dear friend says about herself. She has MS. It's a nuerological disease that definitely effects the muscles. Every muscle down to your eye.
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 09
It helps getting an idea what the thought processes are...
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
29 May 09
What it says to me is that I need a lot more education on this subject to be able to give you even a simple response. Blessings
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 May 09
Fair enough. It's a complicated subject. lol
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