Say you have a freind with benefits BUT his best friend is really...............

United States
May 29, 2009 7:14am CST
Say you have a firend with benefits,but you know you and him couldnt possibly be anymore then that. Now theres his best friend. I know he is intrested and even though me and the "friends with benefits" are not commited I still feel wrong for even flirting or anything with the best friend... Is it wrong to want to be with his best friend? I mean we are not and never were commited.... What do you think would be a good way to brake this news to the "friend with benefits"??.. Any advice would help thanks!!
3 responses
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
29 May 09
i dont belive in friends with benfits at all. but i think he's best freinds knows what you guys are doing because guys will talk. and it might be weird to be with his best friend. to me if it was me, i would have to say then you need to stop being with him just for or anyone else. yeah not too many guys will disagree with me. lol..
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• United States
29 May 09
Oh well of course I would stop seeing the "friends with benefits guy" I would never try and be with 2 guys at one time.lol I am not like that. The best friend knows,we all hang out a few nights a week for a few hours. The guy who I am "seeing halfway" is almost like my best guy friend and because we know we couldnt ever be n e more then what we are. I think he would encourage me and his best friend because atleast it could potentially be somthing for the both of us....BUT im just scared to bring it to his attention because of the possibilty of him having feelings... he means alot to me and I dont wanna hurt him but I have better chances with his friend....gosh that sounds horrible.lol
• United States
29 May 09
ok say it was me, and you and my best friend. i would be like dang you and him, and now we're going to hook up. i would have to question how much trust i could give to you. and wonder if you guys would still keep doing the friends with benfit thing. just keeping it real. but yeah if i was me it would like weird and would wonder about if would still keep or not, if not with him but someone else. this is why friends with benfit isnt really good. but i would stop that for awhile before trying to hook up with his friend.
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• United States
29 May 09
Okay. Yes I see were your coming from.. I do think what you said is what I should do... Theres more to the story that makes it more complicated but I cant really post it here.. But I wanna thank you for the advice... a++ for you:).......
@chillpill90 (1937)
29 May 09
i think friends with benefits are wrong it give the wrong impression kind of makes the guy think he can get it when he wants and the guy will always think that it might lead to more. I think you should never have got into this mess and i hope you learn from it.!
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• United States
29 May 09
Oh beleive me I usually do to.. I made an exception for this one. Now its kinda kicken me in the butt. BUT then I think. If I hadnt of made that choice would I have ever met the friend??...
@howard96h (11659)
• New York, New York
29 May 09
Hi MikesWifey, I would tell my "friend with benefits" that hooking up with him is cool and all but your interested in a little more right now so your going to spend some time with his friend who is interested in the same thing with you. There is no real commitment with your "friend w/benefits" so you can do as you please without feeling guilty. Good luck!
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