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Over twenty years ago I was a single parent to two boys.When they were little I was not required to go to work till the youngest one was two.However just before he was two I was attacked and had some major medical issues,which some have left me with some handicaps.During all this time I was not a big partier,never have been and have not been for years.I was then able to get emergency housing assistance and got an apartment for a lot cheaper than I can now.Then I could help my boys by them going to recreation classes for free.We had medical assistance,food stamps,free lunches and breakfasts at school.We got financial assistance at Christmas as well as food assistance then and at Easter time. Then,I met my husband.Before we were married I was pregnant with our daughter.We decided to wait on our wedding till after the baby was born because the insurance that he got with his employer would not cover the pregnancy or birth because I was actually pregnant before the actual marriage date.However we did give up the housing assistance because it was not just me and my boys,he would be with us .And he made a descent living.When she was born they said that both I and my daughter could keep the medical assistance for 1 year due to the fact that I had it while I was pregnant with her.Even thou she could go onto my husbands insurance.They then removed my boys from insurance and said that my husband,then fiance could put them on his insurance.I told them that could not be done.Then we got married.Four and a half years later he got sick and social services said that he should go ahead and not work and go thru the treatments that he needed to do for his back and they would help us financially.He started what he was supposed to do according to the doctor and then social services did not help us as they said.He got worse and social security did not help us till after he died.My daughter and I get $8,000 a year too much to get food stamps,yet need $3,000 more annually to get into an apartment on the low cost housing program.They got rid of the emergency housing assistance years ago.Even when my husband was still alive we could not get housing assistance.Everyone keeps telling me to get back on the housing list.Well,I did.I have been told that the list is six years long and I will get bumped further down on the list each time a foreigner gets on it,because they are considered minorities and there is usually 4 or 5 of them and there is only 2 of us,there for they get priority.I am a single parent again,I cannot get food stamps or housing assistance.Jobs are so insecure.If I give up the social security and find a job that I can physically do and I loose that job I cannot get social security back for 6 more years.People keep telling me to stop homeschooling my daughter and put her into public school where she can get free lunch and breakfast.That is not so.The only way to get that now is if we are on food stamps.The department of recreation does not give classes free to anyone anymore. My daughter is confused.She cannot understand why her older brother always had a home with rooms of their own.And their things are not in storage.Why they got to take classes?Why they always had food? We had money left to get a car.Not a great one,but to get from point A to B. Can anyone understand this?