how often do you and youre betfriend argue/ fight?

United States
May 30, 2009 4:08pm CST
do you ever feel arguments over pety subjects are comming between you and your betfriend's bond? is the economy helping this bond or hurting it? we all argue with people that we are close to but sometimes we are actually pushing them away when we don't mean any harm. how would you deal with friends that want to constantly prove they are right? what is you're stand on love/hate relationships? do you think that type of relationship can last or is even possible to have with a person? please give me you're honest opinion.
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@spalladino (17925)
• United States
30 May 09
My husband and I don't argue very often. That's not to say that we don't snap at each other once in awhile if we're angry or frustrated, but we don't take it to the next level. One reason is because my husband and I understand and accept each other. He's a Vietnam vet with PTSD and he can get stressed out pretty quickly under the right circumstances so, if he snaps at me because he's stressed out, it would be unfair for me to get angry at him for a momentary outburst when he wasn't in complete control of himself. I can strike out, too, when I'm irritated or frustrated but he let's me be human as well. As far as friends who have to always be right, you can either accept them for who they are (because they're not going to change) or avoid them. I know a woman who has to one up me no matter what it is. I tested this theory once by telling her that I got a nickle raise and...whatta surprise...she had just gotten one, too, but it was only a penny. Other than this bad habit she's a nice person and we have a good time when we're together so I just accept that trait in her. Love/hate relationships, in my opinion, are emotionally draining but some folks become addicted or prefer the ups and downs. I guess for some people a relationship like that could work but I couldn't deal with one...I like stability in a relationship.
• United States
30 May 09
thanks :)
@TRS757 (19)
• United States
31 May 09
Yes, and I don't really blame what i go through with my best friends on the economy. That is an whole different subject. If your friend believes that He/She is right, and you know that they are wrong best thing to do is find some proof. Or just say is this fight worth out friendship? If its not than just forget about it and let Him/Her win. Now on turns of love/hate relationships if where still talking about best friends here. If you are holding a hate relationship with one of your best friends, than chances are you guys friendship will not work out much longer. Now if you love this person like Him/Her was your own brother or sister than you guys just might be best friends for your whole life. I have had many best friends come and go. So i learned from what I did wrong.
@Maryam27 (412)
• Pakistan
31 May 09
We used to fight and argue over other girls while we were in college together but now when no 3rd party is involved we never argue or fight. It's kinda very matured friendship now were we understand the situation. though we give our advices whenever the need be. But we never fight :)
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• Philippines
31 May 09
My friends and I dont really argue. I have a friend who is like that, who always wanted to be right in everything. We just kept quiet even we were a little mad. We just let her think what she want to prevent arguement with her. But sometimes I just keep my distance with her. I just ignore her and talk more with my other friend. I just hope she will get the hint why I'm like that.
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@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
31 May 09
2 years a go, my hubby and I were fight almost every week or something. I then start learn how to deal with it so I dont have to fight with him with something that is not important. Sometimes, thing just happened and then we just fight with no reason at all... I think it cause from stress or too much pressure from work or something... for me, kids, and work are so stressful already and then plus him? c'mon that will be more crazy. However, thing change... My husband and I now are not like before... not too much fighting and always stay away from misunderstanding each other. I just ignore if he mad and he does the same... we always make a joke and having fun, and enjoying good day together... I am happy with this and if you dont want to fight with your bf or gf, just take a deep breath and you have to learn how to let go some of the problem... just dont think about it and never want to win over a person who you love. Goodluck
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@jugsjugs (13045)
30 May 09
Im married and since the economy problems as in more higher bills with less money coming in we have had a few more disagreements.We have six children and they sometimes cause us to argue.Just lately as in the last two years we have argued more,as you see he has changed alot since he has been working a different job.We have nothing in common anymore only the children and of course we live together.A love/hate relationship will only work for as long as you both want it to,but i would not last for ever in my opinion.I feel like i have been pushed away constantly and that his job comes before me and his children.
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• United States
1 Jun 09
I honestly don't remember ever arguing with my best friend. I think we may have gotten irritated with eachother, but we both know when we need a break and we take it. She lived with my husband an I for awhile and we're still as close as ever. I have another best friend and we've known eachother since we were 10 years old and never had a fight either. We don't get to see eachother much because we live quite awhile away, but we still get together and talk whenever we can.