Are you in good terms with your parents?

@laydee (12814)
Philippines
May 31, 2009 6:07am CST
I am. Though I most of the times like chitchatting with my mom best. But I'm in good terms with both of them. But I do have friends who can't seem to be in good terms with their parents. I have friends who intentionally work farther from home so as to avoid being with their parents. I can't really put my finger on it, but I guess it's the constant pressure of perfection a parent pushes their children with. How about you? Are you in good terms with your parents? If not, why?
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@angelajoy (1839)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
I'm in good terms with my parents, but we're not close. It's weird alright. I love them and they love me, but I just can't get intimate with them. They are the same with me. The last time that my mother said "I love you" to me was when I went to another country, and that was months ago.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
It's perfectly understandable. We don't say 'i love you' to each other in the family as well.
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
hello laydee! i am not in good terms with my parents. well not everyday. but now is the baddest time ever. she's siding with her granddaughter, my underage niece who eloped and defied every adult in this house. she's coming back home and she wants me to not be angry with that stupid little brat! that brat had lied many, deceived us many times, and my mom wants me to be humble and forgive that darn stupid brat?? hell no. that brat had done too much for me to be even a little nice to her. she'll never be welcomed here as far as i'm concerned. they can welcome her back but i won't. she's not even coming back here because she's sorry for what she's done. she's just coming back because its a hard life with her boyfriend's family. while here, she's lives a luxurious life! she eats, watch tv, sleep, talk in the phone forever, chat with her cellphone forever.. not even do household chores on her own accord, but waits to be asked. and my mother wants me to be nice if not, diplomatic to that brat? they can go rot in hell for all i care.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
yes i am in very good terms with my parents...they are actually a friend to me. my mom is my bestfriend. i can tell her anything and everything, my father althoug sometimes is strict still we're in good terms...my brother and i have a very good relationship with our parents as well as my husband. with my parents, we have freedom but still we're guided, they taught us our limitations and how to become a better person and they listen to us, respect us as a person...:-) love them so much! :-)
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 09
Hello laydee, I only have a mother right now and yes, I am in a good term with her. I was in a good term with my father too. I think I was closer to him that time. I don't understand why some think that parents can't be friends to them. I love and respect my parents and at the same time, they are like the best buddies I ever had. Maybe I am just pure lucky!
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
1 Jun 09
yes I am. I stay with parents. i try to look after them within my means. so I am in good terms with them.I think we should all look after parents when the are old.
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• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Yes, I am in good terms with both of them. I am living with them until now and we always talk about anything during dinner. I update them on what is happening to me in the office and they give me their advices.I want them to feel that even I am matured enough to handle my life I want them to still be part of them like when I was a child. I still want to cry and laugh with them, follow their advice and love them. I will do this as long as I live. Quarrels, we can't avoid that sometimes we had it, but we do patch things up at night. No sorry's actually we just talk and laught it out.
@zeusdhi (63)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
hello there ladydee yes i am in good terms with my parents. But there are times also that we do quarrel. But over all we always talk things out and we always make it a point that if ever we do quarrel at the end of the day we will talk it all out and make peace. Parents for me are supposed to be their for their children. No matter what kind of children they have. Because why would their children grew up like that is because of how they took care of them. Parents for me should also be supportive with their children. And they should be open to their children. They should not always scold their children always at least talk with them and ask them why.
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@SmilyQin (180)
• China
1 Jun 09
Oh,yes,i do have good term with my mum. I think the most improtant thing in one's life is that ,wherever you are,you know that someone cares about you all the time ,and you care them too.I do love this feeling. I rememberes when i was in senior school,i live in my home ,sometimes i get angry with them ,i would qurrel with them,but after i went out ,i do realize that how much i love them,how much i wanna be with them.
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@rroxas08 (86)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
I am in good term with my parents, I love them all, I see to it that even If I live on the different city that I still have time to visit them at least twice a month, spend the whole with them and talk about a love of different things. I have tried leaving them is the province or country side and live my life in the city but I still see myself without visiting them for a month. It's not an obligation that I see them often but as a son, I am more comfortable being with them once in a while and check up on them. Some parents don't care about their children and lucky are those people that have experience the love of their parents, compare to those people who haven't given the chance to know theirs. My mom is the most important girl in my life and no matter what you cannot change that and she is irreplaceable...
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• China
1 Jun 09
Yeah..i am in good terms with my parents... we love each other and like to talk freely about many personal things. i think parents are the one in the world really love meeeee..
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@denisewy (90)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
yep. though i'm more close to my m0m than to my dad.
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@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
yes i am too. i'm actually saddened because i cant call or talk to them personally as often as i want. i working away from home and it'll take time to travel. they're the best people i can think of in the world that i cant afford to lose.
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• United States
1 Jun 09
I'm one really good terms with my mom and sister. They are great and even if I'm a pain in the butt on occasion I couldn't imagine not being able to go to them and just be with them. My dad is a completely different story. I haven't seen or talked to him since I was 15. He's just a bad person and leads a bad life that the rest of us refuse to let into ours. No regrets, but I do hope he realizes and truely comes to terms with the things he's done to himself and his family.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
31 May 09
I get on really well with my parents and I feel very lucky that this is so. My mother and father are both extremely loving towards me and always try their best to understand my point of view on things. I cannot imagine my life without them to be honest.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
31 May 09
Because I am not married, I am having a good term with my parents. I have heard that bad terms only starts after marriage so, I am very scared of marriage on this point. I love my parents and I can't live without them. I would like my wife to be respecting my parents as well. I can't afford to live apart from them!
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31 May 09
I am on great terms with my mum and dad. I have never had any had any big arguments with them and I can talk to them about anything that is on my mind and they will be understanding. There is no pressure of perfection put on me by either of them, as such a thing is unattainable. I do have some friends that are on bad terms with their parents. One has not spoken to his father in many years.
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• Philippines
31 May 09
Yes, I am in good terms with both of my parents even though they are not together for three years now. I see to it that I communicate with my father which is away from us.
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• United States
31 May 09
I'm great with my parents. We go through the occasional mild argument, but we're all mature enough that we can talk things out. As a kid, my parents were very accepting, just laid back people. I'm not saying they let me do whatever I want, we had our ground rules, but overall, it was great. I know with some people, it's the control that the parents try to have over their kids, and it drives them to fight all of the time. I truly feel bad for people who can't get along with their parents, for whatever reason.
@brisk123 (2826)
• India
31 May 09
Hello Laydee,I have few friends who are not even in talking terms with their parents, either it is because of something which they did and the elders didn't approve of or because of some petty small reasons where they got hurt, angry and sto talking to each other.As for me,I am so lucky to have wonderful and understanding family.My mom and dad has always supported me in my life with their kind and understanding words and unconditional love.They had never push me for anything be it my career or job far away from home instead the stood by me.I can confide my problems to my mom as well as to my dad.My relationship with both of them is good and I can never expect anything else from them.They had given me their best.
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@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
31 May 09
Yes i am when they are still alive, now that they are gone to another life Im sad. Last time when they are here with me I felt comfortable if they are both with me. I miss them if they are far from me. Whatever problems I have I will tell everything to them so that I will be comfort.Now that they are already diseased I missed them so much.