How to say that you are sorry?

@mhethess (379)
Philippines
June 5, 2009 6:31pm CST
Hello everybody everyone of us commited mistakes in life whether it is little or big. For example to our children we sometimes hurt their feelings and being parents it is hard for us to accept our mistakes and say our appology, for some parents cannot step down. Another example when you are the boss and you realize that you have shouted one of your subbordinate. Sometimes it is very hard to say that you are sorry if you have that position. It might affect your integrity. But we need to admit it we must say sorry if we hurt someones feeling. But my question is how? Will you do a public apoloogy or just give them gift to say that you are sorry, Can you please give your opinion about this thanks.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Sometimes i talk out loud " I'm sorry" right in front of her face, occasionally i will say that with a card or small gift to cheer her up, if all these don't work, i will knee down and beg for forgiveness.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Yes, it is so easy to say that, i heard that from cheater show so often, amazingly it works like a charm for cheating husband or boyfriend.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
7 Jun 09
and if the "I am sorry" is coming from a cheater . . it is too bad cause it is just another couple of words to add to the cheaters already long list of lies . . one a cheater always a cheater I guess. . :)
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I do the same lamp . .i say it right out loud . I am sorry . . cards always do the trick as well especilly if you are dealing with some one who is overly sensitive. . though I cant recall ever getting down on my knee. The biggest problem with "Im sorry" is that is it far too easy to say it and then the person who is always saying it has nothing to back it up . .like my teenage daughter . .she says it over and over again no matter what she does. . and my answer back to her is always... ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
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• India
6 Jun 09
I am sorry.
@mhethess (379)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
Hi ramgoindia, you are forgiven ha ha ha, thanks God bless, are you new here in my lot? Can you be my friend and add me to your list of friends. thanks
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
5 Jun 09
I have no problem admitting to my mistakes infact I have been tolde I take blame where I shouldn't but I am always willing to accept and say sorry, I know where you are coming from by with your kids and such but I think if you talk to them as sitting them down explaining everyone makes mistakes and say your sorry as life is too short to and it is best to be up front and honest i think they will respect you more..and they will grow up hopefully by the example you have set.
@mhethess (379)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
thanks lilaclady, God bless I think a little sorry will not break anybody but build him or her and their relationship.
@Omie11 (15)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Jun 09
I believe that the best way is to directly come out with it and say that you are sorry and maybe line up a gift straight after the apology to show that you were serious. and say why you felt you should apologize. You MUST proove that you mean it cus to some people it's pointless if you don't. Oh and if you come out an say it the person will respect you for that cus you had the guts to say it to him or her. Everybody makes mistakes at least you had the guts to admit it. know what i mean? I say it doesn't matter weather or not you apologize to him/her in front of the public.
@matausif (17)
• Canada
6 Jun 09
Just buy a card and send it if you cant say it face to face
• Bangladesh
8 Jun 09
After doing something wrong, I would suggest that you wait for the situation to cool down. After the situation is like normal, then you can approach to say sorry in various ways. To me, I think a text message would be the most efficient way to apologize. In this way, if the person accepts your apology then you can face him/her or if he/she declines it, you won't be offended face to face.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
6 Jun 09
Hi mhethess, A very good discussion, thank you for this. It's very true that we have all made mistakes and continue to make them. This is why we should never judge another. It is often difficult for a parent to admit to their child that they are wrong, to say that they are sorry but we should all do it when we know that we are wrong. As you say, the same is true for a boss, sometimes people feel that it undermines their authority. We all need to admit when we are wrong, to say that we are sorry because it will make things better all around. Blessings.
@mkchaves (530)
• Canada
6 Jun 09
it's easy for me to say sorry especially when i know i did something wrong. I'm not the type of person who uses too much pride. When I say sorry, i mean it. and when I don't, well... you'll know. ^__^ Im not perfect, there are times I say my sorry for just the sake of saying it. Just to get it over with. Something like that. But, when I know it's my fault and that when I know i've hurt someone badly, I sincerely apologize of what i do. :)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
There's no way that my boss would apologize for what ever he does because he believes that he knows what is right and just for the company. the only things that he apologizes is for being late.. If there's a way he makes up for his mistakes is he gives us free lunch.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I think that one of the most important lessons we can teach our children is how to take responsibility for our mistakes. I will apologize openly if I was wrong. It teaches them to do the same. I just explain that no one is perfect and that we all screw up from time to time. I think it affects integrity in a positive manner because children will respect the fact that you admitted you made a mistake, but when you are right...you stand strong.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
I'm not very comfortable with public apologies. I try to avoid them if I could because as far as I'm concerned, other people who have nothing to do with what I'm apologizing for shouldn't be involved. When I can't really say sorry, I try to be extra-nice to the person I want to say sorry to.
@mye_drew (182)
• Israel
6 Jun 09
to say sorry to somebody is normal and it is not hard.it is a matter of accepting ones fault acts over other persons.to say sorry is a show of apology,humility and acceptance of untoward acts committed.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
Its hard to say sorry if you are the one who got wrong for your subordinates or your kids. But you have to explain it why u do that to for him . Telling truth can make us free from conscience rather than keeping it in our heart. Its is not easy to say but this is a good attitude to feel sorry and after that you will be happy for the result. At first you will hesitate afterwards you will be happy for the output.
@pansy45 (153)
• Indonesia
6 Jun 09
if i did that i'll ask apologies from anyone that i have done wrong to them,whatever a public apology or just give thegift to say sorry ,cause i can't run from my guilty feeling to them it's very affectng my life,so if you want your life full of peace you must could to apology,,
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
i have no problems in admitting my mistakes, but i can't take my pride off to say sorry for the mistakes i've done. :) well, i say sorry to some of my mistakes, it depends on the mood i have that day. and if i really have the mistakes to say sorry
@uicbear (1900)
• United States
6 Jun 09
When I was younger, I used to have the hardest time saying I'm sorry. It wasn't that i didn't feel bad, just the opposite. When I knew I was wrong, I felt so incredibly guilty, that it was hard for me to face the person. Now, as I have gotten older, I have become much more at ease with apologizing when i know I'm in the wrong. If I care about the person I can even apologize if i know I'm in the right, but usually there i am apologizing for my behavior, reaction, or tone, not for what we were arguing about. Once I have made my apology, then it's in the hands of the other person, and I'm ok with that too. If they accept, then great, I let it go. If they decide to stay upset or angry, well, then they must not have cared too much about me too begin with.
@jeneschg (10)
• Malaysia
6 Jun 09
Wrong is wrong, Sorry is sorry, Word is more powerful than gift. If you had done 10 mistakes, will you give 10 gifts or say sorry 10 times? I believe that most of the people will do min 1 mistake a day, I mean most of the people, not everyone. Of course, the moment when you say sorry, you must always remind youself, NOT TO REPEAT again instead of forget later and do it again. However, we are human being, and human always use to forget. Therefore, we must try to remember and remind ourselve again and again.
@GY1106 (46)
• China
6 Jun 09
I got a point from a training class last week: normally you just need to express your sorry feelings using the word sorry only once. because people blame you after you use sorry for several times, and you will get a bad impression. so say sorry for once, show your sincere, that's all.
• Indonesia
6 Jun 09
Well, I'm a straight forward person and I like to say the truth no matter how bitter it is. I know sometime I hurt people with what I said, and I always think that to say I'm sorry directly is the best way. It's their choice whether they can forgive me or not, but at least I have give it a try and being brave by saying sorry in person.