Wife Going Overseas for a JOB, Husband left with the Kids..What can You Say??

@aj2006 (1536)
Philippines
June 10, 2009 8:37pm CST
What can you say about those family in which the mother is working Overseas while the Husbands are the ones taking care of their Children, Do you think its helpful, what are the risks? If you're to be ask, would you like to sacrifice your own family away from you, to look for a greener pasture in other land? Just need some opinions here... thank you so much!
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7 responses
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Hi aj2006. I'm thinking. You're a Filipino right. Anyways, regarding your post, all I can say is that there is nothing wrong with that as long as you trust each other. Cause if you do, then no matter the distance that divided you, the love that the two of have will never falter or fade. And for the husband, I just hope that he will contented with his wife and just take good care of the kids and focus his attention to the kids so that he will not be tempted to find someone else to fulfill his desires. I know that it might be a lot to ask to the husbands but if some things came up that you really need to fulfill your desires, just watch some titillating films and fulfill your needs. I assure you, after that, you won't find anyone to fulfill your needs cause you'll be tired and will most probably just sleep. Just be faithful. That's all.
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
thanks for your response and I believe that my discussion is reality to most of our overseas workers nowadays. As a family oriented individual, we Filipinos, has a strong definition of a family. But due to unavoidable circumstances in our lives, we decide to take risks.. well, with strong faith in the LOrd and of coursse with open communication to our family..nothing's impossible.. You're absolutely right.. Faith is a must! :)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
That is totally true. If only people are faithful, then no matter how far your love is, there wouldn't be any problem specially with the type of modern communications that we have right now. If you miss your love, talk to her/him in your cellular phone, make a long distance call, email, or chat with video... Communication is not a problem these days.
@CatGods (4596)
• United States
11 Jun 09
ou got to do what you got to do. Who said life was easy. And the husband can take care of the kids just as easy as the wife can. Also it doesn't matter who is making the money just as long as it is coming into the house.
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I strongly agree my friend. It doesn't matter who makes the money, just as long as the benefactors will really benefit from it, then there is no wrong about that. Also, I have neighbor here in my place wherein the husband is the one taking care of the kids while the wife is working in a call center. This just means that we, the husband or soon-to-be-husbands can also take care of our children. Nothing wrong with it. Nothing at all.
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Thank you for your opinion my friend, it only shows that most of Overseas workers is sacrificing time and distance from their loved ones just to earn more money to support their families back home..
• United States
11 Jun 09
Wow.....I usually here that husbands are working overseas and the wife has the kids. But in either way I see it as if it helps and benefits them to make that sacrifice they should come that agreement. However, it will be difficult since both will not see each other for a while. This is where trust and faith come into action when both are separate. Will the husband stay faithful as well with the wife? No telling! It is up to them if they choose to create a bad karma or not. I just hope it will help them financially along with the woman going overseas. Very tough decision indeed!
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
yeah , I agree, with this kind of situation??? it's a very tough decision.
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I still think that is is better for the family to be whole. Yes, there may be many opportunities overseas but the effect that the separation will have to the kids and the husband can't be repaid by the money that can be earned abroad. I would recommend going abroad for those who are single, but those who already has a family here, they should just try to look for opportunities that will not sacrifice their family life. Sacrifices has to be made but choose careful what those sacrifices should be. Imagine the effect on a child growing up without motherly love and nurturing. Husbands are not made to care for the kids, no matter how good they are with kids, they can never replace a mother's presence in the life of the children
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
its True! No one can ever give the Love a Mother's Heart can do... Thank you!
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Long distance relationship, for me, is the major cause of broken family. Being away from your family and suffering the loneliness and homesickness in a foreign country drives an individual to be unfaithful. I am not saying that it is true to all situations as it still depends on the individual. But being away adds a lot to the possibility. My husband and I are both in IT field. We do have plans to look for greener pasture abroad. But the whole family will relocate should it happens. Life is short and we don't want to waste the time of not being together.
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
.. and I wish that all family stay that way! I do agree. Have a blessed family always! :)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I think it depends on the family. There are many women in the military that goes overseas and has to leave their husbands and children behind. It's a tough thing to do. I myself couldn't do it.
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I really admire those women who are in the military. It just shows that women are not only "soft" but they can also be "hard" and can stand on their own. Specially the women nowadays, they are not anymore the princesses that needs to be rescued from a fire-breathing dragons. They can also stand on their own and fight the fire-breathing dragon. That is why I adore women.
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I would also like to add that infidelity is not only higher for the one who left to go abroad. It is true on both parties.