on impulse buying

@eliezl (766)
Philippines
June 11, 2009 6:42am CST
picture this happening.. you went to the mall you saw something that caught ur eye you'll decide whether to buy it or not you keep on giving yourself excuses and reasons why you have to then in the end, decide to buy it anyway when you get home you immediately regretted it realizing that you don't need it at all then scold yourself for not thinking it thoroughly this happens to me a lot. i even get myself buy things i dont need. but more often than not, this usually happens when im stressed or something's bugging me that i barely can't think straight. some people call it retail therapy. its bad really especially for someone like me who's not rich. LOL..but its sometimes difficult to control the urge when my mind's really muddled with problems.. does it happen to u too? LOL, that movie confessions of a shopaholic is something i could relate hehehe.
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11 responses
@gerald_lian (2193)
• Australia
11 Jun 09
That happened to me a lot too when I was young and the money I had was not actually my own money (they belong to my parents, of course ). Because of that, I used to get a lot of allowance cuts from my parents; but my attitude didn't change much despite that! But now that I have started venturing into the working world and earning my own money, these scenarios don't happen that much anymore, although it can still happen sometimes when the temptation is too strong. Nowadays, I think about my money quite a lot and I always look for ways to save money as I plan to buy a car and a house as soon as I can. I believe if I put my mind to it, I can do it!
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@eliezl (766)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
wow, ur lucky one! in my case its an inverse though because when im still a student, i was always deprived in having the things ive always wanted. i even envy my classmates and friends who can easily get what they want while for me, i have to save and skip meals just so i can have it..LOL.... my addiction actually started when i got my first job..haha. i have no control over things that catches my attention. it doesnt matter if i have cash on hand or not, as long as i have my credit card with me and they accept credit cards, i will just swipe it. its really a bad habit because i had debt after that. when i realized that ive gone overboard, i threw away my credit card in an attempt to control that urge...LOL ur right, if u have a goal and is determined to achieve it, anyone is bound to be successful. lately in order to stay away from temptations, i stopped going to malls except when its time for groceries or i need something to buy...so whenever i go to malls, its for an important purpose..LOL and i no longer allow myself to go alone where no one can scold me or warn me hahaha thanks for the reply *_*
@Koxtal08 (13)
• United States
11 Jun 09
Yeah that happens to me all the time. Ill go out and end up with something new and stupid that i did not need to waste my money on in the first place but convinced my self oh i might use this or it could be fun to have... and then never use it again.
@eliezl (766)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
i know what you mean! regret comes later right hehe =) i even sometimes assure myself that perhaps someday ill be able to find something to use this for. it didnt worked because it ended up in the closet forgotten and never used LOL =)) anyway, im trying to make up my mistakes, im controlling my urge. and need to treat this addiction of mine :) try doing it urself too. start as small then step by step ull never know what happens next. :)
@eliezl (766)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
there's nothing wrong in trying. at least we tried right :) goodluck to us.
@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
11 Jun 09
Hi eliezl, At my age, 51, I have lived through different degrees of spending. I used to impulse buy in my 20's and 30's, but since then I have slowly weaned myself from buying. I would say to myself, "Okay, I won't buy anything for 3 months." Then I'd treat myself to a small item, like a scarf or something as a reward for being patient. Then I would go 6 months without splurging on anything. Necessities I would buy, of course, like toothpaste, soap, food, etc., but anything else had to end. It worked for me, those small rewards especially. Now I'm at the point where I am happy, and not going nuts thinking that I can't live without this or that. Hope this helps.
@eliezl (766)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
which is exactly what im doing right now. im not leaving this addiction alone coz im getting older as well and that means i have to be responsible on my spending habits. someday ill have children of my own and i wouldnt want them to get into trouble and not have them go to school just because their mom is a shopaholic..LOL.. i wouldnt want that. i just avoided places where there are temptations of buying and spending. i no longer have credit card too...thank god. ive learned my lesson on that one because of the debt i had. the moment i paid it all, i had to throw it away..hehe. i will do my best to follow ur example as well. not to take things drastically, do it step by step and give myself rewards whenever i achieved my goal. thats a good idea indeed. thank you for sharing *_*
@doormouse (4619)
11 Jun 09
Oh my god i've found someone like me.Mine is Ebay not shops,i've got soooo much stuff from them lately.I know i haven't got any money but when ever i log onto the pc i can't help but have a little look,then i see so many cheap things i just can't help myself.I don't spend masses of money only bout £15 a week,i try hard not to buy anything but the urge just becomes too great.I'm weak!
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Impulse buying is definitely a no no for me. For sure this is something that I will regret when I come to my senses. First and foremost, the mall is not the proper place to go to when you are mad. You will most likely vent your anger on the items you see on the racks. Better yet, go to park and get some fresh air. One thing that also poses a great risk to impulse buying is when you have that plastic card with you and that is the credit card. One swipe equals to a certain amount. Good tip is to just bring enough money for the day so as when you pass by malls , you will definitely not get the excited seeing those new items, hence buying them which you will only regret later on.
@eliezl (766)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
you are sooo right, its juz that it has become a habit for me. i mean going to the mall when upset. its also the easiest and most accessible place for me. there aren't any safe park in my place. and the beaches here are far away coz im in the city. so thats why i chose the mall. i dont like to mope in my room too because it will make me feel even worst.hehehe.. but honestly, im struggling to control my impulses. i no longer have a credit card. its my first and my last LOL..ive learned my lesson..i threw it away as soon as i paid all my credits. i dont want to grow old thinking about how to pay debts haha =) also lately, ive been avoiding the mall. i only go there when i really really needed something. so i try to keep myself busy whenever im stressed or upset. like doing house chores, playing with my dog which i got recently, or perhaps just exercising..anything to keep my mind off from problems and keep myself from spending money. thanks for the tip, i will keep that in mind :)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I think we have all been there whether it's been because of stress, anxiety or whatever. But being from a retail backfground for almost 20 years I always think of the retail end of it when people bring back loads of things for returns because of impulse buying. It is very frustrating on the retailers end. One day you are making your sales goal and the next day you are in the hole because several people decided to retun $100's of dollars of items because they had a brief moment of anxiety. Just try to remember that when you are shopping, I do. That may be why the person behind the customer service desk can be cranky??
@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I am constantly doing that. Or I get money in my hands that doesn't need to buy food, or pay bills, or buy something the kids need. It's just.....money.....and then my hands prey upon it because it is burning a hole in my pocket the size of Texas....just waiting to be spent at Wal-mart on something like an iced tea maker that I won't ever use because I do it the old fashioned way--or wait! Better yet, a pair of cheap heels that I will never EVER wear because I don't wear heels. I don't do it all the time but when I do get that extra couple of bucks that no one else needs, I tend to spend...lavishly on foot creams that make your feet look "10 years younger". I am so lame. I do have a good mantra to go by though. If I know i am about to have a shopper's attack, I ask myself outloud--so I get embarrassed for talking to myself--"Do I really need this, or am I just mad....(for whatever reason)?" It tends to help--and if that don't work, talking to yourself will make other people get out of your way so you can suppress that urge and buy something stupid anyways! -People love my garage sales-!
@eliezl (766)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
i sooo agree with u. i know and i can relate that feeling hehehe =) i did the same as well. im in ebay too selling some of my stuffs, stuffs that i dont like or no longer need or fit. hehehe =) at least i get to earn and get my money back. :) garage sale is good idea, only i dont have much time to do that. thats one good way to control ur impulse. thanks for the reply
• Denmark
11 Jun 09
Oh yes, this seem so familiar :D I have been doing the same thing but I usually didn't have a reason at all. Lucky for ma I haven't been doing it so much lately since I simply don't have the money for it. No money, no spending. I sometimes even take the money out from my wallet before I go to town.
@eliezl (766)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
good move! i also dont go out if theres no reason or if theres nothing to buy. else ill fall into temptation hahaha =)) it also work to just bring enough money. not too much in order to control the spending. thanks for the reply *_*
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• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Ahh yes it happens to me..I use to buy things that I don't need and at the end of the day I just stare and ask myself what to do with what I bought. I usually do this when I pass by something that catches my eye and grab it, most of the time its when the malls are having a sale and the prices are dropped price that's when I was tempted to buy something even if I don't need it. Luckily I stopped doing that by now, I realize its not practical to do such thing.
@kryzell (921)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Yes, I agree... and I have been to the same situation a lot of times. In fact, I remember one Mylotter having a discussion here about, whether you budget before shopping, or shop before budgeting. I have been guilty of this for quiet a long time... but it's true that shopping is one of my therapies. I feel relaxed shopping. I work online...and saw, shopping online is also so easy for me that I tend to shop first before budgeting. I know, it is very awful because I am already a mom, and I need to learn my lesson... Most of the times that I regret buying something, I wrap it up, and have it ready as a gift. I put labels on the outside to remind me of what it is. Soon, when there's an occasion and I don't have time to buy a gift...I have one instantly... That way, I don't feel that guilty...
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
12 Jun 09
I used to be more like that when I was younger. Still, even now, I'm not above it at times. I try to be really careful of my spending and think things thru before buying and look around for bargains. My daughter and I keep check of each other when we are out and about. I'll pick something up that I just really like but surely don't need and she'll go, "mom...do you really need that?" I usually put it back. If I really want it...I'll still want it the next day and the next.I may go back and buy it anyway. Nine times out of ten...it was nothing I really even wanted that bad.