He says he would feel like a hypocrite if he attends the funeral

June 12, 2009 1:26pm CST
My aunt (my dads sister)died about a week and a half ago and the funeral is taking place on the 19th June. My Dad was not that close to her but they did exchange Christmas cards. They were not really a close family. It has been a few years since they saw each other and now he feels that he would look like a hypocrite if he does attend the funeral because he did not see her for so long. My partner has offered to drive my dad and I offered to go along as well to support my Dad. The very few times I saw my aunt I do have fond memories of her. Unfortunately it looks like that most of my dads family will not be there as my uncle who was my aunts twin brother can only go if his so-in-law takes him as he can't drive due to his sight failing. My other aunt also said she will not go either as she is in ill health as well but we have offered to take her as well if she changes her mind. He says that he will just send a wreath. I know that I cannot force him into going and would not try to either. So what do you think do you think he is a hypocrite if he attends the funeral? Do you think he will regret not saying a last goodbye?
1 response
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
I think that he should go and stop worrying about what other people think. So what if he was not able to give her more time? At least he will be there to say his last goodbye. Its sad that their family is a close one and everyone has reasons not to go. But she is still his sister and I think he go simply for that reason.
23 Jun 09
He does not usually worry about what other people say but still did not go in the end.