do you belive love in the internet?

@gridle (44)
China
June 12, 2009 8:18pm CST
About 3 years ago,I had falled in love with a girl in the internet,we talked each other,played games together,and said loved each other on the phone!This taked about two and a half years,but we never meeted in actually!I can't stop my love about her,so I had get on the train to see her,but when I saw her,everything had changed,all is over! Can somebody tell me do you belive love in the internet?or do you find your lover in the internet? is there real love in the internet?
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11 responses
• China
13 Jun 09
When I was young,I believed.But when I grew older,I came to know that it's just passion and illusion. But when I got more older,I returned to the origin. God knows.
@gridle (44)
• China
18 Jun 09
yah!really?maybe I will have the same experience to you!
@ruby1459 (2600)
• United States
13 Jun 09
Hi, I've never thought I will have a family with the person who I met through the online. Over 3 years ago I met him on the internet, we talked about our favorite movies and bands and then finally decided to meet up. We had such a good time and since then we kept seeing each other. We were living in a same state but it was sort of a middle distance relationship, My and his job were so different and couldn't get to see each other whenever we want though. Finally I've decided to move in to his apartment and we've started to live together. He proposed to me with engagement ring 3 months after I moved to his apartment. Now we have 1 year old daughter, 3 years old dog. We are building a family now. He is the most wonderful guy who I've ever met. I have many friends who's met someone on the net and got into a serious relationship and got married. I would say there is a real love in the internet.
@gridle (44)
• China
18 Jun 09
I just tell you that you are so lucky and so happy!
13 Jun 09
I am not sure as I think it depends on the situation! I personally would never turn to the internet for dating but, my friend met somebody on a well known social networking site and they are now expecting a child together and are really happy too so I guess it does work for some! x
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
13 Jun 09
I found my husband on the internet, before I met him I went on a couple of dates with other people and they weren't very successful, but I am really happy that I didn't give up, because then I wouldn't have met my husband. The first guy that I went out with was not my type at all, but that wasn't a big disappointment, because we hadn't been in touch for that long and I didn't have high expectations. The next experience that I had sounds a bit like yours. I had found a guy on the internet and we had exchanged many emails and I thought that had found the perfect relationship, but when we actually met there was nothing. There was absolutely no chemestry between us, and it was obviously that we didn't have a future together. I would encourage you to try again. You have had a bad experience, but that doesn't mean that you can't find love through the internet, maybe your next meeting will be much more successful
@gridle (44)
• China
18 Jun 09
TKS!thanks for your suggestion!I will never give up!
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
13 Jun 09
Yes!! I know someone that met someone on the internet.. and they talked online and the phone for over three years or so before they met for the first time.. About eight months later they moved in together.. And there is talk of them getting married.. Love is possible in all different facets of life.. Granted there are some people out there that play with people's emotions, and in the end the relationship was fake, by one of the people. On the interent, at work, at school, or even just bumping into someone. You can have the same chance that the relationship is not really love, and/or doesnt work.. As long as you keep it real, and be true to yourself, who knows what will happen. Good luck to you.
• United States
13 Jun 09
Sorry to hear!! =[ This is the reason why online "relationships" are risky. Although you may have talked to someone for two and a half years, shared each others views, and told personal stuff about one other, you have to ask yourself this question. Do I really want to spend the rest of my life with this person when I haven't even met them in real life?
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
13 Jun 09
I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you. People have many different reasons for believing that they are in love. Sometimes they do not really want it to turn into the reality of being together and, however much they say how awesome it would be to meet, they would truly rather keep the relationship magical and 'in the mind'. Unfortunately, it's often not possible to know what a person really wants until you confront them with a reality. There are a few who consciously play games in order to hurt people or knowing that they are lying but most people you meet online believe themselves to be genuine, not realising that they are living a dream. I know several couples who met online and for whom love became a reality. It does happen and, when it does, it is great. Unfortunately, there are many more who are confused by the differences there are between meeting online - 'in the mind' - and meeting in the flesh.
13 Jun 09
I am very unsure of the existence of love between people in real life, so I can not comprehend it being possible over the internet. It can not be a real relationship if you have never met and got to know each other over the phone and computer screen. I am sure there are plenty of people who have met online and went on to get married. But I would believe that the vast majority of internet relationships go nowhere at all. In the past I thought it was possible to find love on the internet, but I think that I was being very naive to think like that.
@leyisa (486)
• Canada
13 Jun 09
Hi my friend - I am sorry that you had a bad experience with finding love on the internet. In my opinion, love on the internet is very possible. I have had friends who have met their significant other on chat sites or dating sites and they fell in love and lived happily.... do not give up. Just because this one didn't work out, don't think that the next one won't either...Godo luck!
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
Love is everywhere, even in the most unimaginable place. You can find real love in the Internet but you should always be cautious. There's somebody out there who just play along, or is hidden behind a "fake" identity. I think in all cases you should know the person with their "real" self, whether you knew him/her online or through physical acquaintances.
• United States
13 Jun 09
I have always been skeptical of two people falling in love over the internet. I've always heard more stories about people getting together over the internet than actually meeting a couple who got together through the web. I've only met 1-2 couples that met through online dating. However, people do find love and meaning over the internet. When I was younger I met this girl who lived in Pennsylvania and while I never intended anything to happen we became infatuated with each other. We'd spend countless hours on the phone talking every single day. It was a great relationship that I learned a lot from. We never got to meet in person but we communicated heavily for over a year and kept in contact for a little while after that. Relationships are built on the interaction between two individuals and with advances in technology, interacting with people all over the globe is easy. Love is as hard a thing to find on the internet as in the real world but it happens.