They threw it all out

@suspenseful (40316)
Canada
June 15, 2009 4:53am CST
So when are almonds, walnuts, avocado, spinach, and softened butter bad for pre diabetes? My friends vacuumed my house, washed the walls, and cleaned the windows and the curtains while we were away but also when i checked the side freezer, I found that my jar of walnuts, almonds, frozen spinach, and softened butter and avocado paste were gone. I did get a head of head lettuce and one green pepper. I expected the food in my produce bin to be thrown away, but the stuff in the freezer section was not bad. So when do not people realize that head lettuce and light rye bread plus most margarines are not good for diabetes? Now because of the house getting fixed up, my husband does not want me to order the healthy stuff that I need to not get my pre diabetes turned into full blown diabetes. So I will be getting worse. Why do i do about this?
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
15 Jun 09
You need to make him realize that if you don't care of your self and you do get diabetes worse that it can totally interfere with your health and then who is going to help him and take care of him when your down and can't do the things you normally do. Tell him that diabetes attacks your kidneys,heart,eyes and other organs in your body and even you arms and legs. I had a friend that had both legs and one arm amputated due to severe diabetes and also his kidneys shut down and his eyes were so bad he was practically blind. So you gotta take care of yourself for you don't get the full blown. My mom has it and she has so many problems it isn't funny nor fun to deal with.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
16 Jun 09
I cannot understand why people seem to think that just giving up sweets and you will be all right. He knows about diabetes, but it seems in Canada, we are behind and he thinks that just having head lettuce and stuff that is not that green will help. It does not. I also get depressed and that does not help either. And I do not like him criticizing me. He says it is constructive criticism but it is not when he is scolding me and telling me "Don't hit the wall," it is as if I am a child.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
16 Jun 09
Cutting back on sweets is only half of it..you have to have proper foods that will help you feel better and be healthier. Salads is good but not the only thing you need. Starchy and salty foods are just as bad as sugar since the body treats it the same. SO please try to make him understand get the doctor to tell him even. My step dad thought it as nothing till he got it himself recently now for once he is taking it more seriously.
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• Canada
18 Jun 09
Once again Suspenseful we are not behind in Canada. You are doing diabetics in Canada and elsewhere a great disservice by stating this on an international forum.
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
15 Jun 09
I would still buy what I needed to eat to save self. He shouldnt ask you not too, But sure was nice of them to clean house for you
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
17 Jun 09
He still thinks of what his dad did, all those nos. And then he is thinking about saving money. I would rather choose my own food. Luckily my brother-in=law and his wife were over and bought us enough Chinese to last us three days and before that we had Kentucky Fried Chicken for two days. So I guess I can save the money for groceries. But then again, we overtended ourselves with those three weeks in the motels.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
18 Jun 09
well the hotel was a have too . and you will get back to buying what ya need. Just hope you got some kind of relaxation while gone from house. and preteneded that it was a vacation! AND HE is him not his dad!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Jun 09
I doubt that I will get much relaxation. And now he insists that I make something for supper other then use up the Chinese food. So that means once the beans are gone, and the chicken thighs, I will have to go to the store because we ran out of potatoes.
@cobra1368 (704)
• United States
15 Jun 09
You do it anyway, girl! Your health is the most important thing here!! He does NOT want you to get diabetes, because that will end up costing you guys more than what a few groceries will cost you now. Do it!! It sucks that your friends threw that stuff out, but you need to go out and buy it again if that is what is necessary to keep your blood sugar in check.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Jun 09
And when his brother and his wife phoned to say that they were coming over, he asked me what I had in the house. Of course, I had just bought what we needed to make do, and of course, his older brother and wife being quite generous, had ordered Kentucky Fried Chicken, enough for three days, and when they came back from visiting his youngest sister, they ordered Chinese. At least, now I do not need to do a major grocery bill and can just pick up the avocado, walnuts, ginger, and maybe some tomato sauce or vegetables on Monday.
• United States
18 Jun 09
That's good. I'm sorry, but a medical condition trumps anything anyone else in the house thinks! That is crazy that they just threw out your stuff. You should ask them to pay for the replacements!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Jun 09
Trouble I do not know who did it. If I did, I would tell them that it was not bad.
• United States
15 Jun 09
First off, they had no right to throw your things away. That being said, you get whatever you need regaurdless of whether or not your husband wants you to. It is your health and your body. You need those things to control it, and he has no right to deny them to you.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
16 Jun 09
We have this big motel bill to pay, and as well as the renovations and we do not want to pay the interest on the credit cards. The motel bill was quite high because they have this city tax that is supposed to attract people. I will have to find out why they threw away the nuts and the ginger and the avocado, the softened butter, and the green beans. I mean this was stuff that I need and I was so depressed I eat two no three cinammon buns.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
15 Jun 09
Stop being controlled by your husband for one. The other matter really shocked me, How do these people dare to go into your freezer and throw out stuff. People are not very well informed about diabetes. They think it has to do with sweets and a sweet tooth. Wrong, wrong. It has to do with carbs that turn into sugar. Your pancreas secrets insulin which is like a key to open up the cells to absorb the sugar which all our muscles need. With diabetes either not enough insulin is produced or there is insulin resistance whereby the insulin does not open the cells properly to absorb the sugar, or both conditions exist. Insulin resistnce occurs mainly with people who carry too much fat around the middle. Your waist should not be more than 35 inches. I have been told that lossing even two inches around the waist makes a huge difference. Reading food labels becomes increasingly important for diabetics. You are quite right about light rye bread. It contains no fiber and it is not good for diabetics. All green stuff is though, including lettuce. Good fats are avocados (small quantities, at one serving 1/8 of an avocado) butter, cheese and nonhydroginated margarine, olive and canola oil and all kinds of nuts and seeds in small quantities per serving. I urge you to get the poster by the Canadian Diabetes Society. It is called "Beyond the Basics", Meal Planning for Healthy Eating. Diabetes Prevention and Management. It shows the quantities for vegatables, Meats and Alternatives, as well as fats and carbs and fruits that should be consumed in each meal. It is excellent and very clear. The quantities are shown in pictorial fashion. There is a lot of compromise that you can make with your husband. You can get whole grain bread for yourself and light rye or white for him. You can still get butter and and have only a teaspoon full for yourself. You can freeze some of each kind of bread so it does not go stale, The phone number for the Canadian Diabetes Society is 1-800-226-8484
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
16 Jun 09
I have tried to lose weight on my waist, but it does not seem to go down. That is the whole trouble. I can lose it everywhere else -my upper arms being the exception - I look like Popeye up there, but it never seems to come off my waist. Yes about the avocado. I squashed three avocados and froze them and they are what they threw out. That is what made me upset because right now we are on a tight budget and my husband would not like me buying them.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
15 Jun 09
You get what you need so that you don't get diabetes!! Don't listen to your husband. Does he want you to be an invalid or an amputee? Doesn't he understand how serious this is? I don't think he does, a lot of people don't. They just think you have to watch what you eat and don't realize the heart trouble, circulation trouble and other life threatening things are caused by diabetes. If he won't listen after you tell him about these things--show him some graphic pictures on the internet!--stand your ground and get the foods you need to control your condition before it gets worse. Why in the world would they throw out things in your freezer? It was very nice of them to clean your house but I wonder why they would throw away perfectly good frozen food? There are a LOT of people who have no idea what it takes to prevent or control diabetes but it's too bad they took it upon themselves to dispose of such good (and expensive) food.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
16 Jun 09
He has no idea. His father had diabetes and all his father heard was a lot of don'ts. I have no idea why they took the food, but I consider it is because in Canada, we are way behind the other countries in what diabetics should not eat, and here they sort of think we cannot eat vegetables, and nuts.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
16 Jun 09
You should eat healthy food to keep your sugar in control. Pills are not solving any problem. Maybe your husband thinks that you can eat whatever and load your body with tons of pills. You should buy what you need for your health....
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Jun 09
It is not the pills, I get them from the health food store, and they are really the herbs crushed inside the pill because the plants do not grow here. What bothers me is that my husband thinks that head lettuce is just as good as Romaine or leaf lettuce and I do not need the green stuff like spinach and the dark green vegetables and that the food guide can keep one healthy. Well we followed it, and it did not help. But the worse is that my almonds, walnuts, ginger, oh yes the lemons and limes are gone, we just had the house renovated, we spent over $3,000 for three weeks in a motel, and our food budget is limited.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
19 Jun 09
$3000 in 3 weeks? it is very expensive....couldn't you stay in the house and do room by room?
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Jun 09
There was going to be a lot of dust in the house and because of my husband's stroke, they had to get it done so that he could get the power chair, the commode chair to wheel him in the shower plus we had to get the larger door from the bedroom to the bathroom, tile floors, etc. plus changed our closet space and get the ramp done so we had to do all at once. As it is, we have to leave getting the new carpet until later.
@Kowgirl (3491)
• United States
16 Jun 09
They did a nice thing with the cleaning but they overstepped their boundaries when they got into your food. No one has the right to throw away anything in another persons house especially food, even if they are family or friends. They should have to replace what they threw out. As far a your husband not wanting you to buy food that will help you avoid full blown diabetes. He is a selfish fool in my book. If you love someone you would do whatever you could to keep them healthy. You do whatever you have to do to get the right food for yourself and maybe even change the way he eats as well, it will make him more healthy when he learns to eat healthy. Tell him you are trying to look after his health as well as your own. If he disagrees then tell him you are going to do it anyway, then do it. Don't ask him, he isn't your father and you don't need permission to eat right. Gee if my husband had ever said anything like that to me I would have walked out and never looked back. Just because you are his wife doesn't give him the right to control you or the way you eat. He doesn't own you, that would be slavery and they did away with that years and years ago. Men! Sometimes you just have to put them in their place.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Jun 09
We got the flier today and I told him about the cherries that are good for diabetics, and he said no. He just goes by what is cheapest no matter how good or bad it is. I think the only thing that I can do is to use my own money to buy the food I need even though I do not have that much. But I do not want to do it, and that they threw away the other food out makes me upset. Because now I have to go and replace everything.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
16 Jun 09
I think you should buy what you want too..Hubby should NOT tell you what you can or cannot eat...Its YOUR life you are dealing with here...I think certain things , like YOUR food , should be your business..not hubby's....
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Jun 09
The trouble is that we have just renovated the house, and we have to cut down on our other expenses. And usually that means food. I have started to use the points on our credit card to get the cleaning supplies so that will help, because we cannot spend the $70 to $100 a week that we usually do until this large bill is paid.
• Canada
15 Jun 09
Why does your husband not want you to eat healthy food, and manage your condition before it comes a condition? I don't understand that. I'd say "to heck with what he wants me to eeat, I'm going to eat what I need to!" Also, I'd ask your friends WHY they threw that food away. I would want to know.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
16 Jun 09
He thinks cheap. That is the whole trouble.
@pxm204192 (160)
• China
16 Jun 09
you can eat little by little. then you can feel your body reaction of the quantities of foods that you have eated.if you eated much than you can digest,you can feel not well,such as the headache,this kind of headache is not like ordinary headache,is kind of the headache with some fever on your head. this kind of headache is not like the normal headache. it company with a fever feeling.the other way is that you can eat the green vegetable foods,a lot of such this food can be fill with your stomach.and you can not feel the hungry.but from my experience,the key of diabiet is to control the quantity of what you eat.do not eat much for what you have digested. it is much important for you all time.
• United States
16 Jun 09
I would ask them what the heck they did with the stuff and if they tossed it they need to replace it.
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@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Why would they throw something away from the freezer in the first place? If they saw something on the counter that was rotten it would be one thing, but to go into your freezer? That makes no sense. Nuts are good for diabetics, so I can't imagine what they were thinking. Did you ask them?
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
23 Jun 09
There is no reason for anyone to come in and throw away your food. Why were they cleaning your house? I think that I would be upset if my friends were to do this. No matter what your husband says take care of yourself. If he has to see the grocery list, just buy the items you need seperately and don't show him the receipt. I would tell him that I would buy what I needed and that would be the end of it. He sounds very controlling and I hate that.
• United States
23 Jun 09
Those kind of things are fattening, as long as you dont suck butter cubes down by the box i think you will be okay, but it is those things that you need that give you diabetes. Just you need to watch your diet and weight.