Would you give a physical abusive gf/bf a second chance?
By n30wing
@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
June 24, 2009 12:00am CST
It would take more than the usual apology for me to forgive her, but I'd still hear her out, to see if her argument is reasonable. I would give her another chance if she asks for it with a repentant heart. I'll just make sure that she can't hurt me again, or the second time around I'll just leave her! Have a nice day to all of you!
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@dodo19 (47121)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Jun 09
No, I wouldn't. I've worked in a shelter for women who were victim of abuse, and so I have an idea of what this sort of thing does to them. And although they may apology, say they're sorry and it won't happen again, a lot of times (not to say every time) the abuse starts all over again. That's why I definitely wouldn't forgive him and give him a second chance, as I don't really believe that he would deserve this second chance.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Hi dodo19, I do understand your point of view regarding this matter. Especially women abuse, I know it wasn't easy for them. The traumatic experiences, their fears, and the way their handling their life now, it's not that easy. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
For us men we could bear it maybe giving a second chance but if I were a woman I think one is enough reason not to allow that person another chance. For women are the most abused in these situation. Seldom do I hear man being battered by his wife/GF or partner but most often we hear violence against women.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Hi rsa101, I think we men also get hurt physically and mentally by women. It's not all the time women are right, cause sometime we are provoke. It's to hard to love and not all the time we could also understand more. Men just can't say a single word to hurt a woman sometimes. But we also have our reasons, feelings and trying not to be emotional. It's just fine for me ones but twice is too much to take. Have a nice day to you!
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@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
I would have second thoughts on giving that person another chance. If he/she was able to abuse me physically the first time, what would stop them from doing it again? In case I really do accept that person again, I would make sure to keep my guard and not let that person abuse me once more.However, I still believe that to love someone freely, one must to love himself/herself. And if I loved myself, I would not allow being hurt again. 
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Hi jammyt, I like what you've said that that to love that someone freely, one must to love your self first. I believe on that! I think in love there is always pain and hurts it being part of love cause both of you have different identities. Sometimes even you get hurt cause there are reasons. I will forgive her, but the next time, I don't think so!
Anyway have a nice day to you!
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
24 Jun 09
Yes i would consider his case if its happend only once and he has regreted his act.BUT if its the second time than i dont think i would re-consider giving him another chance as it means my chances of getting physically abused is much more.Love is anotehr thing and using the mind and heart in a blanaced way is another thing.I would chose heart n mind
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Hi walnutbrownie, for me there is a limit especially when it already hard to understand the pain. When I get hurt usually I use more my mind then my heart. I think if I do deserve it or not. If it's the first time I might give her another chance but the second time, that is to much. I just think we can't work it out anymore. Love Ain't everything! Have a nice day to you!
