November 12, 2006 12:58pm CST
Can anyone help me? My 18 month old daughter has separation Anxiety to what I feel is an unhealthy level. She will go into hysterics if I even leave the room to use the restroom, or cook dinner! When I leave her, even with family, she cries sometimes for 2 hours or so! I hate this, as I have NEVER given her a reason to feel so insecure! Can somebody please help me? I dont know if she needs some type of intervention or if this is how it is supposed to be!
12 Nov 06
Sorry but this is perfectly normal behaviour for a child of this age. She will get over it soon. She isn't able to understand that you are coming back and obviously has no sense of time. Always tell her where you're going and say you'll be back soon and don't give in to her crying. I know this is hard, I've had to do it with one of my children. As a trained Nursery Nurse I've also had to help others in your situation, all the children have got better after a few months.
14 Nov 06
I'm no expert on this. But if your 18 month is upset when you leave the room, I guess you have to help her get over it. Make sure you let her tag along when it is possible. You might not be able to take her to the restroom...but you can allow her to be around you when you cook. She could probably bring her cooking set and pretend to cook like mom. When she feels secure in the fact that you are not abandoning her and she gets older to have interesting things that she likes to do by herself, I'm sure she will not be so clingy and demanding of your time. I know it's frustrating sometimes and difficult but the initial effort is well worth it.
12 Nov 06
well, im not a doctor, so im not sure exactly what the reason is...but maybe you've spoiled her too much in the last 18 months. it's not healthy to pick up and hold a child every time he or she cries because then they just get used to getting their way. it's not so much that she feels insecure but she's used to having you hold her and nurture her every need. of course, you should nurture a baby, but there is a limit to it. they have to learn discipline in a way right from the beginning, not when it's too late. your daughter, as small as she is, knows that you will come running to her every time she opens her mouth.
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12 Nov 06
Sorry but I found your response to be kind of rude. You don't know that its true that I give in to her every tantrum or every time she cries. I DONT. My child has been disciplined appropriately as needed all throughout her 18 months of life. Thanks, but I don't need your advice anymore since you are so quick to judge!