my 25 year old friend married a 61 year old foreign man

advice her to prepare to get her heart broken.if the foreigner doesn't have any real plans for any future together,she will get disappointed.maybe that foreigner is married in his homeland,that's why he is not taking her seriously.I hope that she can get through it,if the inevitable happens.

i just hope that the man will take the girl seriously and care for her as his real wife. there is nothing wrong though with the gap age as long as they will love each other.

that's nice. I'm okay towards young women marrying old men as long as they're happy and loving each other. i think it's cute watching them together. mature man trying to jive or trying to do things that younger women used to do. and it would great having kids too. just think of how their kids going to deal with a hip mom and trying to be hip dad.. :B

Your friend has her reason for staying with the man. I am just expecting that you put respect on her decision. I also hope that you also make effort to alleviate the status of the Filipinos. I am not sure why you have to post this kind of scenario in mylot. I cannot decipher if you really care for your friend or not. What is really important is that you believe your friend that she was really in love with the guy. I really hope that you are not the girl in the story. Happy myloting.

It is very shocking to know that a 25 year old girl is in love with a 61 year old foreign man. Being a friend, you must talk to your friend. You must explain your friend the negative and positive consequencies of marrying a 61 year old man. After all the final decision will be her own.

What a pity

It was your friends decision to be in this kind of situation. And to think about her partner on being serious, then he should have already asked your friend to marry him or to be with him. But I am pretty much sure this man is already married and in no way that your friend would be expecting more from his man. You should have asked your friend what is her plan. Is she happy when that guy go back to his country, and what? only online affair? no solid foundation and no security that women needed in a relationship. So she better make up her mind. If they have done something already which is only for married couple, then God is not in favor of that kind of relationship, so she better stay away. This is my opinion and I do respect what you may have in mind.

Why in the name of sanity would anybody as young as her think that she will have a happy life with a worn out 61 year old? No offense to you Asian girls but seriously sometimes use your brains!!! Do you really think that just because he's an American that means he has everything that life has to offer? It has become a common trend now especially amongst Asian girls (particularily Phillipines, China and Thailand) that young girls are being lured into "promises of happy life with older worn out American/British men". Seriously are they no good men in your country that you are willing to sell your precious life to some scumbag who has already lived out their lives?? I'm sorry if I sound harsh but this always makes me angry and for some reason I no longer feel sorry for girls who do this as its just plain stupidity. She claims to be in love with him, but does she really know what true love is?? She doesn't even know who this guy is and yet she is willing to jump on the "lets go to America plane and have a good life" crap and in the end she will be a statistic in the news of women that are being abused. If you love your friend as I hope you do, tell her to cease this nonsense, get rid of her greed for a better life and let her wait for a good man who she will come to truly know, love and appreciate. For goodness sake she is educated so she must have a brain to figure this out!

I personally think that you should tell your friend about the situation. I understand that she thinks she is deeply in love with this guy but give her a gentle jolt and tell her the truth. Ask her about her future. I know such things are becoming very common now-a-days but make sure that your friend is safe and doesn't fall under depression later. All the best to you and your friend too :)

hmm.. that is interesting. i think your friend is headed for a heart break as this does not sound encouraging for her.

Mostly our relationships are judged by age. It is really sad to hear this. Your friend should prepare for another heartbreak. The guy (from what you have said), doesn't seem to take your friend seriously. All that he wants is to have a place where he can stay whenever he comes to your country. She is very young and sometimes our hasty decisions (especially coming shortly after a heartbreak), will always direct us into a ditch. Talk to her and let her focus on her future. All is not lost. At 23, she has more time and life in front of her.

did u ever talked with ur friend again?...is she realy this desperate to take all the consequences...living with an old american man who has no serious intentions to her but...just for fun...im sorry to say this...but isn't it the reality...this american is just using her for his own pleasure...try to talk with ur friend...she's your friend anyway...do everything u can to save her from more problems that may arise.

I don't have much to say, but in my opinion relationships like that to me are kind of weird and creepy. Maybe its because I don't see how young people want to become involved with way older people. I could seriously never imagine myself with someone that reminds me of my grandpa you know? But if your friend is being treated really good by this guy and she is genuinely happy you just have to be a good friend and support her for now, even if your against it.

This is actually a classic case for so many of our fellow Filipinas. We have to admit it, life is generally getting tougher and tougher each day. We live in a third world country. I think your friend thinks of the American guy as a scapegoat. I can't blame her though, it's hard to get a job right now even if you have a degree and/or a title. I live with 2 CPA friends who are earning just enough to cover monthly expenses. They can barely set aside a portion of their take-home pay for future use/savings. It's ultimately your friend's decision though. I think she'd be able to feel if she's just being played or if the guy's taking her seriously.

it sounds like this man is not taking their relationship seriously. and unfortunately for your friend, it's a lot easier to be hurt if you don't have much experience with relationships. i hope that he doesn't break her heart, but if she loves him and he has no plans of marrying her, that is probably what will happen. at least she is happy now, and maybe one day he will realize how lucky he is to have her. if not, she will have good memories of her time with him, and she can learn from the experience. i think he is too old for her anyway. she needs a man who can keep up with her and be able to relate to her, and almost 40 years is a huge generational gap.

I think from your information.You must tell your friend to prepare for her heart may be sad, becuase the guy doesn't take her to know his family which doesn't look sincerely.however someday he stay long with her and bring her to know family.

I think your friend is headed in a troubled path. This guy is probably juts gonna be with her till she gives him what he wants physically. There is obviously no emotional attachment since he will not marry her or even bring her to the states. You should be a good friend & try to talk her out of this before its to late.