To drink or not to drink....

No, I don't think so. We are not responsible for what other choose to do, I feel that being respectful and not drinking in front of someone, well it doesn't mean that we are responsible for others action.

So in your way of thinking, we are ultimately responsible for what OTHER people CHOOSE to do? Why does that smack of something wrong to me?

Thanks for saying this, I think this deserves BR. I haven't noted anything BR in a long time lol. This especially hits home: I am not going to hide the adult beverages from another adult because what they do is up to them. When somebody hides stuff, what are they saying? That ultimately their actions influence others THAT much? That the other person is a child and cannot be trusted? Either way, either way of thinking is flawed and in my opinion rude lol.

I'd ask if it would bother them too if I wasn't sure, but if it's my house or my event, I'm not going to not do it just because someone else in attendance feels differently. If I were at their home and they didn't drink and didn't want anybody there to drink, of COURSE i would comply, or decline their invitation lol.

Something happened to my response but the gist of what I put is that I expect people to be personally responsible for THEMSELVES. If you accept an invitation to MY HOME, then you realize it is not your home. I won't not do something to cater to someone else, and if they accept joining it, they know this. I don't smoke but I would never expect a smoking friend to not smoke at THEIR home, even if I was there. It's their house. In my opinion, the friendship is worth more than having a problem with someone smoking or drinking in their own home when you are a guest.

LOL! I don't drink alone, I am only a social drinker, meaning I will have something at a gathering or social function, with other people present. For the most part, I only have one or a few because I usually drove myself or other people, or it's at my home and I'm the hostess. Either way, it's usually moderation for me, I don't go nuts and I expect other people not to either. I have had too many incidents of drunk friends in the past that I had to figure out how to get home while they were passed out. After dragging a 6'3 male friend up the stairs to his apartment after driving him there, I don't want to do anything like that again - I'm seriously about half his size. I don't stop people and I don't fight with them either, but I have taken keys before and kept an eye to make sure nobody falls off a balcony or drowns in the pool... I'm not a cop and I'm not these people's parent and they are adults, not children so I refuse to be one of those jerks that thinks they can push everybody around.

Yep, I think it comes down to personal responsibility yet again. You do what you feel like doing, other people will do the same. I am not responsible for what another adult chooses, and they are not responsible for what *I* choose. If someone tries to blame ME for a bad decision THEY made, then they need to check that attitude at the door or leave my house immediately. I don't ask or MAKE anybody do anything, ultimately whatever you do is up to you. If you let me influence your decision somehow and you're unhappy about it later, then why would you give me that power in the first place? LOL! However, I do listen and if I hear you saying you want to do something, I'll try to encourage you to do whatever it is you really WANT to do, in hopes that the encouragement will help you toward whatever goal you're seeking.