A girl who doesnt like HER BF TO GIVE HER RED ROSES.....

Singapore
July 3, 2009 10:26am CST
Ok, this person actually one of my friend... She just broke up with her bf, and now, she is with another guy, who is actually younger than her... But this guy is really nice person and he even asked me what this girl's favorite stuffs... and i even tell him, that her fave flowers is a bunch of red roses with cute pink ribbon... Then one time, in her birthday party, this guy gave the girl, a bunch of red roses... and she was mad at him... I dont know, what happened with this girl... and that guy, felt terrible that his roses wasnt accepted by the girl.. Can u imagine, how it looks like, when your presence is rejected by your gf/bf in front of friends? Oh, i tried to ask this girl, and she said... She hates red roses after she broke up with his previous bf, because it will remind her about him... and how hurt it is... What can you say about the girl? But i feel terrible about the guy...
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@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
Oh my goodness... how horrible for the guy. I think the girl (sorry, if she's your friend) is on the rebound and has a mean streak. I mean, she shouldn't have entered into a relationship if she still pining after her ex. To humiliate someone you're supposed to love, respect and care about in front of your friends is very sad indeed. Her reason that the red roses reminded her of her ex only means that she's still has feelings for her ex and she shouldn't have entered into another relationship yet. It's a pathetic excuse to humiliate someone you professed to care about. For the guy, I think he should stop seeing the girl, for now at least, until she gets over her ex. she is in no shape to be a gf to any guy, if he really loves the girl then the saying goes, if you love someone then set them free... coz in the end I believe he is only out to hurt himself.
@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Also ask why it's so terrible to be reminded of an ex? Probably because she is mad at him, etc....he did something wrong maybe? Ask her why she would let someone else control the things that she enjoys in life. She no longer enjoys red roses because of what happened with someone else whho used to give her red roses. This is giving alot of power to the ex and she needs to take that power back. Be her own person. And live her own life.
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@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Hi there! I'm going to guess that this friend of yours is young? It sounds like it. If she isn't lucky enough to find "the one" and get married she is likely to go through a few more boyfriends - which is fine. But, maybe you should remind her that objects and places should not be such a problem. If she can't stand red roses anymore because of an ex - then she should not be dating anyone until she gets over him. If she holds emotion against harmless objects, she may find herself ten years down the road not being able to like any flowers - go to any resturant in town - or watch certain television shows because "my ex so-n-so and I always did that - it reminds me of him".... Eventually she will have to move to another country to start over...lol...okay, that last part was a joke but I think you can see where I'm going with this. The red roses has nothing to do with the new bf or the last bf...it is her inability to deal with the past. She is still holding on. I knew someone who was like that. Only he was then 30 years old and he had been acting like that since his first serious gf when he was 20. He couldn't go anywhere or buy certian things that an ex and him used to do or enjoy. It got to the point where his options were really limited in life. I hope she learns to cope with her feelings and letting go of the past... Thanks for the discussion!!
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@myahw20 (1116)
• Canada
3 Jul 09
That is horrible. The new boyfriend is probably clueless as to why his gift was rejected. Your friend should have just accepted it politely. It's really not nice when we loathe on the hurt we had from our past relationship to the present. Once we find new love It is much better to let go and move on from the past. My giftswas never rejected this badly. Just sometimes I cook sweet stuff and my boyfriend gets mad because he's on diet though that one is my fault since it is kind of inconsiderate to cook those stuff but at the same time i know to myself i did not have bad intentions i just wanted to cook something nice for him.
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• India
5 Jul 09
That's stupid. I think if the red roses remind her of her ex BF then she should sort some issues out. If they did, and she really liked this other person, then she should have just told him politely that she doesn't like roses anymore, but shouting at him and getting wild is not really a good thing to do when you are looking to make a new life. What if the new guy said you are an idiot and left her? Who would be to blame? I think she should apologize for being rude to that fellow. bourne
• United States
4 Jul 09
Anyone there should of felt terrible for the guy. It would serve her right if he quit seeing her. She acted very childish. Your friend needs to get a grip. If she can't date someone else because things will remind her of her ex then she needs to be alone for a while. If I was you I would tell her the only reason he gave her them roses was because he came to you in confidence and asked you what her favorite stuff was and you told him red roses with pink ribbon. That he was trying hard to get something that she liked and all she did was humiliate him in front of everyone there which was way out of line and she should seriously consider apologizing for her actions. Either that or it looks like you told him to do that out of spite just to see him get hurt. I don't know about you, but if I'm around a friend that acts like that I tell them what they did was uncalled for. Sometimes people don't realize how bad it looked to others especially the one they hurt, but I would think your friend has a good clue how it made him feel and she should be ashamed of herself.
• India
4 Jul 09
i think she is mad coz a bunch of red roses was nt the causing of break up.may be she has nt like him or else she has nt forget her 1st boy friend.now the 2nd guy will try to convince her.and you will tell her that u had told him to present the red roses and convince her that dnt break up with him coz he is a really nice person.if she has nt convinced then let her.in the earth so many sweet girls are here.so dnt think about her and keep smilling.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
4 Jul 09
I think she is just using these guys for what she can get from them and then dump them. I do not think she realises what types of men these guys really are. They are being caring to her and she seems to be disrespectful.
@Ruby722 (797)
• China
4 Jul 09
I am sorry for that guy.He pay for his really emotion but he got hurt in the end I think your friend shouldn't reject his gift on fornt of you.Cause in his shoes how ebarressed he was.and if he acted remind her of her EX boyfriend.She choose let it go and she will know that she have the responsibility for this relationship don't just like baby,it's my opinon
• United States
3 Jul 09
Poor guy! I guess the moral of the story is if you want to know exactly what your boyfriend or girlfriend likes, just ask them. My boyfriend almost bought me roses until he saw me admiring a bunch of lilies in someone's yard. A few days later, I had a bunch of lilies on my car when I got off work. It was so sweet!