Dating

@LeavaoDe (350)
United States
July 4, 2009 7:10pm CST
Hi my fellow myLotters, I have come across something I have never experienced before. It was about dating outside someone's race or religion. I had been dating someone that turned around and told me that we couldn't date anymore because I wasn't from the same race and didn't practice the same religion. He then explained that while he loved dating me and could see it going further that he couldn't do that do his parents. I didn't know what to say. Still don't. I can understand it to a point but it still hurts. Have you ever come across this before? How did you handle it? Happy myLotting!!!
1 response
@phyrre (2324)
• United States
5 Jul 09
I agree that if they know from the beginning that they're going to be violating what they believe in then they just shouldn't get in the relationship to begin with. Either that, or maybe they should reevaluate what they believe in if they really do love you and want to stay with you. I always thought it was silly to say that you can't be with someone because they're a difference race from you. I won't touch the religion aspect because my religion is my own and it doesn't affect anyone else so I have trouble understanding other people's thoughts sometimes, but I can understand believing in one thing that might conflict with a relationship with someone that doesn't believe the same thing, but don't start dating them if that's going to be an issue. The race thing, though, is silly. If it's a question of culture, that might be more understandable, but people can adapt to different cultures, not different races. We're all human beings, so why does what your race is matter? My hubby and I are considered an inter-racial relationship because I'm black and he's white, but we've grown up in the same town, similar families, same philosophies and beliefs on life, same culture, only about 5 miles apart...so why say "interracial"? Because my skin is a different color? Sorry, I couldn't help that. So I think them breaking up for a race issue is kind of a lousy excuse in my opinion, but I can definitely understand the religion. I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through this, though. It's hard to have someone break up with you. :(
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@LeavaoDe (350)
• United States
5 Jul 09
Hi. Thank you for commenting and sharing with me. :) My parents were considered a interracial couple because he was Samoan and she is white. I didn't understand then and sometimes still don't. I agree on being from different cultures because it can be learned and sometimes can be adapted too or around. The difference in race and religion are a personal thing and I can see where that can be a problem. Each person has a different view on religion and I accept the fact that it might be different then mine. I just think that they should know before hand what they want and what they are willing to do and not do for a potential relationship. Thanks, it really is. Happy myLotting!!!