how to move on after a breakup?

@cainam (493)
Philippines
July 5, 2009 9:59pm CST
don't want to talk about the details of how we broke up.. it just really hurts more when i look back to what happened.i want to forget about him as soon as posible. .some would say that i should meet someone to replace my ex boyfriend to help me move on more easily but i could'nt. i don't want to hurt someone coz i used him as a past time and i just also want to be alone right now instead of taking another chance of breaking my heart once again.. just feel bad right now. hope you could help me. tnx.
4 responses
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
6 Jul 09
I do not think that going to another boyfriend so soon would be a good idea, you need time to heal, time to forgive yourself for the broken relationship and time to get over the loss. You are at a cross roads in your life, there are going to be times of happiness, joy and sadness. Keep a positive outlook, allow yourself to cry, allow yourself to mourn the loss of the relationship and then when you have time to get over the loss and pain then start a new relationship with someone new.
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
you're right. i'm now trying what you have said and it works. maybe it will take time but i hope that i could move on soon
@censae (72)
• United States
27 Jul 09
This response is late. I hope that you have done some healing from your broken relationship. I also hope that you do not transfer those things into another relationship. The greatest hope I have for you is to you recognize that it takes two to break a relationship. Objectively, look at what you did that may have contributed to this event. I know that it may be something that you may not want to hear. Somestimes we don't act when we should have. We accept too much. We don't ask for what we need and demand that we get it. Maybe the other does not have the capacity to give what we are asking. Maybe the other was just a cad with no saving grace. You picked the person. Why? What did he bring or persent? Let the responsibilty rest on where it should be. A part of healing is putting the salve in the right place. Change what needs to be changed and keep that which is good. It will be powerful learning for you. Good luck.
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
your suggestion is the hardest but the most right thing to do.tnx
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
15 Jul 09
love yourself before you ever move on to another relationship , because if you dont you will bring that bagage , so i adivse to you and take some time for yourself.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
7 Jul 09
I don't know how I should help in your situation. If I really want to forget the one I once fall in love with, I might trying to keep myself busy. Making my mind steer away from the past, the image of the love ones. That is my suggestion, hopefully that will help you a little.
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
that's not effective as for me. i already got a work but he still in my mind all the time