If you give me a gift on my birthday, i will give you one too...if not, i don t

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
July 6, 2009 10:14am CST
This make me nervous, i hate when somebody give a gift in a special day, and after wait a gift too. Is a change of gifts? So, if i don t give you something, you never give me? Yestarday my mother tell me to buy a gift for a friend of she, because this friend when was my mother birthday, buy something... I told she that this is not a obligation, if i want to make a gift, i don t give just because somebody give me too, i give just because i want and i have something. Do you feel guilty if you don t give a gift to somebody who give you one too?
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17 responses
@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
20 Jul 09
If some one give me a gift o send me a gift, for sure I will return something for them. It can be a way to thank and appreciate their thoughtful. In the other hand, I send gift to others, but not meaning I want to get something back from them.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
20 Jul 09
I hate this barter system of gifts a lot. I don't expect gift from somebody (except my husband, that is a differnt story) on my birthday because I have given gifts to them. I always felt that people expcept gift from me if they have given me a gift. So, I have to remember their birthday and get a gift. The same applies to manmy situations in life such as wedding gift.
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
Gift giving is an art I have yet to perfect...it's a natural feeling to expect a gift in return, but don't fret if you don't actually do.
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
7 Jul 09
A gift is good to receive,but it shouldn't make you obligated to reciprocate the gesture at another time..Acknowledging a Birthday with a card or something is a nice gesture,but it shouldn't be done in the anticipation of a payback.Let Me get this clear-Your Mother's Friend gave her a gift on Her Birthday,and now She wants YOU to buy a gift for the friend on HER Birthday? It doesn't sound like this Woman is Your friend too...In a Family,Giving gifts is a custom between relations and close friends.I don't think YOU should have to give a gift to Your Mother's Friends!
@ajrox1810 (992)
• India
7 Jul 09
I also feel nervous when I am not able to give a gift to someone who gave something to me. Today's world is really selfish, and whenever someone helps someone, he expects something in return. More or less, I have been in the same trap, and I feel really nervous when I can't follow the crowd. Regards, AJ-Rox
@Courtom (288)
• Canada
7 Jul 09
Depends how you would like to be viewed. If someone give me a gift on my birthday or a special occasion, I feel obligated to give them a gift of equal value on their birthday or special occasion. If I was to give someone a gift, and did not receive one from them on my special occasion, I would feel hurt, and most likely make a mental note to not get them on in the future.
• India
7 Jul 09
Well, yup..it is a bit like business; but then, there is no unconditional love in this world. Even if the person doesn't expect you to return his/her gift, you feel like giving something in return automatically, don't you? Yes, I do feel guilty if I am always at the receiving end of gifts. I would like to give some back too. And yes, I can't always afford it. That's why I prefer people don't give me any gifts. Cheers and happy Mylotting
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
7 Jul 09
hello icesmile, I guess, it's a kind of obligation for receiving something in any occassion from someone will make me buy a gift too. Good for you for you feel that way. I wish I can do that too. This way, I'm not oblige buying something to anyone if I really don't feel like it especially when I'm out of budget.
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
7 Jul 09
well, it is always like that, isn't it??? people expect a give and take relationship nowadays and when people do some good deeds to us, they will surely expect a return in the future... always like that... this is a fallen world and majority of the people do good deeds to others expecting something in return... we can't avoid that unfortunately... take care and have a nice day...
@cwong77 (2011)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
I won't feel guilty, but definitely feel bad if I forget.. muahaha... I will tell my good friends that I am kind of forgetful and busy, so, please do not expect one.. but I will definitely buy them a meal.. :)
@eggnog (46)
• Philippines
7 Jul 09
Its not good if you give someone a gift and expect that he or she will give you too, theres a belief that "its better to give than to recieve", me, myself dont expect to give me a gift if i gave someone a gift, and i hate people with that attitude,
• India
7 Jul 09
Gifting each other is a way of expressing our affection and love and not for the sake of give and take policy according to my opinion. When you gift for your loved one or others , it shows that you still remember them and you respect and love them. Its a kind of mutual sharing of love and affection. Even though i don't receive one, i rather love to gift them one :)
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
6 Jul 09
For me, giving a bday gift to friends are not an obligation...when u feels like giving, juz do it!!
@marianna45 (1400)
• Romania
6 Jul 09
Of course not, i will give a gift if i can and want, not if somebody else give me a gift. Is not a exchange of gifts, i don t care if somebody give me or not, i will give if i want. This kind of things make me feel embarased, and i really don t like.
• India
6 Jul 09
There is nothing to feel guilty upon this .. its common to be gifted on birthday's but we should wait for any gifts in any ways....
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
for someone who is very thoughtful, it is his/her practice to send a gift on special days. i cant talk about other people. but when i give a gift, i dont expect something in return. and it is not an obligation to give when someone is celebrating something so i am not going to wait for him/her to return a gift like its a favor. no. i give gifts because i want to. a smile and the happiness i see on the face of the receiver is a wonderful consolation that i get most of the time. and i am very happy with it. ann
@jshekhar (1563)
• India
6 Jul 09
Hello icesmile, It happens all the time to us.Ideally one should not be expecting a gift if he has given a gift to someone. However, this does not happen in reality. These days, you are judged by the kind of gift you give to people and then the amount spent decides what kind of gift you get back from them.