Are your parents strict on you?

United States
July 7, 2009 3:58pm CST
A friend of mine, her father was really strict on her. She won't allowed to play outside, unless she finished what she asked to do. She couldn't be allowed to invite friends over to her house, because her father doesn't like someone else come into the house. She won't allow to talk on the phone for long conversation, unless she got the permission. Now, she grew up; she couldn't stand the strict rules her father still imposed on her. So, she moving out herself. Did she do the right thing? Would you do the same, if your parents still apply the strict rules on you after you grew up?
13 responses
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
16 Aug 10
My parents are very strict on special cases and rest cases they are fine.
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
My father lowers his strictness when we pay the price well. Don't think negatively on your parents being strict. Someday, you'll thank them for what you have become.Ü
@Jill22 (265)
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
My mother is more strict on me. He doesn't want me to marry yet. I know that I'm still too young to get married and I don't have plans yet I just don't know why she worries about that. My dad lets me experience different things in my life!
• United States
8 Jul 09
My Girlfriend did moved out the same way but to be i think that was a bad idea cause really in order for you to go to college and get a BA degree you need some type of financial help and a home to live in...right now i wish she woulf go back to her mother house that way she can go to school and everything
@ronnyb (6119)
• Jamaica
8 Jul 09
My mother tried to be strict on me with regards to playing outside and even with regards with such mannerisms .I adopted to some of these mannerisms but with regards to playing outside I was too much of a wild spirit ,I would try to conform but that would only last for a while until I got an opportunity to go out and play with my friends
@jaisundar (215)
8 Jul 09
My mother was strict about my studies in my school age. My dad not allowed me to play with boys when i just studied 5th standard. I really now feel how caring they were.
@baileycows (3669)
• United States
8 Jul 09
Not anymore since I am 28, but they never really were when i was growing up either. I mean we did what we were told, but we were always allowed to do many things.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
8 Jul 09
I'm sorry I am going to have to agree with dad on this one. He was not being strict by not letting her go out and play into she did all of the things she was asked to do. I don't think that's unfair at all. I understand that he didn't want other kids in the house as well not letting her talk on the phone for long periods of time. He was being a concerned parent. Nowadays parents don't care about their kids and let them run wild. And they we all wonder why they are acting out and doing stupid things and not having respect as kids once did. He was instilling great values on her. Yes she may think that dad was being unreasonable but she will thank him down the road. My parents were never strict on us. But they did say if you want to go out and play with your friends etc you have to do what is asked of you and then you can go out and play. It was like being rewarded for a job well done. I'm an adult now and I look back and thank them for being a little tough on me to learn respect and treat others with respect and do what is asked of me before going out and doing something else.
@Anandhh (389)
• India
8 Jul 09
my parents are not that much strict....but they will get anger suddenly....they will show anybody's anger to me if they are mood out....:(this is the thing i hate the most...regarding my parents....:(but all-in-all they are ok....
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
8 Jul 09
My parents were strict with us, we had chores to do and could not play etc till they were done as well as our homework. we were expected to be a productive part of the family. My children have chores and are expected to do the same. Their job, other than being kids, is to do their school work, do the best they can and clean their rooms
@geniustiger (1697)
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
father, not strict, democratic, normal - father, normal, upbringing
In my family experienced for me my parents are not strict. They just imposed their rules for us to be a good adults someday and somehow. I did not felt it strict, its a common rule for them to bring us up like that way so that when we become parents we are also a good citizen. And it happen now the result of their upbringing to us, we are all smoothly growing without any problem for them.
@ckyera (17344)
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
hi clorissa! actually i don't ever feel that my parents are strict to me, even on my younger years...i remember them just reminding me my limitations on whatever i am doing! they are just supportive on me, although there are times on my youth that they give me curfews which i feel is just a normal thing for parents coz they don't want anything bad to happen to their children...especially for girls... i think i am lucky to have parents like them. with regards to your friend, well i can't blame her for her dscision but i think it would be better if she talked it to her parents before she moved out...as a respect. and for parents, i think it is also not nice to be too strict to their children coz this can push their children to rebellion and that is not good! have a nice day!
• United States
7 Jul 09
I would move out. If you are an adult, then you should not be treated like a child unless you act like one. Her parents need to give her more freedoms. She is not there little girl anymore, but a grownup and they cannot expect her to act like a child.