My WIFE/HUBBY is not my true love

@tomjoad (551)
Philippines
July 13, 2009 8:53pm CST
true love. the say it's hard to find. some say they've searched a lifetime just to find that perfect mate and lost it in an instant. others, fell in love instantly and they spent a lifetime together. true love, how amazing. have you found true love? or will you ever find it? is the one you have now your true love? or did she slip away you have lost her forever? is the one you have now, your wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, your true love? or he/she is already gone forever and all you have left are regrets?
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@lucy67 (819)
• China
14 Jul 09
true love can exist between two persons for some time but it's hard to be there forever. it's certain that there is such a thing as true love in the world but perhaps only a few people are lucky enough to find it. everything keeps changing so do our feelings. true love seems to be a beautiful goal which we keep seeking for but it's hard to reach.
• China
14 Jul 09
Yes,I quite agree with you.Different people have different ideas about what is trur love.I also believe that there is true love in the world but not every one can find it.Some couples lived together sinced they married and have a family like other's,but they maintain the marriage just for the children.In this case,we can not find the true love between the couples.Some couples divorced after married sevral years,the rasson is that they find the present wife or husban is not suit themselves,they want to find their true love in the world.In that case,maybe they themselves can understand what is true love in the world or otherwise. Yes,everything changes in the world including our feelings.When it wil change,we can not control.
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• United States
14 Jul 09
That's quite an eye-catching title! I have found my soul mate, and have been married to him for nearly 8 years. I grew up with him, actually, and we were good friends before we even thought of each other in a romantic sense. When I was younger I used to dream about finding the kind of love that people find in the movies. That kind of love might exist, yes, but eventually it fades into love that's less volatile; love that will last forever. I know my husband and I will be together forever. I dated a lot when I was younger, because I wanted to make sure I found the absolute best match for me. No one measured up to my husband. No one understands me like he does. We're a perfect match!
• India
14 Jul 09
I dont what is your defination of true love. But not going in details i have received true love from everyone who cares me. I have very nice and beautiful wife which was not of my type initially but later i found her perfect for me. Sometimes perfect match doesn't mean both should have same hobbies or behaviour and it is true in my case. After 4 years of bonding we both feel comfortable with each other and just love each other like lovers. God bless us more.... Happy mylotting!!
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@tomjoad (551)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
yes you have a point there. i know that you can have true love from your family. like the unconditional love you have from your parents and your siblings. what i'm referring to here, is the love you have for a wife/husband/bf/gf. the reason why i asked is because a friend told me that usually, people to not marry their greatest love. they said that if given a chance, if they could only turn back time they would have married their one true and greatest love: THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY.
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• India
14 Jul 09
Thankfully I have been happily married to the true love of my life for 12yrs now and I know how precious it is to me. It is indeed sad when we cant hold on to our true loves or cant express ourselves at the opportune moment. However, I believe marriage is more about companionship and commitment than love...after a certain period, love is less and friendship is more...so for all those couples who have not been able to marry thier true loves, I think they should give their marriage a genuine try.
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• Philippines
14 Jul 09
I think true is in a couple who is true to each other. And yes it is hard to find someone who you can really be true to. I think to find it you, you just have to be true to yourself and your love one. Me, i have found my true love. But sadly he found someone else. I guess some true love doesn't last. You just have to cherish the feeling of "truly in love" And yes there is regrets. But i i believe things happen for a reason. and life is about moving on. Happy mylotting! =)
@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
14 Jul 09
I'm not sure if there is one true love or one soul mate, because we all have our own idiosyncrasies, and there will always be misunderstandings and disagreements no matter who we are with.
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@Thelmaxt (14)
• China
15 Jul 09
We had known each other when we were in high school. So there are about ten years until now. Before we entered in university, we had been friends simply.At that time I believed our relationship was just like that, even I liked him ! But I knew well he wasn't my Mr.right. Our characters wre so different and our hobbies wre hard to change. I tried to not to contact him for a long time. Until on a weekend afternoon when I was in senior, everything did develop without my control. His left foot was fractured when he had played basketball and he hadn't gone in shcool for about one week. As I got this news, I hurriedly came to see him. In his house, we talked, we laughed, we wathced Tv, and then, we kissed. It developed naturally.Yes, it was so sweet that I have remembered this scene after these years, and if could, I would rather than the time coul stop at that time. It seemed go aroung very well at very two months. But after that, everything became abnormal.We had so little common to communicate. He likeed to go with his friends but never took with me. When we were together, I seldom to talk. I did't know why, I just wanted to listen to his talking. When he was hurted by my immature behavior, he just left me alone for three or four days and resumed nothing had happened. Bur I could feel obviously, our dates wre less and less, his telephone wre seldom to call me,the texting wre returned for a time. I reckoned this was our destinate.And then, we broke up. I had a long time to forget this experience,but things didn't turn out the way I wanted.I didn't konw why I didn't let him gone from my heart. Our memoty, sadness is more than happiness. My tears can't help flowing the moment I recollected. I gradually get palpability, he is the one. That period, just he is in my side, not any other one. He is right person, but we met in wrong time. He gave me many precious experience that others couldn't.I don't know whether love him. I can't undertake more about him.
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
14 Jul 09
Now thats something I have always been mindful of. Id certainly be quite uset to find I am not married to my true love. I have seen so couples who are obviously not suited for each other and are not each others true partner. I would hate for that to happen to me. My hubby should be my soulmate and should be his. I should be able to look at and smile at the guy in good times and in bad times. I know that this as been my main reason for not settling down as yet. My male friends are dare and precious to me but I am areful to select someone I know I truly love and who loves me the same. So many friends seem to lose their love for their partner somewhere along the way.
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@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
14 Jul 09
tomjoad, I wonder if you understand the term AMBIGUITY and if you do, then I am really in this mode right now as I read your post here. Sorry, BUT ARE YOU TELLING ALL OF US THAT YOUR WIFE IS NOT YOUR TRUE LOVE? or YOUR HUSBAND IS NOT YOUR TRUE LOVE? Which is which my ambiguous one ? Really, I am confused. What really happened before the 2 planets collided for the both of you? What went on that brought about the story of the year here for you? I am really confused here and my comments rather than response here is to seek some understanding on my part here. You may not represent the majority who have found their true love and that their spouses are their true love indeed. How? Well, I suppose that will be another start of their discussion, but for now, let's hear more about yours. Alright?
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
It's really really hard to explain true love because i never got the chance to explain it myself because i never had a chance of experiencing one. you will never know until your heart beats.
@meyows (438)
• India
15 Jul 09
We should feel really lucky to have a true lover as our husband or wife. Many will not be blessed with this, but yet they adjust with life.