Do You See Any Sincerity If A Person Apologizes Through Phone Call Or By SMS?

apologize - Do You See Any Sincerity If A Person Apologizes Through Phone Call Or By SMS?
Philippines
July 14, 2009 10:55am CST
I just would like to get the opinion of each and everyone. I just want to know if you find a person sincere in apologizing if he/ she do it over the phone or through SMS? With this, for me the person is not sincere. If he/ she is really worried to the person that he/ she hurt, he/ she can approach him/her personally. What about you? What is your idea on this? Will you forgive someone if he/ she just apologize or over the phone or through SMS? Share what you have on your mind.Share what you feel. Did you experience this?happy mylotting!!
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28 responses
• Indonesia
14 Jul 09
I think it's ok if someone first apologize through phone call or sms. If there's no time to meet, the fastest way to say sorry is by telephone,, so we are no wandering this person is feel sorry or not while waiting him/her to come and apologize. Then, there's people who prefer not to answer phone call from the one who hurts him/her heart, so sms is ok for this case. at least he/she can read the apologize. Finally, approach personally and prove what you've talked on phone or sms that you're really sory. So I think combine method (phone, sms and meet) is the best..
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Okay you have a point on that. thanks for sharing your opinion.
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
Hi rberon, seems that you took out your avatar,eh. am not sure if you remember me, but doesn't matter. for me, it depends on a person but i think i appreciate it if they do apologize through call because it feels like lazy dazy if they just apologize through SMS only.
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
Are you a member of mylot before? Is this your second account? as much as I want to remember you, I can't. Can you please tell me who you are?
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• Philippines
14 Jul 09
Like i said..doesn't matter.have a great day.
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
14 Jul 09
It will depend on what the person is saying they are sorry for, it is something simple, sure, I will be fine with it, if it is serious and they want me to forgive them I will text back either call me or meet me somewhere but I am not talking about this on text. IT has not happen to me btw but that's how I would handle it.
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
Okay, you are right. you have a point on that. it depends on what he/ she will have to say. We can feel if one person is really sincere or not on what he / she is saying.
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
14 Jul 09
It depends also on why they are sorry for, like I am sorry for not answering your text message right away, is ok, I am sorry I crash your car, not ok, you better call me and tell me where my car is I do not even have a car and I am upset at the thought
• India
15 Jul 09
Well maybe I am soft in nature and an escapist too, but I would accept an SMS apology if I know the person who has sent it. first and foremost, let me say that I take a ‘sorry’ very seriously i.e. I don’t think it’s a frivolous word, once a person says ‘sorry’ it has to come from within and takes a lot of courage to admit that yes, I am wrong. And to do it personally, in front of the person to whom you are apologizing, takes all the more effort and strength. Not everybody can do so…mostly its ego that comes in between. So many people want to say sorry, but feel embarrassed to do so and sent it thru SMS. If I ever receive any apology thru SMS I’ll accept it coz at least the person is making an effort to admit the mistake. If its over phone, its all the more better and acceptable to me.
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
It's good to hear that you can apologize at once. there are some people that they are affected by their pride.they feel embarrassed when they say sorry. thanks for sharing, may you have a great day!
• Jamaica
15 Jul 09
I believe it depends on the severity of the incident - if somebody wrecked my car, as I read in a previous post, then of course a personal apology is appropriate. However, I find it difficult in some situations to personally apologize to people, and this view may also be shared by other shy myLotters out there. In such cases SMS or a telephone call (I personally prefer SMS) serves as a convenient way to relay the apology. Another thing to consider is whether the person who is apologizing to you lives close to, or far from you. :)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Very good point. You are right that it should be a case to case basis. If it has destroyed your car, personal apology is really needed.
• India
15 Jul 09
I dont see any sincerity if persom is apologize through sms.It is better if we approach and apologize to the person infront of them.If u feel some shame you can make a call.Aplolgizing through sms and phone is not effective.The opposite person wil think that you are just lieng orelse ur acting.In my opinion it is better option to approach them and say "sorry".After all mistakes are done by human being.
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
we actually have the same idea. You are right that we cannot see the sincerity of the person if don't apologize personally.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
14 Jul 09
OH and what if he comes to see you, and you snap his head off? That is why some people do not apologize in person. They are afraid that you will get very angry and say nasty things to them instead of saying "it's all right. I already forgotten about it," (which is probably a lie, but you say it because you do not want the other person to be wracked with guilt for the remainder of his life and you are basically a nice person.) I would forgive the person if he or she called me on the phone, or emailed me. I would understand why he or she would not want to approach me. Also that email might explain their reasonings and I could email back telling him their reason was wrong and eventually get him to change his attitude.
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
Okay, our opinion doesn't much. For me, saying sorry or apologizing through phone or through SMS is not sincere, but i have to respect your opinion. Actually you have point on it. To avoid some physical injuries, since we cannot control each other's feelings and emotions.
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
15 Jul 09
i don't really believe in people apologising over the phone, they might not be sincere about it, it will be ideal if they apologise publicly and appear physically in person rather than saying it over the phone, if a person apologise physically it will show how sincere he or she is
• United Arab Emirates
15 Jul 09
I don't think its fair to the other person who has to forgive. Sincere apology, I feel should be heart felt and honest but most off all face to face. Its difficult to know actual intentions otherwise. Moreover whats the point in resieving an sms, saying 'I'm Sorry,' I don't think it makes any sense, since the hurt still lingers.
@subha12 (18463)
• India
15 Jul 09
it depends on the situation and the matter. If its something I can be pleased, its ok with me. If not so much serious, why not. Plus now calling in phones is like talking personally to me. If the matter is too serious, then may be its bette rto talk personally.
@mces0925 (196)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Before I am very sensitive I want a personal apology but it's different now.It's no longer an issue weather he/she said sorry thru text, call or mail. Actually, I really don't expect one person to do that. My concern is myself I would like to forgive the person as soon as possible even without hearing sorry. I don't entertained burden and my anger is gone.
@JOIEMARVIC (2342)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
For me it depends upon who the person is and what his/her mistake is. Some problems can be easily worked out through the phone and some are not. If a person asks forgiveness from me thru a phonecall or a SMS message and I feel the need of still talking to him/her personally to resolve our differences, i would ask him/her to talk personally with me.
@scooby29 (239)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
ABSOLUTELY NOW! because sometimes sending SMS or phone call may lead to misunderstand right? the WORD apologizing most have effort so that to who you are apologizing will forgive you because of the effort! am i correct?
@daliaj (5689)
• India
15 Jul 09
I think both the ways are sincere. I don't think a person can say 'sorry' whatever be the way of saying it, only when he really appoligize about the issue. But, the feel you get varies. You will get the real feel when somebody apologizes directly than sending it as a text message or telling it over phone.
@bing28 (3800)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
There can be a sincerity if he apologize thru phone. It's really better if apologizing personally but if the phone is the only way for an immediate apology, there can be a sincerity depending on the real intention of the one apologizing.
@zhuhuifen46 (3487)
• China
15 Jul 09
Face to face apology needs much more courage, and the thought of possible rejection from the other side might cause him to give up. A phone call or remote comunication will not cause such problem. Personally, I accept whatever the approach as long as regret is expressed. I believe an understanding attitude might help mend the gap, which is good for both sides.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
15 Jul 09
I know that it is very hard for some people to appologize. I would be ok with the phone call. Not sure what SMS is but any attempt to appologize would be ok with me. I'm pretty open to any means of communication as long as the person was attempting to communicate and especially in a situation like this. They are going out of their way to contact me and appologize so I'd assume that they must be feeling something otherwise they'd just let it go.
@xichen7 (153)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
For me, I think I will not believe somebody apologize by sms is sincerity. Because you don't know what he/she think, just some word in sms. At least, I will not accept this kind of apologize. But apologize through phone call I can accept. If you recieve a call, you can judge from the voice, you can get his/her emotion at that time.
@agrant24 (38)
• Jamaica
14 Jul 09
I don't see any sincerity if a person apologizes through phone or by SMS. Reason being is that you don't see the facial expression, they just do it because a friend or a family member told them to do so. If that person feel realy sorry for what he/she has done they would want to come face to face with that individual to apologize. For me I will forgive them based on the situation for example if that person is in a different country I would not have any second thought in forgiving that person, because in such a situation it would be difficult for that person to apologize in person. For me,I have had experience were persons had apologize face to face but not all persons will do so. Happy mylotting!
• United States
14 Jul 09
I just had this happen where my insane cousin accused me of saying things I never said. She told her mom she was going to apologize by leaving a voicemail and an email for me, I said that won't cut it. She finally apologized but I still don't believe her psycho butt. Apologizing over the phone, computer, or whatever is not a nice way of saying sorry.