My Ex Has Still Not Paid Me The Money The Court Ordered Him To Pay
By dfinster
@dfinster (3528)
United States
July 14, 2009 9:35pm CST
A lot of you know about my divorce. For two weeks he refused to pay the phone or internet bill so they were cut off. He said they didn't need to pay them because he didn;t use the land-line or internet even though he knew I used it for school which made me miss another quarter of school because by the time I got into the apartment it was right before fourth of July weekend so I couldn't pay my $200 book fee and even thought I paid it the first day of classes, even with begging and pleading they are making me wait know until October. Basically I have to wait over a year longer now to graduate. He did it all and even cut off my cell all before he should have done. Now I have a court order of a lousy $00/mo and my rent is $450 and it's just a tiny little place. No more unemployment but I thnk I may land a job soon, but here he's having pool parties and hasn't paid me even half and has only given me me about $360 between June 1st when it was supposed to be $400 the first of the month.
He's been working cash construction jobs and I just wish there was a way to find out where he's working for cash and get some pictures. Any idea how I can go after the money that should be mine. I can't afford a private investigator, but I can't drive, I'm sure someone would but how would I get any idea where he's doing these jobs?
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10 responses
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Its hard to trace him since he is being paid by cash, I do hope that can you can track him down and you can get a decent paying job for you to get caught up, I know how it feels when you got unpaid bills as I do have my own unpaid bills as well..
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@ladymoonstone143 (1507)
• United States
15 Jul 09
Try to look for employment agencies that take day laborers and pay them cash that day. Or if you know any of his friends, you can ask for info. It is quite hard to gather evidence if there is no paper trail. Cash can't be trace once it goes out of his hand. Hopefully he will come to his senses that he needed to pay you. Goodluck with the possible new job.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
15 Jul 09
He is a dirty rotten stinkin skunk. He will get his, what comes around goes around. I wish I had some good advice for you, I do want to wish you good luck though. Good luck also with the possible job, I hope you get it. BTW, thanks for BR on that other discussion. Take care.
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
15 Jul 09
I hate the idea of having to face him in court of Friday. I meet with my lawyer Thursday to put together a budget for the Friday court date so Hopefully things will go well with that, but I just don't want to see him. I'm gonna do my best not to even look at him, I don't know what kind of feeling will be stirred up if I do and he better not bring his ex-wife like he did last night or my temper will probably fly our of control.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi dfinster I can see for myself why you divorced this 'jerk'
of a husband. I think you can get a lawyer for almost nothing if you can find one who will listen to your problems and work'
pro bono. Have you by any chance friends or relatives who might be lawyers that could help you or know some lawyer who would be willing to do a pro bono case? Also you might check and see if there is a legal aid society in your vicinity who could help you or would know who could help you? hope this helps.
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
15 Jul 09
It's really hard because he's sneaky. Like he makes 30-40,000 a year doing cash construction jobs and he's been hording that money and saying the check from his other job is barely enough to pay the bills or his $1,512/mo mortage. He did all that money crap not me I wasn't allowed a checking account. He had 100% control over bank and checking account, my name wasn't even on them and I had no idea where they were. So he's really sneaky.
@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
15 Jul 09
Tough situation you are in. In my divorce my ex was also to pay past bills etc. Guess what he didn't pay any of them, I ended up paying them because they were freezing my bank account. It wasn't easy to do still I had no choice. With help I was able to get it done so I could get my account back. I hope you are able to get the job so you can get your life back.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Your ex sounds like piece of work. How awful? This so common with men. They obtain jobs that cannot be track instead of paying child support etc. If you are still unemployed, you can look at this site. It is http://www.ratracerebellion.com, good luck to you. I have being in your shoes, and believe me it will get better.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
20 Jul 09
you need to mention this cash paying job to your lawyer
the hardest part is to proof it but your lawyer must know someone who can help
every cell phone has gps number, you should be able to track him because he doesn't use landline anyway
cash paying jobs are hard to track because either businesses or individuals can do that, the only way is to basically follow him and gps can be really helpful
if he has full time job, your best bet is that he does cash paying jobs in the weekend so track him down in the weekend
how does he pay his bills? if he pays by cash, then the companies must have a record that he pays by cash, not check or credit card
then your lawyer should get a bank statement, see if he draws any money out
and compare it to the dates he pays his bills
plus the bank statement will show any money he deposits not by check
hope this helps
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Most likely, at tax time, if he still owes you money, it will be taken out of his taxes if he has any kind of return. If he's anything like my ex, he doesn't care and likes to hear the begging (so I never did) but when they find out you got their tax return for money owed to you, they usually try to keep up, because after that happens, no one likes getting a zero tax return when they're expectitng more than nothing.
@asweetie (1187)
• India
25 Sep 09
[b][/b]hi dfinster,
Well if court has ordered him to pay you 400 dollars a month, then he has to pay you four hundred dollars every month , he likes it or not and if he has it or not. This is not your headache if he doesnt have the money. As far as i know in India if he doesnt pay then you can put up an application in court which ordered him to pay you this amount of 400 dollars . You can put it as CONTEMPT OF COURT . The court would call him and would make sure he pays and if he doesnt pay even then regularly then court can order police to auction his house, order his employer to pay you directly from his pay or simply can put him in jail for 15 days to 3 months for first time offense if he says he wont pay.
